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Meditation On Steroids - How To Get The FASTEST Meditation Gains
https://youtu.be/cub6kY0oHZc

  • Meditation technique called Strong Determination Sitting can supercharge existing meditation practice
  • Technique learned from Zen master Shinzen Young, who studied various spiritual traditions
  • Zen tradition is a proponent of Strong Determination Sitting
  • Western cultures generally ignorant about capabilities of human mind and consciousness
  • Example of meditation endurance in Marathon Monks of Mount Hiei in Japan
  • Vow of celibacy and isolation for 12 years
  • 100-day cycle each year where they walk or run 30-60 km in one day in straw sandals, while meditating towards enlightenment and not eating, drinking, resting, or sleeping
  • Some years require 200 days of this, equivalent to running one marathon 100 times in a row or a double marathon
  • Strong Determination Sitting involves focusing on a single object for an extended period of time
  • Can be any object, such as a candle flame or a mantra
  • Focusing on object helps train the mind to be more resilient and able to handle stress
  • Can start with just a few minutes and gradually increase the time
  • Key is to not get too attached to the object or the meditation itself, but rather to use it as a tool to cultivate mindfulness and acceptance
  • Can also use Strong Determination Sitting in combination with other meditation techniques, such as Vipassana or Loving-Kindness meditation
  • Goal of meditation is to merge with reality and attain levels of happiness and bliss not normally experienced by ordinary humans
  • Western worldview may not accept this idea
  • Happiness can be achieved through discipline and training, such as practicing meditation and living the monk lifestyle
  • Western methods of seeking happiness, such as accumulating wealth or pursuing pleasure, may not be effective
  • People who cannot sit still and be happy for an hour may be in a poor psychological state and unable to find lasting happiness
  • Meditative techniques, such as Vipassana, can help cultivate mindfulness, acceptance, and a sense of oneness with the present moment
  • This can lead to greater happiness and well-being in daily life
  • It is important to have a strong foundation in meditation before attempting more advanced techniques, such as merging with reality
  • Building this foundation involves regular practice and patience, as well as addressing any emotional or psychological issues that may arise during meditation
  • Enlightenment involves the ability to be fully present in the moment without resistance and to have a complete experience of reality without a self
  • Degrees of Enlightenment and mindfulness exist, and can be developed through dedicated practice over a long period of time
  • Advanced practitioners can perform feats such as sitting through a root canal without novocain or sitting for extended periods of time without motion
  • These feats involve being able to tolerate and even find pleasure in pain and suffering by reducing resistance to 0
  • Strong Determination Sitting technique involves sitting through physical pains and discomforts in order to have a breakthrough moment where suffering is released
  • Western notions of pain and suffering may not accurately reflect how they actually function
  • To be truly happy, it is necessary to be able to tolerate and accept pain and suffering, rather than constantly trying to avoid them

 

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The Grand Model Of Psychological Evolution - Clare Graves & Spiral Dynamics
https://youtu.be/23aDNBvn_2g

  • The Grand model of psychological evolution and Spiral Dynamics is a model that explains how the human psyche develops both for individuals and societies
  • It suggests that there is a well-trodden path that human beings have followed for thousands of years, and that understanding this path can help individuals self-actualize and evolve to their fullest potential
  • The model can be used to understand why humans behave in certain ways and why there are social problems and conflicts
  • The model is based on the work of Claire Graves and the ideas of Beck and Cohen, and also incorporates ideas from Ken Wilber and Eben Pagan
  • The model suggests that the human psyche goes through predictable stages of development, and that these stages are characterized by certain value systems and worldviews
  • Each stage of development is associated with a specific set of needs, values, and motivations, and individuals may fluctuate between different stages throughout their lives
  • The model can be used to understand how individuals and societies evolve and change, and to predict future developments in human psychology and society
  • The model has been applied in a variety of fields including psychology, sociology, education, and business.
  • Introduction to the Grand Model of Psychological Evolution and why it is important
  • Explanation of the beige stage, characterized by basic survival and meeting basic biological needs
  • Description of the transformational dilemma in the beige stage, which is the need to interact and survive collectively with other organisms
  • Introduction to the purple stage, characterized by being part of a tribe and living in a primitive and mysterious world
  • Description of the transformational dilemma in the purple stage, which is the need to create and maintain order within the tribe
  • Introduction to the red stage, characterized by a focus on power, dominance, and the will to survive
  • Description of the transformational dilemma in the red stage, which is the need to find a balance between individual desires and the needs of the group
  • Introduction to the blue stage, characterized by a focus on tradition, rules, and hierarchy
  • Description of the transformational dilemma in the blue stage, which is the need to find meaning and purpose in life
  • Introduction to the orange stage, characterized by a focus on achievement, success, and rational thought
  • Description of the transformational dilemma in the orange stage, which is the need to balance individual success with the well-being of the larger society
  • Introduction to the green stage, characterized by a focus on community, equality, and environmentalism
  • Description of the transformational dilemma in the green stage, which is the need to find harmony and balance within oneself and with the world
  • Introduction to the yellow stage, characterized by a focus on integration, complex thinking, and higher consciousness
  • Description of the transformational dilemma in the yellow stage, which is the need to balance individual development with the development of the collective
  • Introduction to the turquoise stage, characterized by a focus on global consciousness, interconnectedness, and spirituality
  • Description of the transformational dilemma in the turquoise stage, which is the need to balance individual growth with the growth of the entire planet and all its inhabitants.
  • Some societies have experienced chaos, lawlessness, and gangsterism that makes it hard to build a civilization
  • Building a civilization requires a shift in the psyche from self to other and a focus on tradition, rule of law, heritage, family, and obedience
  • This type of society has strong beliefs in good and evil, a single true God and religion, and cultural monotarism (the belief that only one culture is valid)
  • There is a sense of cultural superiority and a view of the world as simple and rational with clear categories of right and wrong
  • Disagreements or challenges to traditional beliefs may be met with punishment, exile, or death
  • This type of thinking is characteristic of "blue" stage societies
  • Higher stage societies may view "blue" stage societies with disdain and view their traditions and beliefs as primitive or oppressive
  • It is important to recognize and understand different stage societies in order to have empathy and avoid conflict
  • Materialism does not lead to happiness
  • Selfishness can hurt other people
  • Orange behavior (materialism, selfishness) can lead to destruction of resources and pollution
  • Realization that orange behavior is not sustainable or beneficial for society or the planet
  • Need for a new way of thinking and living, beyond orange and blue ideologies
  • Individual development and consciousness can lead to a more holistic and sustainable way of living
  • Explanation of different stages of personal development, represented by colors: Red, Blue, Orange, and Yellow
  • Yellow represents highest level of personal development, characterized by:
  • High priority on knowledge and multiple perspectives
  • High priority on competency over bureaucracy and rank
  • Extremely open minded, requiring high levels of personal development to achieve
  • Understanding that each level of development believes it is the right one and that there are multiple levels
  • Aware that Yellow itself is a stage and that there is another level above it
  • Willing to face and overcome transformational dilemmas to move to the next level
  • Examples of people who embody Yellow characteristics: Eben Pagan, Tim Ferriss, Jocko Willink
  • Yellow is a very small percentage of the population due to the high levels of personal development required to reach it
  • Yellow is perceived as relativistic and philosophical by those at lower stages of development.
  • Evolution is happening and certain societal structures (represented by beige, purple, and red) are not sustainable
  • The world is shifting towards a "yellow" way of thinking
  • Yellow thinking involves giving up the belief in absolute truths and seeing the world as a collection of perspectives
  • Dogma and belief in one's beliefs can hold a person back
  • To evolve towards yellow, one can try experiencing different ways of life or hanging around people with different perspectives
  • Yellow thinking involves seeing the world in more shades of gray and coming up with systems to solve problems
  • Open mindedness is important for personal and societal growth
  • The speaker will continue to discuss open mindedness and encourage it in their work.

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Being A Spiritual Seeker, Good or Bad
https://youtu.be/nCv416ofSGQ

  • Being a spiritual seeker is a topic of confusion for many people
  • There are two traps people fall into with spiritual seeking:
  • Stereotyping spiritual seekers as desperate or sheep-like
  • Dismissing the journey or dissuading others from seeking spirituality
  • There are conflicting opinions on the value or difficulty of spiritual seeking:
  • Some believe that seeking is unnecessary because enlightenment is already present
  • Others claim that enlightenment is easy to achieve
  • Some argue that enlightenment is an illusion and discussing it is counter-productive
  • The speaker believes that being a spiritual seeker is a good thing
  • To properly seek spirituality, the speaker suggests following three rules:
  • Be honest with yourself about your motivations for seeking spirituality
  • Keep an open mind and be willing to question your beliefs
  • Take action and practice spiritual disciplines to move closer to enlightenment
  • The Star Wars universe involves battles and fights
  • The protagonist, Luke, goes through three episodes of this before confronting Vader and the Emperor
  • Someone suggests that Luke should have just gone straight from Tatooine to confront Vader, but this ignores the hero's journey
  • Luke needs to gain insights, skills, techniques, friends, and enemies in order to be ready to face Vader
  • The hero's journey involves overcoming personal challenges and realizing one's own fears and obstacles
  • Spiritual seeking can help with this, but it is important not to get lost and make an identity out of it
  • Three rules for becoming a spiritual seeker: expect the journey to be a cycle, don't try to escape reality, and don't try to change the world
  • The goal is inner realization, not changing circumstances or achieving a certain status
  • The journey may involve seeking out new experiences and teachers, but ultimately it is about returning home and finding enlightenment within oneself
  • It is important to be authentic and genuine in spiritual seeking, rather than seeking validation or recognition from others
  • The journey may involve facing difficult emotions and challenges, but it is ultimately rewarding and worth it

 

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One Simple Rule For Acing Life
https://youtu.be/ayEoiU5MOg4

  • The rule for acing life is to always do what is emotionally most difficult
  • Most people do the opposite and look for the most emotionally convenient and easy thing to do
  • This leads to a mediocre and frustrating life
  • The rule applies to every aspect of life, including relationships, business, health, finances, mood, goals, and more
  • The rule is counterintuitive and goes against the grain of what most people do in society
  • People's minds are designed to pursue emotional security and comfort
  • This mindset leads to a weaselly attitude and robs people of joy and amazing experiences
  • It takes a lot of personal development work to become aware of this mindset and how it affects different aspects of life
  • To truly embrace the rule and put it into practice, even more awareness and work is needed
  • Sit down and do every assignment in a self-help program
  • Admit wishful thinking in spiritual work
  • Question culture
  • Save money for retirement
  • Use a condom
  • Get a lab test done
  • Build a solid business
  • Don't do what friends and family are doing
  • Stay mindful through anger
  • Don't abuse power
  • Follow the principle of doing emotionally difficult things to achieve extraordinary results in life
  • Examples include self-help program assignments, admitting wishful thinking, questioning culture, saving money, using a condom, getting a lab test, building a solid business, not following friends and family, staying mindful through anger, and not abusing power
  • Fast-food and high-end restaurants serve cheap food because they don't care about health and customers don't care about health
  • Organic fast-food stores do not do as well as McDonald's
  • Solution to achieving success is hard work and emotional labor, not magic solutions
  • Transitioning to a self-actualized life starts off difficult but becomes refreshing
  • Psychological self-mastery can be developed through consistent action and habit building
  • This allows a person to construct the life they want and tap into joy and beauty
  • The goal is to help more people tap into these qualities

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How To Be Funny - Comprehensive Guide To Developing A Sense of Humor
https://youtu.be/EsLCVXYqUns

  • Introduction to the topic of humor and the purpose of the guide
  • Importance of humor, including for attracting people and for socializing, sales and marketing, and personal happiness
  • Personal backstory and experience with developing a sense of humor
  • Theory on what humor is and how it works
  • Examining your own psychology and identifying what may be holding you back from being more humorous
  • Categories of humor and specific examples from the speaker's own life
  • Three powerful exercises for drilling in the skills of humor
  • The role of timing in humor
  • The importance of not trying too hard to be funny
  • How to handle a humorous situation that falls flat
  • Conclusion and encouragement to continue practicing and developing a sense of humor.
  • The importance of being goofy in order to be humorous
  • The idea that everyone has a natural sense of humor, but society can stifle it
  • The idea that being in a relaxed, playful, and approving social context can bring out one's natural sense of humor
  • The question of why humans laugh and a theory that it releases tension
  • The structure of humor: set-up and punchline
  • The role of surprise in humor
  • The idea that laughter is a social bonding mechanism
  • The importance of context in humor
  • The idea that humor can be used to challenge social norms and power dynamics
  • Role playing can be funny because you're pretending to be someone or something and making others laugh
  • Roles can involve playing pranks or walking around pretending to be someone else
  • Self-deprecating humor involves making fun of oneself in a way that is funny to others
  • Example of using self-deprecating humor to attract a stripper at a strip club
  • Trick to using self-deprecating humor is to go over-the-top with it, to show confidence rather than insecurity
  • Insult humor involves insulting others or oneself in a funny way
  • Example of using insult humor to attract a stripper at a strip club
  • Trick to using insult humor is to use it in a way that is not mean-spirited or aggressive
  • Absurd humor involves saying or doing something that is ridiculous or doesn't make sense
  • Example of using absurd humor to attract a stripper at a strip club
  • Trick to using absurd humor is to go over-the-top with it and not take it too seriously
  • Mention of using humor to "break expectations" in conversation
  • Example of breaking expectations with a girl by making a joke about a bear attack
  • Mention of physical humor, including making weird faces and using a foam stick as a makeshift phallus
  • Explanation that the best humor is situational and spontaneous, not memorized or canned
  • Suggestion to practice finding and expressing absurdity, ridiculousness, and breaking expectations
  • Mention of not being afraid to offend or look silly in the pursuit of humor
  • Discussion of timing and delivery in humorous interactions
  • Advice to pay attention to reactions and adjust accordingly to find what works for an individual
  • Mention of using self-deprecating humor as a way to disarm and connect with others
  • Suggestion to observe and learn from successful comedians to improve sense of humor.
  • 12-month program to become extremely humorous person in social circle
  • Techniques and visualizations discussed are crass and basic, but effective
  • Do not use canned lines, as they do not help develop real humor
  • Goal is to develop skill and new attitude towards life, not to make others laugh or seek validation
  • Importance of self-amusement and not hurting others with humor
  • Importance of playfulness and not being uptight
  • Being humorous is a powerful skill to have in life, especially for men
  • Hard work is necessary to become humorous
  • Do not waste time on canned lines
  • Do not become a stand-up comedian or clown for others
  • Express joy for life through humor
  • Do not be concerned with others' reactions to humor
  • It is possible to be self-amused while not hurting others

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Contemplating Your Own Death - To Stay Motivated For Life
https://youtu.be/jK1EqqHIOqw

  • Contemplating one's own death can be a way to stay motivated in life
  • Death is a finality and there is no second chance in life
  • Contemplating death can help put things in perspective and prevent wasting time on petty matters
  • Examples of individuals who have used contemplation of death as a motivating force include Marcus Aurelius and the Buddha
  • The Buddha's contemplation of death led to his enlightenment and the creation of various traditions
  • Reflecting on the fact that life is miraculous can be a way to stay motivated
  • Contemplating death can be a way to appreciate the present moment
  • Thinking about death can also help with making big life decisions
  • Contemplating death can also be a way to let go of fear and to find peace
  • It is important to balance contemplation of death with living in the present and enjoying life
  • The speaker is asking the listener to imagine going to sleep and never waking up
  • The speaker notes that in deep sleep, the person is in a state of nothingness with no awareness or sensations
  • The speaker encourages the listener to consider how much time they have left in their life and to imagine never waking up again
  • The speaker notes that existence and experiencing the world is a miraculous and rich opportunity
  • The speaker encourages the listener to live the best and most rich life they can, regardless of how long it is
  • The speaker suggests that if the listener does this, they can die in peace and accept their fate
  • The speaker will count to three and when they reach three, the listener will slowly wake up feeling refreshed and alert

 

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How To Deal With Criticism, Trolls, and Haters
https://youtu.be/Pv9Cs3FB2vQ

  • The point of dealing with criticism is to not take it seriously and to focus on your life purpose
  • Critics are like crabs in a bucket, trying to pull you down
  • An opinion does not change reality and is not worth taking seriously
  • It's important to have a thick skin and not let criticism get to you
  • Use criticism as an opportunity to improve and grow
  • When dealing with trolls and haters, it's important to remember that they are often projecting their own insecurities and issues onto you
  • The best way to deal with trolls and haters is to ignore them
  • It's important to have a supportive network of friends and loved ones to help you through difficult times
  • Remember that you are not alone and that others have faced similar challenges
  • Lastly, focus on your own growth and progress rather than getting caught up in the negativity of others
  • The idea that being infested with rats, worms, and being haunted by ghosts can be metaphorically used to describe being stagnant and not moving forward in life
  • The importance of finding one's life purpose and values
  • The idea that depending on the opinions of others, especially those in positions of power, can be limiting and make one feel like they have to constantly seek approval
  • The need to take responsibility for one's own success and not rely on others or expect freebies
  • The importance of restructuring one's life and being proactive in achieving success
  • The idea that it is possible to change one's circumstances and that it is worth investing time and effort in personal growth and self-improvement
  • Feedback is important and necessary for growth and success
  • It is important to distinguish between constructive criticism (feedback) and criticism
  • Ignoring criticism or thinking of it as "trolling" can prevent you from taking valuable feedback
  • Receiving feedback requires courage and may require thinking in shades of gray rather than black and white
  • This does not excuse being callous or abusive towards others
  • It is also important to consider multiple perspectives and not be dogmatic in one's beliefs or actions.

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Avoiding Dysfunctional & Abusive Relationships - 30+ Red Flags
https://youtu.be/WY9JqrmAI4Q

  • Red flags to avoid in relationships:
  • Substance abuse
  • Asking to borrow money
  • History of cheating, stealing, swindling, or arrests/jail time
  • Lack of empathy
  • Lack of communication
  • Emotional manipulation
  • Physical abuse
  • Verbal abuse
  • Lack of trust
  • Insecurity and jealousy
  • Lack of respect
  • Lack of support and encouragement
  • Lack of effort in the relationship
  • Unhealthy boundaries
  • Lack of commitment
  • Lack of compromise
  • Constant criticism
  • Lack of appreciation and gratitude
  • Lack of intimacy
  • Lack of affection
  • Lack of emotional connection
  • Dishonesty
  • Infidelity
  • Disrespect for personal space and privacy
  • Lack of transparency and accountability
  • Lack of mutual understanding and respect
  • Lack of shared values and goals
  • Controlling behavior
  • Gaslighting
  • Neglect and abandonment
  • Unreliability
  • Lack of responsibility and dependability
  • Lack of follow through on promises and commitments
  • Lack of reliability and predictability
  • Lack of consistency in words and actions
  • Insecurity can manifest in a partner who tries to control or monitor their partner's relationships and activities
  • Clinginess and being constantly on call can indicate insecurities within a partner
  • A healthy, independent person will have their own life and schedule and will not be overly clingy or constantly on call
  • If a partner demands to see you frequently and expects constant communication, it may indicate clinginess and codependency
  • On the other hand, a partner who is too busy to see you at least once a week may not be prioritizing the relationship
  • A partner who is unwilling to learn better communication skills can be a red flag for a problematic relationship
  • A partner who refuses to work on issues in the relationship and address problems may not be committed to the relationship's success
  • If a partner is constantly critical, it can be damaging to their partner's self-esteem and the relationship
  • A partner who is not supportive or encouraging can also be a red flag for a problematic relationship
  • A partner who is dishonest or lacks integrity can be damaging to the trust and health of the relationship
  • Don't date someone who doesn't care about others' opinions and lacks empathy
  • Watch out for verbal abuse and yelling in a relationship
  • Be wary of a partner with a short temper or tendency to break things or throw objects
  • If a partner threatens to leave the relationship, it is a red flag
  • Avoid dating someone who is dishonest or constantly lies
  • If a partner constantly puts you down or belittles you, it is a toxic relationship
  • It is a red flag if a partner is overly controlling or possessive
  • Pay attention to how a partner treats others, as it may be indicative of how they will treat you
  • A partner who is not supportive of your goals and aspirations is not a healthy match
  • If a partner is unwilling to compromise or work through problems in the relationship, it is a red flag
  • Introduction to exercise for gaining wisdom from subconscious mind
  • First step: fill in the blank for the following prompt: "The biggest thing I fear about leaving my partner is _______"
  • Generate 10 answers quickly without overanalyzing
  • Second step: fill in the blank for the following prompt: "If I took 100% responsibility for my relationship, I would _______"
  • Generate 10 answers quickly without overanalyzing
  • Third step: fill in the blank for the following prompt: "20 ways that I could create more sexual options are _______"
  • Generate 20 ideas
  • Reflection on answers and consideration of next steps for improving or ending the relationship
  • Invitation to join newsletter and continue learning about self-actualization.

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Advice For High School & College Students - The Keys To Mastering Life
https://youtu.be/apOBPsAHxYU

  • The speaker is giving advice to high school and college students about how to master life
  • The speaker has compiled a list of important principles based on their study of psychology, self-help, and success
  • High school and college are the best time to build a foundation for a fulfilling life
  • After this time period, people enter the workforce and have less energy and time to work on themselves
  • If you invest in yourself early, you will see exponential growth in your life
  • If you don't invest in yourself early, your results in life will be flat and shallow
  • Most people don't experience high levels of satisfaction, fulfillment, and success because they didn't build a strong foundation in their younger years
  • You have the potential to gain a lot or lose everything that you could gain in the future based on the actions you take now
  • The speaker will share some of the principles they have compiled to help guide high school and college students on their path to success.
  • Use study ethic to build work ethic
  • Study for knowledge, not just grades
  • Read nonfiction books
  • Don't waste time in high school and college slacking off
  • Build relationships and social skills
  • Don't get caught in early life romance and waste time and energy
  • Date around in high school and college to learn about different partners
  • Have at least 2-5 partners before settling down in a serious relationship
  • Don't sacrifice schoolwork and life purpose for a relationship
  • Be independent and self-reliant
  • Have a well-rounded life with a variety of interests and activities
  • Don't focus all your energy on just one thing
  • Learn about the world and people around you
  • Don't be afraid to be wrong or make mistakes
  • Learn from your failures
  • Take risks and try new things
  • Don't be afraid to be different or stand out
  • Keep an open mind
  • Don't be afraid to ask for help or advice
  • Surround yourself with positive, supportive people
  • Find a mentor or role model to guide you
  • Set goals for yourself and work towards them
  • Don't be afraid to change your plans or pivot if necessary
  • Keep a positive attitude and always try to improve yourself
  • Don't worry about what other people think or say about you
  • Focus on your own growth and development
  • Don't let fear hold you back
  • Take care of your physical and mental health
  • Debt, with the exception of college tuition loans, should be avoided
  • College diploma does not guarantee success in the real world
  • Employers care about results, emotional intelligence, quick learning, good work ethic, and street smarts
  • University teaches how to learn and develops a love for lifelong learning
  • Suggested subjects to learn in school/college: science (physics, biology, chemistry), philosophy, psychology, history, nutrition
  • Recommended habit: read one self-help book per month
  • Importance of networking and building relationships
  • The value of internships and real-life experience
  • Pursue passions and interests outside of school/college
  • Exercise regularly and eat healthy
  • Learn how to handle stress and manage time effectively

 

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Curing Perfectionism - How To Stop Being A Perfectionist
https://youtu.be/GPPdWfoeGbs

  • Curing perfectionism can help stop being critical and unhappy
  • Perfectionism can be a theme throughout a person's life
  • Being critical hinders happiness, wastes mental energy, and hinders self-actualization
  • Perfectionism can cause procrastination and prevent people from starting or completing projects
  • Perfectionism is an anti-mastery mindset
  • To overcome perfectionism, focus on the present moment and develop a growth mindset
  • Practice mindfulness and self-compassion
  • Don't try to be perfect, but strive for excellence instead
  • Use affirmations and reframe negative thoughts
  • Seek therapy or counseling if necessary
  • Perfectionism is not a good motivation
  • What got you here may not get you where you want to go in the future
  • Successful people often have negative or flawed motivations
  • Art is not about perfectionism, it is about the joy of creating
  • Artists should focus on the process of creating, not just the outcome
  • The perfectionist is too attached to the outcome and undermines their own progress
  • Focusing on mastery and the process can lead to more enjoyable and productive work
  • It may take some effort to make the transition to a more fulfilling way of working
  • The importance of letting go of the need for perfection in order to achieve success and fulfillment
  • The speaker is discussing the negative impact of criticism on one's life and the importance of retraining one's mind to focus on positive things like goals, dreams, and purpose.
  • The speaker suggests using a rubber band as a physical reminder to redirect thoughts away from criticism.
  • The speaker encourages the listener to practice acceptance and gratitude, and to focus on actions that will advance their life.
  • The speaker recommends taking a perfectionist quiz to assess the extent of the problem.
  • The speaker promotes their newsletter and self-actualization videos as a means of improving one's life.
  • The speaker acknowledges that this work is challenging, but stresses that the rewards of self-actualization are significant and well worth the effort.

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Mindfulness Meditation - A Complete Guide With Techniques & Examples
https://youtu.be/wPUWdhHDKS4

  • Definition of mindfulness: experiencing reality exactly as it is through the senses
  • Benefits of mindfulness: improved personal development and happiness
  • Introduction to Shinzon Jung's mindfulness system
  • Practical, effective, and simple mindfulness techniques
  • Importance of paying attention to your senses in mindfulness practice
  • Different types of mindfulness practice: formal, informal, and natural
  • Examples of formal mindfulness practice: seated meditation, walking meditation
  • Examples of informal mindfulness practice: mindful eating, taking a shower
  • Examples of natural mindfulness practice: being present in everyday activities
  • The importance of developing a daily mindfulness practice
  • The role of mindfulness in reducing stress and increasing self-awareness
  • Tips for starting a mindfulness practice and overcoming challenges
  • Summary of the benefits of mindfulness and the importance of incorporating it into your daily life.
  • Introduction to mindfulness cycle
  • 3 steps: note, label, savor
  • Example using visual channel (seeing a lamp)
  • Example using auditory channel (hearing a clap)
  • Example using feeling channel (sensations in the body)
  • Practice mindfulness cycle with all three channels
  • Introduction to cultivating mindfulness
  • Benefits of cultivating mindfulness
  • Importance of non-judgment and beginner's mind
  • Suggestions for incorporating mindfulness into daily life
  • Importance of consistent practice
  • Introduction to mindfulness practice
  • Cycle of noting, labeling, and savoring phenomena for 5-7 seconds, repeating for 20 minutes
  • Advanced option to limit range of focus to specific senses or inner/outer experiences
  • Common questions about mindfulness practice
  • How to choose which phenomena to focus on
  • What to do if a phenomenon disappears
  • How to handle changes in a phenomenon
  • How to handle difficult or unpleasant experiences
  • How to handle distractions or a wandering mind
  • Conclusion and encouragement to practice mindfulness regularly
  • Mindfulness practice can lead to emotional mastery and the ability to control and reduce negative emotions such as anger, fear, depression, loneliness, anxiety, and frustration
  • Mindfulness can also reduce physical suffering, including chronic pain and the pain associated with medical conditions and injuries
  • Increased mindfulness can lead to increased fulfillment in life and more enjoyment of activities and experiences
  • Mindfulness can also facilitate behavior change and the ability to overcome bad habits
  • Through mindfulness, one can potentially experience enlightenment and gain a deeper understanding of the nature of the self and reality
  • The benefits of mindfulness practice are numerous and can lead to significant improvements in overall well-being and happiness.

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A Vision For The Self Actualized Life - Get Yo Ass Inspired!
https://youtu.be/jo_3rvcUpJw

  • Leo from actualized.org talks about his experience at a consciousness retreat
  • Reflects on his own life and how it has changed in the past year
  • Talks about the freedom he has in his life, including setting his own schedule, earning a six-figure income, and achieving his material desires
  • Mentions meeting a 20-year-old at the retreat who had a transformation after becoming an apprentice and learning about consciousness work
  • Leo talks about the importance of self-improvement and personal development work
  • Discusses the idea that anyone can achieve a self-actualized life and be inspired
  • Encourages the audience to pursue their own growth and development.
  • It is possible to consistently feel creatively alive and charged every day
  • It is possible to turn work into a top passion and have creativity infused into every aspect of life
  • It is possible to make a meaningful contribution to the world and be an inspirational leader
  • It is possible to shed negative habits and emotions, such as self-sabotage, guilt, shame, nihilism, depression, anger, and negativity
  • It is possible to learn and master key areas of life, including career, wealth, health, friendships, intimate relationships, self-esteem, and confidence
  • It is possible to master emotional development and resolve family issues
  • It is possible to develop a sense of purpose and meaning in life
  • It is possible to overcome limitations and break free of toxic societal norms and culture
  • The importance of taking time to appreciate and savor life
  • Setting the goal of dying with a smile on your face and without regrets
  • The concept of self-actualization and the difference between happiness and fulfillment
  • Personal emotional growth and spiritual growth as key components of self-actualization
  • The process of conscious work and the challenges that come with it
  • The idea that self-actualization is a journey, not a destination
  • The importance of understanding one's own values and priorities
  • The role of relationships in self-actualization
  • The potential for self-actualization to bring a sense of peace and contentment.
  • Introduction to the concept of self-actualization
  • Four steps to achieve self-actualization:
  • Develop a strong personality
  • Have a clear life purpose
  • Become financially independent
  • Engage in deep self-actualization work
  • The importance of taking action now, rather than waiting for a midlife crisis
  • Encouragement to share the message with others and check out additional resources
  • Conclusion and sign-off

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How To Overcome Creative Blocks & Writer's Block
https://youtu.be/OwgD1vmAawo

  • The video discusses how to overcome creative blocks and writer's block
  • There are two main ways to overcome creative blocks: brute forcing it and pacing yourself and reconnecting with your source motivation
  • Brute forcing it involves sitting down and forcing yourself to work, even if you don't feel motivated
  • This may work in the short term, but is not a good long-term solution because it does not address the underlying issues causing the creative block
  • Pacing yourself and reconnecting with your source motivation is the better solution, but may not be possible if you are under tight deadlines
  • To be a successful creator, you need to do the important, non-urgent tasks, rather than just focusing on the urgent ones
  • Procrastination is a sign that you are not doing the important, non-urgent tasks
  • To overcome creative blocks, you need to identify the underlying issues causing the block and work on those issues
  • Some possible causes of creative blocks include: fear, self-doubt, lack of motivation, and being too attached to the outcome
  • To overcome these issues, try: setting small, achievable goals; taking breaks and finding inspiration; practicing self-compassion; and focusing on the process, rather than the outcome.
  • Creativity is a state that can be created and engineered
  • It is important to recognize that you can change your state and have control over it
  • Five practical techniques for getting rid of creative blocks:
  • Slow down the pace of your work
  • Change your environment
  • Take breaks and do something different
  • Get into a flow state
  • Change your perspective or reframe the problem
  • There are 5 techniques for improving creativity:
  • Practice your craft regularly
  • Seek out new experiences and knowledge
  • Engage in creative activities outside of your main field
  • Create a catalog of your favorite books and quotes
  • Work on improving your process and understanding the psychology behind being an effective creator
  • It's important to balance discipline and inspiration to be a strong creator
  • The speaker has other videos that address issues that creative people face, such as how to stop being lazy and how to stop procrastinating
  • The speaker has also created a life purpose course that can help people understand their authentic selves and what they should be creating in their lives
  • Consistency is important for effective creation, and the speaker struggled with it in their youth
  • The speaker shares advanced concepts on self-actualization and personal development through their website and free newsletter

 

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How To Deal With Strong Negative Emotions
https://youtu.be/l96TZeZGlDg

  • Negative emotions include sadness, hurt, loss, heartbreak, fear, nervousness, and anger
  • To effectively deal with strong negative emotions, you must allow yourself to fully feel them
  • This may seem counterintuitive because it requires vulnerability, but it is actually a strong move that can lead to success
  • To become okay with allowing yourself to be vulnerable, you must start by acknowledging the negative emotion and giving it a name
  • Then, sit with the emotion and allow yourself to fully feel it, without trying to resist or push it away
  • It may be helpful to journal or talk to someone about your emotions to process them
  • Practice mindfulness and self-compassion to help you better manage your emotions
  • Remember that experiencing negative emotions is a natural and healthy part of life, and they will eventually pass
  • Pay attention to emotions and be curious about them without judging or labeling
  • Allow emotions to flow through you without resistance
  • Do nothing and sit with the emotions without distracting oneself
  • Repeat the process when waves of emotions come
  • Notice tension and tightness in the body and relax major areas (belly, stomach, shoulders, hands, arms, jaw)
  • Breathe deeply and fully
  • Increase awareness and consciousness through focusing on the present moment
  • Notice patterns in negative thoughts and emotions and interrupt them
  • Practice gratitude and positive thinking to shift focus and emotions

 

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Radical Openmindedness - How To Break Free Of Dogma & Beliefs
https://youtu.be/jTK3kO0MopM

  • Introduction to concept of radical open-mindedness
  • Warning that this is an advanced and potentially threatening topic
  • Analogy of mercury fillings in teeth, which represent beliefs and dogmas that have been "clogged" in the mind
  • These beliefs and dogmas limit personal development, career, relationships, and spiritual advancement
  • Counterintuitive move in personal development is to let go of knowing and embrace not knowing
  • Live exercise to help understand and embrace not knowing as a powerful state
  • Most people think they know, but actually do not and have a false certainty
  • Exercise to help break free of false certainties and truly embrace not knowing
  • Importance of questioning everything, including beliefs and values
  • Embracing not knowing allows for true personal growth and the possibility of enlightenment
  • Conclusion and invitation to continue exploring the concept of radical open-mindedness
  • Light takes millions of years to travel vast distances between Earth and stars
  • Most of the stars being looked at no longer exist
  • When looking at a star, it is actually a galaxy with millions or billions of other stars
  • People throughout history have been wrong about many things, such as the earth being flat, the earth being at the center of the universe, witch trials, intelligence of different races, Euclidean versus non Euclidean geometry, absolute time, human body's ability to handle high velocity, ability to lift over 500 pounds, wireless communication, flight, computers beating humans at chess, the four-minute mile, Iraq having weapons of mass destruction
  • It is possible to be certain about something that is false
  • Suggestion to open the mind to the possibility that current beliefs could be false
  • Take time to deeply ponder the ideas discussed
  • Notice when you try to convince others of your beliefs and become conscious of this behavior
  • Realize that true not knowing can be empowering and liberating
  • Wonder why you cling to beliefs and become curious about this behavior
  • Keep working on expanding and opening your mind in order to reach a state of personal development and freedom
  • This process can lead to profound transformation and liberation, and allow you to experience mystical states and discover the truth about yourself and the nature of existence

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30 Ways Society Fucks You In The Ass
https://youtu.be/z4YkMoysymY

  • Western society, specifically modern capitalism, is characterized by businesses shaping all aspects of society, including culture, government, science, and religion
  • Businesses use architected and optimized systems to trap individuals in low consciousness patterns in order to make money
  • Businesses are fueled by greed and other neurotic drivers, and are often unaware of this fact
  • There is an all-out war for eyeballs in society, with businesses fighting for attention in order to sell products and make money
  • Society is rigged against individuals and those creating the systems, as both are caught in low consciousness patterns
  • Society is driven by the pursuit of progress, which often leads to environmental destruction and negative consequences for people and the planet
  • Society encourages conformity and discourages individuality, leading to a lack of authenticity and fulfillment in life
  • Society often prioritizes external markers of success, such as wealth and status, over internal happiness and fulfillment
  • Society promotes the idea of "the grass is always greener," leading to constant dissatisfaction and the belief that one's own life is inferior to others
  • Society promotes a narrow definition of success, leading to a lack of fulfillment for those who don't fit this mold
  • Society promotes the idea that one must work hard and sacrifice their time and energy in order to be successful, leading to burnout and a lack of balance in life
  • Society encourages the belief that one must be constantly busy and productive in order to be successful, leading to a lack of time for relaxation and self-care
  • Society promotes a consumerist mentality, encouraging constant spending and materialism
  • Society often prioritizes efficiency and productivity over happiness and well-being
  • Society often prioritizes the needs of the few over the needs of the many, leading to inequality and injustice
  • Society often promotes the belief that one must constantly be seeking external validation and approval from others
  • Society often promotes the idea that one must conform to certain beauty standards in order to be accepted and successful
  • Society often discourages vulnerability and emotional expression, leading to a lack of authentic connections with others
  • Society often promotes the belief that one must constantly be striving for more in order to be happy, leading to a lack of contentment and gratitude in life.
  • Holidays are driven by marketing and consumerism
  • Politics is characterized by individuals or groups flinging insults at each other
  • Religion is a performance by individuals who believe they are important or special
  • Modern marriage is often used as a means of avoiding personal growth and responsibility
  • Romance is driven by a desire to escape one's problems and find someone to take care of them
  • Family life is often portrayed as noble, but is actually characterized by dysfunction and running on one's own patterns
  • The typical nine-to-five career is unfulfilling and does not contribute to society
  • The stock market and Wall Street financial companies exploit individuals' lower selves and are driven by greed
  • Society encourages the belief that one must constantly be striving for more in order to be happy, leading to a lack of contentment and gratitude in life.
  • The traps and distractions in society are driven by ignorance and ego, rather than a conspiracy or evil intent
  • Businesses and capitalism can provide good services and resources, and there are many opportunities for personal growth in modern society
  • It is important to acknowledge that one has been reliant on society and to make a commitment to living an authentic lifestyle and taking control of one's life
  • This may involve renouncing certain distractions or unhealthy habits in order to make room for personal growth and psychological health
  • One practical action step to take is to take a week off to be alone and reflect on one's life and goals, without distractions or external influences
  • It is important to take time for self-care and self-reflection in order to live a fulfilling and authentic life.

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How You Lie - All Your Dirty, Sneaky Lies & Manipulations Exposed!
https://youtu.be/XulpS3cAkOM

  • The speaker (Leo) is discussing how people lie, manipulate, and deceive themselves
  • The concept of the self-agenda is introduced, which is about preserving one's image of themselves and protecting their ego or identity
  • The first insight is that the self-agenda often takes priority over the truth, and people will lie and manipulate to protect their self-agenda
  • The second insight is that people often deceive themselves about their own motivations and actions, and are not aware of the extent to which they are lying and manipulating
  • The third insight is that people often lie and manipulate to avoid facing the truth about themselves and their actions
  • The fourth insight is that people often deceive themselves about their own emotions, and will lie and manipulate to protect their self-agenda
  • The fifth insight is that people often lie and manipulate to avoid taking responsibility for their actions
  • The sixth insight is that people often lie and manipulate to protect their pride and ego
  • The seventh insight is that people often lie and manipulate to protect their insecurities
  • The eighth insight is that people often lie and manipulate to protect their sense of control
  • The speaker encourages the listener to be honest with themselves about their own lies and manipulations, and to work on overcoming them in order to achieve self-actualization.
  • Truth and survival/reproduction can be in conflict
  • Choosing one over the other can be difficult
  • People may lie to themselves or downplay their own self-interest in order to appear noble or righteous
  • Lying can lead to various negative effects on one's life, including:
  • Stress, anger, anxiety
  • Cheating, abuse, theft, neediness in relationships, codependency
  • Back pain, skin rashes, depression, overeating, heart attacks, panic attacks
  • Feeling like a victim, bankruptcy, hating life, headaches, migraines, fibromyalgia
  • Cancer, diabetes, asthma
  • Social isolation, lack of connection with others
  • It is important to be aware of the ways in which we lie to ourselves and others.
  • Limited time opportunity
  • Lying when in a leadership position
  • Withholding information for self-agenda
  • Not admitting when wrong
  • Hiding weaknesses and insecurities
  • Pretending to be perfect
  • Withholding emotions
  • Softening opinions and judgments
  • Changing or altering stories to fit a desired narrative
  • Saying one thing and doing another
  • Pretending to agree with someone
  • Using flattery or manipulation to get what you want
  • Making excuses or blaming others
  • Pretending to be someone you're not
  • Hiding or downplaying your accomplishments
  • Lying to protect someone or something
  • Lying to avoid confrontation or conflict
  • The speaker is discussing the importance of communicating truth in various situations, including in writing sales copy, in one's work, and in personal relationships.
  • The speaker distinguishes between three levels of communicating truth: reporting facts, disclosing one's emotions about the facts, and revealing how one truly feels about a situation.
  • Communicating truth can be difficult, especially when it involves negative emotions or actions that may harm one's self-image.
  • However, the speaker suggests that being truthful and communicating truthfully can lead to a more fulfilling and honest life, and can help to reduce negative emotions such as depression, loneliness, and anxiety.
  • The speaker suggests that many people do not prioritize truth because it can be emotionally challenging, but that integrity is a key reason to strive for honesty and transparency in communication.

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40 Signs That You Are Neurotic - Understanding Neurosis
https://youtu.be/JhV9f1l3H1A

  • Definition of neurosis
  • 40 signs that you are neurotic
  • Anxiety
  • Obsessive thoughts
  • Compulsive behavior
  • Vague physical ailments (e.g. chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia)
  • Insomnia
  • Depression
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Anger or rage
  • Social maladjustment (e.g. shyness)
  • History of dysfunctional relationships
  • Inability to work
  • Money problems
  • Addictions
  • Perfectionism
  • Workaholism
  • Stress
  • Lying
  • Restlessness
  • Overeating
  • Phobias
  • Paranoia
  • Easily offended
  • Constant criticism and blaming of others
  • Preaching and moralizing
  • Arguing and stubbornness
  • Narcissism
  • Neediness and codependence in relationships
  • Jealousy and envy
  • Guilt and shame
  • Self-pity
  • Negative thinking
  • Self-sabotage
  • Procrastination
  • Inability to enjoy life
  • Inability to make decisions
  • Inability to cope with change
  • Low self-esteem
  • Inability to set and achieve goals
  • Lack of motivation
  • The dangers of living according to rules and laws
  • The consequences of being neurotic, including a lack of freedom and low levels of morality
  • The difference between low levels of morality, which require rules and laws, and high levels of morality, which come from internal understanding and awareness
  • The negative effects of clinging to beliefs and identity
  • The tendency of neurotics to become ideological fundamentalists
  • The importance of abandoning rigid beliefs and living freely
  • The role of consciousness in ethical behavior
  • The need to discipline the mind and cultivate awareness in order to behave morally without needing external rules.
  • The speaker believes that neurosis (a mental disorder characterized by excessive anxiety or insecurity) is a problem that needs to be addressed in order to achieve peace of mind.
  • The speaker suggests that there are alternative ways to live life that are not neurotic, such as enlightenment or self-actualization.
  • Enlightenment is the most direct way to achieve peace of mind, but it is an advanced topic.
  • Self-actualization, which involves improving and becoming more authentic, can also lead to peace of mind, but it requires a change in strategy and a willingness to accept both the need for change and self-acceptance.
  • The speaker's website and YouTube channel contain over 100 hours of content on self-actualization.
  • If someone is not enlightened, they are necessarily neurotic because they misunderstand reality.
  • Neurosis stems from a lack of acceptance of reality as it is, and it is important to develop awareness and get clarity about the stories and lies in one's mind that contribute to neurosis.
  • It can be difficult to reconcile the need for acceptance and change, but it is necessary for growth.

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How To Stop Judging Yourself
https://youtu.be/ulam38XpQG4

  • In this video, the speaker will talk about how to stop judging yourself and provide a powerful exercise to do so
  • Judgments are a problem because they poison your life and you are usually not aware of how they work and backfire on you
  • Every time you judge someone else's physical appearance, behavior, or belief systems, you are also judging yourself at the same time and making life more difficult for yourself in the future
  • An example of judging fat people and how it can backfire on you in the future by making you feel guilty or neurotic about your own fitness routine
  • How judging someone else's looks or behavior can make you feel insecure about your own looks or behavior
  • How judging others can create a cycle of judgment and self-doubt that is difficult to break
  • The exercise for stopping the cycle of judgment: self-inquiry and self-observation to become aware of when you are judging others and asking yourself why you are doing so
  • The importance of letting go of the need to judge others and finding a more compassionate and understanding approach to life.
  • Judgment creates laws or rules that the mind stores and applies to future situations
  • Examples of how judgment can backfire include:
  • Comparing oneself to others and feeling inadequate
  • Reacting against judgments by overcompensating and causing harm to oneself or others
  • Creating positive rules that lead to negative consequences, such as trying to be the most loving mother and instead becoming overbearing and controlling
  • The root of judgment is often fear and a lack of self-worth
  • It is important to become aware of judgment and its effects on the mind and to work on self-acceptance and self-love
  • This can involve practicing mindfulness, learning to let go of judgments, and practicing self-compassion and self-forgiveness.
  • Dysfunctional behavior is abnormal and not cool
  • People can have negative qualities such as being crazy, weird, odd, closed-minded, religious, ideological, rationalist, myopic, arrogant, egotistical, selfish, narcissistic, dogmatic, lazy, careless, ignorant, and greedy
  • People can also have positive qualities such as being normal, cool, caring, kind, loving, humble, brilliant, creative, genius, strong, confident, and charming
  • Making judgments about oneself and others can be damaging and lead to negative feelings of inadequacy and insecurity
  • It is important to be mindful of how often we judge others and how our judgments can affect us and others
  • To stop judging ourselves and others, it is important to increase awareness and try to be more accepting and less critical

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The Challenges Of Making Bold Life Changes
https://youtu.be/BF1t2T8VLI4

  • Introduction to the topic of making bold life changes
  • Personal story of the speaker being sick and reflecting on life and death
  • Goal of the speaker to make personal development more personal and vulnerable by sharing their own issues
  • Problem being discussed: the need for a major realignment in life and the fear of letting go of a comfortable paradigm
  • Examples of major realignments in life, such as quitting a business and becoming a monk
  • Definition of a "turning point" as a moment of decision where the current path no longer serves the person's goals
  • The process of making a major realignment in life, including self-assessment, seeking guidance, and taking action
  • The importance of self-trust and self-acceptance in the process of making a major realignment
  • The benefits of making a major realignment, including increased personal growth and satisfaction
  • Conclusion and encouragement to make bold life changes if they are in alignment with one's goals and values.
  • The speaker has achieved success after struggling for three to five years
  • They are now at a point where they can relax a bit and success still comes to them
  • However, the speaker is uncertain about their desires, motivations, and life purpose going forward
  • They are afraid of having to make sacrifices, such as material comforts and relationships, in order to continue on a path of success
  • They are also worried about how they will be judged and how their decision will impact their viewers, business, customers, and family
  • The speaker believes that achieving success and focusing on business will not ultimately fulfill them
  • They recognize that they need to make significant changes to their life and how they relate to various things, including people, society, culture, entertainment, food, fitness, sex, business, money, and happiness
  • This process will involve a "purification" where parts of themselves "die" and they are "purified" and pushed forward
  • This process can be painful and scary, but it is necessary for growth and fulfillment
  • Making "turning points" in life is important for self-actualization and reaching one's full potential
  • These turning points are rare and are most important in young adulthood (20s, 30s, 40s)
  • Making these turning points requires letting go of the good for the sake of the great and pursuing a greater vision for oneself
  • These changes may seem crazy to others, but should be balanced with responsibility and wisdom
  • Making these turning point decisions is a highly conscious, purposeful act, not a rash or impulsive one
  • These decisions may involve taking a step back before moving forward
  • Making these turning points can lead to paradigm shifts and significant progress in one's life

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