How A Man And A Woman's relationship is a mirror of their ability to be Parents

[Razard86]

A Woman is a Man's Courage. A Man is a Woman's Direction. A Man Gives a Woman a Life. A Woman Gives a Man a Home. That Life When It Is Home Produces An Offspring. 

Joseph wanted to get with Mary but Mary likes to play hard to get and rejects all his offers. When he would approach her he was timid and shy. She thought he was cute but she could sense his fear and it produced fear in her and she rejected him respectfully and softly. Joseph motivated to get her went out and worked and developed himself and when he was more confident and self-assured approached her. When Mary saw him this time she could feel something was different and her curiosity opened her up. She could feel his confidence which gave her confidence in him and they went out and had a good time. 

After several encounters he opened up to her that he wanted to start a business and how he wanted to go about it but he had some fears. Mary offered some suggestions and encouragement and this motivated him to go out and face his fears. His business initially struggled but Mary was always there with encouragement which inspired him to keep going. Every time Joseph struggled he thought of the life he wanted to share with Mary. Eventually his business started to succeed and him and Mary were able to enjoy the success. Mary even started working with him on the business providing suggestions and encouragement.  They eventually buy a home and Mary has an idea of how she can make money with her talents and Joseph encourages her and provides suggestions. Joseph keen on how Mary supported him provides her with a reflection of what she gave him and their roles are reversed.

Eventually they are both well-off from all the money they have made together and decide to start a family. Instinctively because they have played the role of Father, Mother, and child with each other they instinctively know how to parent their kid. You see when Joseph struggled Mary would encourage him like she was his Mother and he was her child. Eager to please his mother he was energized and went out to make her proud. As he gained knowledge of the world he would mesmerize her with stories and teach and guide her like a Father would his child. If she ever felt unsafe he would protect her like a Father would his child. They would even playfully banter with each other as if they were siblings, and of course they made love as a couple. A REAL relationship between a Man and a Woman plays every role of a family. Father, Mother, Brother, Sister, Child, and Romantic Lover. 

The ability of the parents to properly parent the child is just a reflection of their ability to parent and be there for each other.

Moral Of The Story : A Man Gives a Woman a Life. (Sperm) A Woman Gives a Man a Home. (Sperm merges with Egg) That Life When It Is Home Produces An Offspring. (Embryo, then Child)

 

Edited October 3, 2022 by Razard86

[NoSelfSelf]

I stopped reading after a man is womans direction whats up with that ??

[Razard86]

17 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

I stopped reading after a man is womans direction whats up with that ??

Most men are lost in conception, because they are trying to figure out and obtain every single detail about something. Most women just pick a direction and go but a lot of them do not really think about what they are doing. When a woman gets with a man, she breaks him out of his conceptual conditioning and gets him to take action and pick something. Since the man has a lot of information and knowledge he is better equipped to see things for what they are.

Obviously these are generalizations, but in traditional relationships the man tends to be the one who makes the decisions about which direction the family is going, so the man is her direction. But his ability to make a decision comes from the encouragement and sometimes pressure from the woman to "do something, anything!!!" This is a very simple concept. It is a generalization as both men and women are unique characteristics of the masculine and the feminine.

[Realms of Wonder]

I love this short story/analogy. 

[Alexop]

Nice story, it poetically describes masculine and feminine sinergy. 

[Tyler Robinson]

Not true. I humbly disagree. 

My Father was not a good lover but a great parent. 

Mixing parenting with how two adults act around each other is like mixing students with good grades with employees who perform well at work. That doesn't gel together. Lot of students just don't have employable skills despite good grades and would make very poor employees. 

These are two diametrically different situations that need very different skill sets 

Parenting is a very complicated skill that most people aren't good at because they have neither the manual nor the skill for it 

 

Relationship and parenting are contextually different and need different brain wirings. That's why most couples fail. 

Although a good parent is someone who can also be considered good at relationships in general because they have the required maturity and intelligence, though most relationships thrive on mostly lust and attraction, having a matured partner takes a  lot of stress off a relationship but cannot guarantee success. 

(although your cute post shows a beautiful amalgamation of  masculine and feminine connection, it has nothing to do with the title of the post) 

 

 

Edited October 4, 2022 by Tyler Robinson

[NoSelfSelf]

@Razard86 i had that experience i thought that is quality of a weak men being inspired by a woman to take action instead already taking action more than anyone can inspire to..

[Razard86]

1 hour ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Razard86 i had that experience i thought that is quality of a weak men being inspired by a woman to take action instead already taking action more than anyone can inspire to..

What is weak and what is strong? 

[NoSelfSelf]

@Razard86 That's a really broad queastion but i can give examples

Weak is being in reaction,being overly emotional(affected easily),passive,not being able to assert yourself(no spine),giving excuses,victim mentality(others are the reason) etc.

Strong is opposite not making excuses taking accountability,being driven by his own codes rules of sucess,going for what you want not being affected by outside because inside is created by you,strong sense of identity and direction...

[Razard86]

1. If you are dreaming....isn't pretending that you are not an excuse?

2. Taking accountability for what exactly?

3. What is own codes? Did you invent codes that never existed? If you are using codes that already existed...how are they yours? Because you claim they are? Well if you claim something is true even if it is not....how is that being accountable?

4. What's the difference between outside and inside? Everything you experience is inside. Have you ever experienced an outside world? Or do you say that because you were taught that. Why haven't you questioned that. Isn't that not taking accountability and allowing what you claim is the outside world to effect you?

4. What is direction and identity? All identity only exists in relation to something else. Something can't be tall without something being shorter. Hot only exists in relation to cold etc. So how can you have an identity when you need something else to define you by contrast. Is that even am identity? Or is that just delusion you create to feel seperate?

[NoSelfSelf]

@Razard86 Cmon man this is dating section...

[Razard86]

On 10/4/2022 at 1:55 PM, NoSelfSelf said:

@Razard86 Cmon man this is dating section...

The highest relationship between two individuals is spiritual. Look into tantra.

[NoSelfSelf]

@Razard86 i mean all relationships are spiritual act, where 2 people want to become one(but fail) but what i meant you are using too advanced insights to explain something its like you are talking about rocket ships to the moon to me while im talking to you how im trying to build a wooden toilet to survive ?

You need identity for quality relationship there is no go around that having no identity and being inside those big insights having a relationship is a joke at that point imo...