How do I relieve sexual urges?

[Illusory Self]

I am a man and currently have not watched porn or fapped for like 4 days and feeling so agitated. I constantly keep on thinking about women, checking my phone. Almost thinking about fucking anything but I really don't know how to relieve these sexual urges. What emotion am I experiencing. 

 

I currently feel extremely irritated and frustrated that I have all this energy and just really want to have sex right now with a really attractive women so I can feel more calm and at peace. So my mind can be at rest and at ease.

 

I wish the sexual urges would stop but I feel like it is hard to live without watching porn and fapping. I get so much sexual energy and excitement. I feel more motivated to conquer in life so I am trying to actually not watch that much porn but at the same time when I get like this, my mind is constantly on the topic of having sex with any women and feeling horny like 24/7. It has not even been that long. 

 

Is this like a good practice to try and control my urges and emotions but at the same time I don't want to supress them. I am experimenting to see if keeping all this vital life force within me will give me more energy during the day and it does seem to be doing so but my mind is going loose, constantly thinking about women.

 

I really don't know how to control my mind in these states of extreme frustration and agitation of really just almost wanting a 'realease'. 

 

Is there away to relieve my urges without watching porn/fapping? 

 

I want to train my mind not to think about women even when I have a lot of sexual energy

[Snader]

Deep breathing throughout the day is said to move sexual energy in your body, so that it doesn't get stuck in the genital area or your head.

Might sound like woo-woo, but give it a shot. Deep, proper, regular breathing has had an enormous effect not only to my sexual urges and performance, but also to my ability to be present and generally out of my head.

Dedicate 5-10 minutes 3 times a day to just breathing. Sit down, set a timer and just focus on deep breathing. First, inhale deeply into your belly, from lower to upper belly, then to your solar plexus and finally to your lower and upper chest. Exhale slowly and fully. Make this a full smooth movement that you keep repeating. You can practise this throughout the day whenever you catch your breath shallow. You can really do it anywhere while doing pretty much anything.

Try that for a few weeks and see if it works for you.

Besides that as a general advice, having something to do and something to proactively put your energy into usually makes a big difference. That way your mind simply has no time to dwell in the sea of sexual fantasy.

[Salvijus]

Your only hope is to adopt some spiritual practice and use it to purify your mind and develop self-awareness/equanimity. If u have an authentic practice going, these urges will drop away at some point. Forcing and suppressing yourself too much is probably not very healthy.

I think also if someone performs lots of physical activity he may be able to exhaust that sexual energy into physical action.

Edited August 11, 2022 by Salvijus

[Raze]

Masturbate, but only once a week at the same day and time every week, and don’t use porn or your imagination, instead close your eyes and focus on the sensations