How should one look at flaking from females

[mr_engineer]

4 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

Educated women don't need men (in their own eyes)

That's even dumber. 

I keep bringing this up cuz when push comes to shove, a stupid person is going to hold you back. 

5 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

Only way a woman won't flake on you is if you have overcompensating power. For example if you are high social profile, physical strength, or make good money, or some other kind of symbol of power. In that case she will move the world to not flake on you.

That's shallow. Change the crowd you hang out with. Go to New-Age communities. The women there are truly embodying their femininity. 

6 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

Women are actually very simple if you stop listening to them and just look at what they are attracted to.

That's low in self-awareness. Go for women who kinda know themselves, to have some compatibility. If you don't do that, they'll sabotage the relationship unconsciously cuz they're codependent and resentful. 

7 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

These therapist bitch has a tons of clients, so I'm just a number for her (i.e I don't have power over her) so she treated me like shit. Only when I used my power and stopped my therapy contract with her she waked up and started respecting me.

I learned more from this bitch from this ordeal than being 2 months with her.

I'm telling you, don't deal with people who don't respect you or else you'll resent them and then you'll curse them, which isn't good long-term. 

See the harsh realities about people but don't demonize them for it. They're unconscious and they have their own struggles. 

[Lyubov]

Stop thinking about this and stop looking for some silly mental model or belief to explain everything that happens. It’s a waste of your time and mental energy. 

Your entire energy should be going towards understanding yourself and understanding any beliefs that are keeping you from living in your flow and going out to socialize, or from doing whatever else you wish to do. 

It’s that simple but it’s the heavy lifting. Stop distracting yourself. This does nothing to get you laid or even understand anything you need to understand. 

[StarStruck]

1 hour ago, Lyubov said:

Stop thinking about this and stop looking for some silly mental model or belief to explain everything that happens. It’s a waste of your time and mental energy. 

Your entire energy should be going towards understanding yourself and understanding any beliefs that are keeping you from living in your flow and going out to socialize, or from doing whatever else you wish to do. 

It’s that simple but it’s the heavy lifting. Stop distracting yourself. This does nothing to get you laid or even understand anything you need to understand. 

I’m just back from a night out. You are so right. I’m wasting my energy by wanting to mentally understand the world. 
My energy should go towards observing my inner world and understanding myself. 
 

 

[StarStruck]

@mr_engineer yesterday I was very angry so what I said yesterday should be taken with a grain of salt. I think Lyubov gave some good advice and which direction I should focus my attention. 

[Lyubov]

9 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

I’m just back from a night out. You are so right. I’m wasting my energy by wanting to mentally understand the world. 
My energy should go towards observing my inner world and understanding myself. 
 

 

It’s basically the reason why pick up guys are able to make so many videos. There are a lot of guys who just want to try and understand something that can’t ever be understood in its entirety. Why do women flake? Cause they can. Where does a 300kg gorilla sit? Where ever it wants to. The best thing you can probably do now is rest up and start making some plans to go out this weekend.  

Edited January 20, 2023 by Lyubov

[StarStruck]

6 hours ago, Lyubov said:

It’s basically the reason why pick up guys are able to make so many videos. There are a lot of guys who just want to try and understand something that can’t ever be understood in its entirety. Why do women flake? Cause they can. Where does a 300kg gorilla sit? Where ever it wants to. The best thing you can probably do now is rest up and start making some plans to go out this weekend.  

Psychology tries to explain why people and animals do what they want to do. It is good to know some psychology though. But I’m definitely overinvesting in mental models. It is better to invest that energy in getting flow to learn through direct experience. 

[Ulax]

@StarStruck Its also imo because women are socialised to be more agreeable than men. So, a hard no is more likely for a man than for a womann. A woman is more likely to be more subtle in rejecting someone else's advances.