Leo Gura

What Makes A Good Man?

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- Stoic (most of the time)

- Calm

- Focused on their craft, ambitious

- Principled, ethical

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Other than the ones mentioned:
- able to connect to his inner child,
- able to not always be serious, able to be joyful,
- able to embrace his cute side

 

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In the Vast Expanse everything that arises is Lively Awakened Awareness.

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12 minutes ago, soos_mite_ah said:

I have one

A good man proactively protects by creating a safe place for the people around him and those he loves. He creates an environment where people can authentically express themselves and be vulnerable by setting up a foundation of empathy and respect for everyone involved 

Nice!

I wanna hear more female views on this topic.


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What makes a great man?

The size of his dick, his height, the size of his bank account, his life experiences of course (!), genetics play a role, also "good for who?" has to be asked "his collegues on Wall Street or his customers and world at large?", his sexuality also plays a role, then there is so many other details, like how strong is he, where is he from, what does he do for a living, is he cheating on his wife or someone else, is he a liar that harms others or someone that wishes everyone the best, is he saintly as a rich person cause he definitelly cannot be as a poor one, etc. I'll add to this list later on...

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Do you mean man as in gender or man as in human being? It looks like you mean gender, but I wanna make sure.

In any case, I don't think I could help because I've decided to be non-binary. Also, I was never a good man in the first place.

EDIT: Perhaps we could say a good man always thinks he doesn't know anything.

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Added extra comment at the end

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What makes a grat man?

His social circle and family also make a great man! Without a good social circle and a family that loves him, he's fucked up.

Also, luck plays a huge part. Luck makes a great man.

 

But for someone to be called a great man by me, he would have to be much more than just the above stuff I mentioned.

Of course, sometimes such great men or good men aren't recognized, other times they are called saints. Great men for me are good men. Good men are men that are really good. I don't know, it's hard to say.

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Understanding, integrity, courage, sensible charitability, never falsely brag. Overplaying / underplaying your achievements is poison ..

which comes down to being able to see that your emotions are not yourself. 

I'm not talking about suppressing them, just being the witness.

A real man is prone to no self insight, being successful with women, making a nice living, being well read, .... 

(Having those things doesn't guarantee being a man, since he may have sacrificed his integrity to get there)

And honest about areas where he sucks.

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2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

There are great men and then there are fakers and degenerates.

This is your perspective. Fakers of what? 

What is a great man to one, can be just a loser to the next. Perhaps what is considered a great man is a person of strong-standing similar morals to that of the collective he is in. Which then you could arguably say a great man is a man that is morally adaptable/flexible, given his environment. Perhaps a great man is a man that fights for the morals of the collective through which he stands within. Can a man be considered great without strong morals? Especially without strong morals that are similar to that of the community he lives amongst?

A man is great by means of his own meaning of great, & his own meaning of man. 

What do I personally consider a great man? My first thought is that a great man is a person that is the embodiment of strength, wisdom, safety, & creativity. With that wisdom comes a deep understanding of what it's like to live in a biologically-male body, & how that body interprets the world differently than that of any other biological type. With wisdom comes experience, intelligent understanding, & awareness. With strength comes perseverance & determination. With strength also comes a means of power, allowing for safety to encompass those around him. With creativity comes adaptability, curiosity, & inspiration for continued growth. Of course you have to consider that wisdom is so subjective, a thing is only wise by means of whomever is determining the validity of that wisdom's truth. So it is implied that one must have decided understanding of what they see to be true, for them to be wise.

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I would say to be good the more aware you are the gooder you can be - with intelligence and awareness you can see more and deeper options and with the wisdom to back it up to do the gooder choice will make you a very very good man.

most people can be very bad just because they are unaware of the suffering they give to other people or even themselves

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A man that goes after what he wants

A man that knows who he is 

A man that has certainty and purpose

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Isn't good just a value judgement?

When you call someone a "good man" it's being said relative to your definition of good; the man is good for you (or the collective in general). The man is good by how his actions and, or, words benefit you or others you care about. This in turns indicates he shares your values and ideals: he's one of you.

You could also call yourself "good" as a man without external validation, because you have a strong sense of what good means to you, and you can see that you stick to your own ideals.

There might be universally agreed "good" traits, such as compassion, helping others, putting yourself out for others, leading in times of strife, handing down knowledge, defending your group, and so on.

In all cases "good" is relative. But there is a general sense of good as being the reduction of suffering.


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@LastThursday You're getting too absolutist. There is an important relative matter at hand.

Every young man should ask himself the question: How do I become a good man?

Don't overthink this with your nondual God-logic.

Edited by Leo Gura

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2 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Every young man should ask himself the question: How do I become a good man?

What about taking gender out of it and instead ask how can I be a good person? How can I do good? How can I live a good life? How can I live like God?


Meditation is a lifestyle of developing a calm state of mind WHILE engaging in one’s ambitions!

Counting your breaths, chanting a mantra, and the rest of it is all ratshit and a complete waste of time. What is stopping you from meditating WHILE working on your life purpose?

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Weird question like you don't know... , it's obviously all about consciousness. The higher your consciousness the better man you are, now you can imagine these qualities yourself. High consciousness/good man have a warm/loving/presence energy around them that you can actually feel. Most questions that you have can be answered with consciousness.

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6 minutes ago, r0ckyreed said:

What about taking gender out of it and instead ask how can I be a good person? How can I do good? How can I live a good life? How can I live like God?

Of course you can generalize it.

But there are some things a man needs to focus on more than women.


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3 hours ago, Fred Fulton said:

Love and suffering  - if that’s what you’re asking ?

wtf haha

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Someone who doesn't let his emotions dictate his actions, who isn't emotionally reactive. Someone who is able to take a step back, be present and apply his reason and logic and use his judgement in a tough situation. Including emergencies. 

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