Journal :Let's talk sex

[Someone here]

We are sexual beings . Everything revolves around sex . A man thinks of nothing but his dick all day every day .

[Someone here]

 Tip for future masturbation sessions which are expected :

1-Never bite the sensitive parts too much till it pains worst, it may affect the future of relationship and you may not get laid again. Pleasurable pain is okay but not too much.

2-Don’t rush, take things slowly.build up to the orgasm .and that way the orgasm will be more intense .

[Someone here]

Making love is an art. That's why I became disgusted by 90% of the porn out there . Where its done mechanically and robotic.

In real sex you don't just insert your penis in a vagina ..you touch ..get touched ..in all areas of your body . And that brings most of the pleasure of sex imo. Not so much the fucking.

[Someone here]

what men want from women and what women want from men. 

1).Beauty. It matters. You should always strive to present yourself in the best way possible. This will maximize the potential suitors you can choose from. The idea that “what's on the inside matters most” is true….BUT…people have to like the OUTSIDE before wanting to explore the INSIDE. Take the time and effort to maximize your looks.

2)Realistic. Many women these days have a hundred point checklist for what they demand in a man. But many of these women would fail their own checklist. If you want a handsome, wealthy, interesting man ..ask yourself this: am I the kind of woman the handsome, wealthy, interesting man would go for? If not, then either change yourself into the kind of woman they'd want or else check your expectations.

[Someone here]

I'm accepting the coomer lifestyle . 

Why bother going out and talking to girls who will reject you when you can just watch some porn, rub one out ,and be done with it ??

[Osaid]

On 9/17/2022 at 5:35 AM, Someone here said:

 

I don’t believe in sexual orientation anyways .The type of sexual experiences or fantasy leads us to believe that we are this and that. I have had dreams where I am fucking a guy and also where I am fucking a dog. I also remember having an erection while watching a lioness in youtube. Just search “beautiful lioness”. I can look at this animal and fantasise about having babies with her all day. At the same time I have had huge embarrassing erections while watching a saree covered ass.

These are nothing but associations made by mind i.e, I want to pour this semen somewhere. I know right, funny. Mind is a strange thing.

The people who say that they are gay or lesbian or straight they are controlled by mind. Let’s be honest who on earth has not dreamed about having sex with their similar gender but we don’t do whatever mind says to us. We control our mind. There is no orientation.

I've come to a similar conclusion.

Gender labels are good from a societal standpoint. They're practical. They keep things in order. They're useful. But they are not entirely accurate. Just cause it's useful doesn't mean it's based on truth.

Sexual attraction is too nuanced and fluid to really be put in boxes. You will always find some small instance where you're like "OMG did that really just turn me on... but I thought I was attracted to something else.. how is this possible" and then your brain malfunctions because you convinced yourself that gender always comes in strict labels and boxes.

It reminds me of animals that are classed as herbivores, but will eat animals in favorable situations, like deers eating birds and squirrels. The label herbivore is useful, but not entirely truthful to the nature of the animal.

[Someone here]

14 hours ago, Osaid said:

I've come to a similar conclusion.

Gender labels are good from a societal standpoint. They're practical. They keep things in order. They're useful. But they are not entirely accurate. Just cause it's useful doesn't mean it's based on truth.

Sexual attraction is too nuanced and fluid to really be put in boxes. You will always find some small instance where you're like "OMG did that really just turn me on... but I thought I was attracted to something else.. how is this possible" and then your brain malfunctions because you convinced yourself that gender always comes in strict labels and boxes.

It reminds me of animals that are classed as herbivores, but will eat animals in favorable situations, like deers eating birds and squirrels. The label herbivore is useful, but not entirely truthful to the nature of the animal.

 

There is a “gay gene” but it's much more fluid and unpredictable then a race gene. It's like if you carry the “gay gene" then you not nessesarily are gay, but, people who are gay carry the gene. Also sexuality can be fluid, one of my closest friends identified as bi for 10 years and then came out as lesbian again. This isnt because she was stupid and thought she was attracted to guys for 10 years, she just overtime was less attracted to them (note- I'm not assuming this because of my friends story, there is actual scientific evidence to back this up). A lot of people use the born this way argument against conversion therapy, but it discredits people part of the community who's sexuality is fluid. When saying this, I am absolutely NOT saying that conversion therapy works, because sexuality is still not controllable. That's all I think, I just didnt want any misconceptions to get started up here.

 

Edited September 28, 2022 by Someone here

[Someone here]

Just masturbated few hours ago . And had an explosive orgasm .I didn't cum this hard in a looooong time.  And I figured out it has to do with two things:

1the abstinence period : you see the more you abstain from ejaculation, you build more semen in your testicles. And the more your nutsack are full of cum..the harder will you cum .

2the technique: there are different techniques for masturbation . But through my experimentation...I figured out the ideal way to masturbate and have mind-blowing orgasms.   You basically have to rub the area where the foreskin touches the head. This is the most sensitive area in the penis . Forget about orgasming through massaging the shift or death-gripping the head. Just focus on the area where the shaft meets the head..

And thank  me later 

Edited September 29, 2022 by Someone here

[Someone here]

On a deeper level men are attracted to femine women, not masculine women; which society, is trying so hard to promote. Men also while in relationship; likes peace and no drama. “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”

[Someone here]

Attraction can come from anything. A laugh. A comment. A wink. A nice dress. A smile. The way your hair looks when you look away.

It could come from hands, feet, shoes, a skirt, a pair of baggy jeans that makes someone wonder what’s under them. It can come from a walk or the way someone orders a drink. It’s not something that makes sense and fills a certain number of things on a checklist. Attraction just happens.

The secret is to be able to keep it. THAT’S the part where everyone fails most of the time.

[Someone here]

That sweet moment when you really find a porn video that captures your attention ? 

[Someone here]

A guy like me, never gets a girlfriend.

I have my own priorities. Office, gym, cooking and start-up. From where will a guy like me be able to give time to anyone?

I don't like to hangout for parties, movies and group trips. How could I socialize?

I will wait forever to start a conversation with a girl, breaking the ice is a big deal for me. Introvert.

My honest and straight forward reply can hurt anyone. I can't speak sugar coated lies to please a girl.

I don't believe in casual relationships. Even though we are living in the 21st century, love marriage is a big taboo in India. If I see no future with her I can't ruin anyone's life for my pleasure.

Hope you got an idea of the type of guy who will be single forever.

[Someone here]

If I'm trying to date someone just to get laid, I'd just hire a prostitute instead. Most women I've met sense this kind of intend, since even with moderate levels of attractiveness women get A LOT of attention from men (I'm talking about 3–10 guys trying to get with them at any given time, rough estimate), so they are more experienced at this kind of encounter and will just out right reject you if that's not what they are looking for.

[Someone here]

 

I do believe people are obsessed with sex because they use it as a tool to keep or attract a partner, which very Unhealthy. People need to be educated about LOVE, sex, and relationships, now days they just teach about sex.

When it comes to sex,people have no self control which means they have some mental illness need to seek some professional help.

People are so mislead to believe that you must have sex to see if you're sexually compatible before you can have a relationship with person. Then they wonder why they're still single and sitting on the side lines. Or they have sex with so many people they end up with a bad rep.

Women blindly believe that when they have sex the man is in love with them, 9 times out of 10 he's just using her for a piece. That’s why today people can't distinguish sex from actual LOVE. To love someone,is to love the whole person not just what they have between their legs.

It's sad to see so people obsessed with something that could potentially end your life just by having sex with the wrong person. Now days people just sweep STD’s under the rug and are only concerned about pregnancy, they don't realize birth control DO NOT protect you from diseases.

 

[Someone here]

There is nothing morally wrong about pædophilia.

On the other hand, there is a great deal morally wrong with child molestation.

Unfortunately, a pædophile cannot act on their urges without committing the crime of molestation..so those urges must go unfulfilled. There can be no forgiveness for those who sexually exploit children, who are neither intellectually nor emotionally mature enough to meaningfully consent, and who in addition are always in an inferior social-authority role. Thus a pædophile, though they cannot control or help and therefore shouldn't be blamed for what they find attractive, is trebly unable to enact their desires.

I'm drawing a sharp distinction between pædophiles and child molesters. Am I just being pedantic? No. I think it's very important. Those who are pædophiles but not child molesters should be regarded perhaps with pity, not contempt. Through an accident of birth¹ they're doomed to feel urges they can never ethically act on. They should be supported and provided what care we can give. Whereas child molesters are those (sometimes pædophiles and often not) who most intimately violate those least able to defend themselves and most liable to suffer life-long scars.

[Someone here]

17 hours ago, Someone here said:

There is nothing morally wrong about pædophilia.

On the other hand, there is a great deal morally wrong with child molestation.

Unfortunately, a pædophile cannot act on their urges without committing the crime of molestation..so those urges must go unfulfilled. There can be no forgiveness for those who sexually exploit children, who are neither intellectually nor emotionally mature enough to meaningfully consent, and who in addition are always in an inferior social-authority role. Thus a pædophile, though they cannot control or help and therefore shouldn't be blamed for what they find attractive, is trebly unable to enact their desires.

I'm drawing a sharp distinction between pædophiles and child molesters. Am I just being pedantic? No. I think it's very important. Those who are pædophiles but not child molesters should be regarded perhaps with pity, not contempt. Through an accident of birth¹ they're doomed to feel urges they can never ethically act on. They should be supported and provided what care we can give. Whereas child molesters are those (sometimes pædophiles and often not) who most intimately violate those least able to defend themselves and most liable to suffer life-long scars.

Just to make this clear :

A child molester is a person who molests a child.

A pedophile is a person who is attracted to prepubescent children (specifically ages 6–10).

As you can tell by the definitions of these two words, the former is a sex offender and the latter is merely a person with an attraction.

Most pedophiles never offend, and the vast majority of child sexual abusers are situational offenders (non-pedophiles). Attraction is a rare motivator for abuse.

[Someone here]

Trying to exit the coomer mentality

It is so easy these days to succumb to our primitive instincts and fall into a routine of eating, sleeping, jerking off and messing around. I know so many people who just fill their bored time with being horny and jerking off/having sex or wanting to have a girlfriend. 

It is kind of sad how millions of people just make that their daily life and are satisfied with it. It seems like if you do not attempt to give your life meaning you just fall into the same spiral.

What is worse is when fucking society does not help you give your life some meaning. I have been applying for research positions for the past month or so and I am waiting on their reply and it is killing me. It is so hard to prove your self worth to people these days, that you genuinely care/ trying to care about something bigger than you.

[Someone here]

I do want to get married one day. I think that's the natural course of life .even though I still haven't figured out how .it seems like a faint idea floating around my  mind and I'm not sure how it's gonna happen.  I mean I'm shy and struggling with dating. 

But having children is I big ass giant ass NO for me . And that's for ethical reasons. I feel that giving birth to a human being to live in this horrible world is horrible enough. No one asks for your opinion if you want to be born .

[Someone here]

What we fantasize about sexually doesn't always align with societal norms and values and this is why we get embarrassed and ashamed when we think about them or even think of discussing them. It is time that we as a society accept that sexual fantasies are absolutely normal and most adults have them.

[Someone here]

I can quite easily sit next to a glass of water, and not drink it.

It takes 0 effort on my part, there is not even a temptation to drink some random glass of water that’s been sitting around like that, if I even notice it in the first place.

But if I were very very thirsty?

Any liquid would start to look quite appealing.

I’d look at that glass of water differently.

It could become a kind of torture, to be forced to sit next to a glass of water, and not drink it, while slowly getting more and more thirsty.

At some point, I might not be able to stand it, I’d drink the water, or leave, but not just sit there next to it slowly dying of thirst.

If someone reaches out to me, I can quite easily shake their hand, and then let go.

If I was falling, and someone reached out to me, I’d cling to their hand, potentially to the point of hurting them a bit.

It’s possible for a man and a woman to be friends, if each one has an independent romantic and/or sexual life, and other friends, and family (blood or not), and so on. If their needs are generally being met.

But if one of them is desperate?

Then it’s going to be hard for them not to cling on to the only thing they have, or the only person they have.

It’s natural for people to want more than just a friend.

Edited October 16, 2022 by Someone here