Ayham

so.. should i start working on my life purpose?

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Congrats for me! I finished the whole course, did all the exercises except negative values release since i did not choose one.

anyways, here it is:

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so aside from not being sure and thinking if i have the wrong life purpose, the domain of mastery and ideal medium are probably wrong, because i really felt for nothing in the ideal medium.

while in the DoM, i chose personal development, but i don't think it is quite right, maybe philosophy is better, which is why i bought philosophy books, to get a feel for it then decide.

values and strengths are almost fully right.

the goals are for this year, don't mind them.

so here is my question, and i contemplated this, but i want other perspectives:

as a teenager, should i start working towards my life purpose or just continue with basic personal development?

currently it is holiday so i can do both, in school i can fit in mediation + reading, maybe something else occasionally but no more on a daily basis. or maybe start working towards life purpose in college? maybe just continue exploring to see whats there, maybe there is something more true to me than this work.

the problem is that i have been interested in personal development and spirituality since 12/13, so i have not explored other fields, so maybe my real passion lies somewhere in another field, but i cant think of something that sparks me up except this stuff, maybe i got interested in this from the beginning because it is true to me?

i really cant know.

when i contemplated this here is what i came to: continue meditating, reading, eating healthy, etc and explore stuff as i like, gather experience from life, and if for example i need something right now to be able to accomplish my life purpose (like learning programming to study university in turkey, so i can go from turkey to Canada after i graduate since going to Canada from here will be difficult) i will do that.

but what is bugging me is that i will miss the opportunity to start the mastery process early, but how can i start it if i have doubts about my DoM, and even if i was sure, i wont be able to fit it in school days.

so i want perspectives.

thanks in advance.

 

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The issue is how vague your life purpose is…

”to find answers that will make people reach their full human potential” gives me little idea what you’ll actually be doing.

I mean it seems evident that it’s important for you to help people. That’s a good start and I applaud you for taking on that pursuit.

However you’re so young still. I think you should focus on exploration. You’re off to a great start. Keep doing personal development and try lots of new things.

Then come back to the LPC every couple of years and go through it again as you learn yourself more (that’s what I’ve done over the last 6 years or so).

Your life purpose will get more clear as you gain that life experience.

For the time being, learning programming sounds like a great place to start


The game of survival cannot be won. 

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Hello Merk :)

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”to find answers that will make people reach their full human potential” gives me little idea what you’ll actually be doing.

well i do have a problem in the wording, but i mean something like finding answers to questions by doing research on them, like combining ideas from the best of the best in the field i want to answer the question in, then combining it with my own experience, then making it super practical and road-map like, then present it in a way that if applied expands the persons potential to extraordinary levels.

so i will be working with people in person to see their growth .

like i will be making personal development techniques/ideas/etc. that are original and holistic that combine the work of the best people in the field, specialized and adjusted to the person/persons i am working with.

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However you’re so young still. I think you should focus on exploration. You’re off to a great start. Keep doing personal development and try lots of new things.

Then come back to the LPC every couple of years and go through it again as you learn yourself more (that’s what I’ve done over the last 6 years or so).

yeah i can do that, i might do that until i am like 21 then settle with something and go with it full force.

thank you for your answer merk, i have seen you before here, good luck with your life purpose!

 

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@Ayham

23 hours ago, Ayham said:

Congrats for me! I finished the whole course, did all the exercises except negative values release since i did not choose one.

anyways, here it is:

image_2022-06-26_19-17-48.png

so aside from not being sure and thinking if i have the wrong life purpose, the domain of mastery and ideal medium are probably wrong, because i really felt for nothing in the ideal medium.

while in the DoM, i chose personal development, but i don't think it is quite right, maybe philosophy is better, which is why i bought philosophy books, to get a feel for it then decide.

values and strengths are almost fully right.

the goals are for this year, don't mind them.

so here is my question, and i contemplated this, but i want other perspectives:

as a teenager, should i start working towards my life purpose or just continue with basic personal development?

currently it is holiday so i can do both, in school i can fit in mediation + reading, maybe something else occasionally but no more on a daily basis. or maybe start working towards life purpose in college? maybe just continue exploring to see whats there, maybe there is something more true to me than this work.

the problem is that i have been interested in personal development and spirituality since 12/13, so i have not explored other fields, so maybe my real passion lies somewhere in another field, but i cant think of something that sparks me up except this stuff, maybe i got interested in this from the beginning because it is true to me?

i really cant know.

when i contemplated this here is what i came to: continue meditating, reading, eating healthy, etc and explore stuff as i like, gather experience from life, and if for example i need something right now to be able to accomplish my life purpose (like learning programming to study university in turkey, so i can go from turkey to Canada after i graduate since going to Canada from here will be difficult) i will do that.

but what is bugging me is that i will miss the opportunity to start the mastery process early, but how can i start it if i have doubts about my DoM, and even if i was sure, i wont be able to fit it in school days.

so i want perspectives.

thanks in advance.

 

   Nice list, I'll share mine so that we can have something to compare and contrast to:

   Generalized purpose: Understanding life, to be a creator and contribute to the world.

   specialized purpose: To become a freelance illustrator, comic book artist, writer and web developer.

   Domain of mastery: Analogue/digital drawing, semi realism.

   Ideal medium: penciling mostly due to availability, value scale and tones, and inking from a range of ballpoint pens, to roller ball pens, gels pens, fine liners and calligraphy pens for line quality and variations. Ideally on charcoal paper or marker paper for more stylish genres. Using a printer to fax, and clip art studio drawing program for digital art work, as an illustration like a cover page or a manga like comic strip.

   ten years mastery plan: first two years will heavily study human anatomy and gesture drawing human poses and movements, as that's one key area and skill that's important in comics, then another 1 or 2 on composition, followed by another 2-3 years of perspective drawing and 3 years of studying color theory and drawing different textures. Additional 2-3 years of studying western comics and manga for further inspiration and requisite variate. For writing not so much as I've already had several years of writing and reading other author blogs on how they outline complex stories, to techniques in actually writing.

   top ten values: competency, understanding, consciousness, creativity, independence, excellence, uniqueness, health, beauty, enlightenment, paranormal.

   top five feelings daily: Serenity, happiness, excitement, optimism, pride, confidence, creativity.

   top five character strengths: Appreciation of beauty and excellence, curiosity, love, gratitude, hope, kindness, faith.

   zone of genius: Visualization, chess, 3d thinking, psychic intuition, tulpamancy, playing video games, voice impersonation and tone, freestyle rapping, mentally listening to music, shadow boxing, meditation, detachment.

   top ten plus year end resolutions:

Create a novel that has some sci-fi and high fantasy, with a bit of mystery, and several short stories with a mix of horror, comedy and romance. I aim to first go through idea generations, then take that list and completely outline every manuscript first, story and character plots using Black Snyder's save the cat beat sheet, even though it's screen writing it has practical use for novelists and short story writers and works well enough, but I also implement Larry Brook's complex story plot, whose outline while is for action or thriller genre stories, has solid beats and outlines nicely with the story plot. Thomas Campbell's Highest hero's journey is also good too, in case I feel more drive towards converting the manuscripts into commercial products. aim for 1-10 pages a day, as I suffer from laziness, boredom and tiredness I have to be careful not to burn out too early, nothing worse than getting all excited for a project, then suddenly lose the drive to accomplish your goals.

Create a piece of artwork everyday, that uses all mediums I can get my hands on, from graphite to charcoal to inks to paints, of all variations of tools. Also to study other styles of artists, keeping a catalogue, and a sandbox zone where I experiment and mix around styles. I do this because of a heavy bias for visuals, and I've found that while Leo's method of understanding is more better and effective, it's a bit logical to me, and tends to trigger too much boredom/laziness, so what I did was to contemplate while drawing more than by writing questions and answering them.

To create a website, so that I can stay independent from other social media sources and practice front end and back end coding skills. I aim to ideally make one from scratch, but if there's energy or time constraints will be buying a domain.

To study personal development, blame Leo Gura for inspiration, but also I notice patterns throughout my life of self sabotaging, related to my fears, weaknesses in my character, limiting beliefs that are negative but also some that are positive that serve my ego, my stage of development being lower than I have anticipated. I am ultimately my own worst enemy, so to win this war I have to stay vigilant or I am screwed.

To be on Nofap for a year, hard mode. Also to practice semen retention. Reason is I'm still single, mid twenties white male, struggling for work, living with family. So, dating/intimate relationships is much harder for me, however this is a good opportunity to see for myself proposed benefits, as I've had experienced a few times. Not doing this for more attraction or porn addiction, got a healthy enough outlook of my sexuality and pornography that demonizing these makes me feel like a whiney girl, I'm doing this for more energy, generally better mood, and to be a bit more healthier, as I'm more sensitive to effects of frequent lose of semen. To also get more creativity.

To have a lean, healthy energized body, 125 to 130 pounds, or 57 to 60 kilos, 12 to 15% body fat. Speed and strength, which means isometrics mostly and modified forms tailored o me. After that some jogging and mostly long walks for cardio. Runs, swimming, running and  eliptical machine not ideal for cardio as I've got high blood pressure, may be from slightly too much sugar or salt, not ideal with isometrics and other strength training, but I take 10 plus minutes of break time to decompress per set for longer. In fact, just allowing myself longer rest times gives me enough cardio workout as my heart rate raises to meet stress and oxygen supply demands, but also lowers down to match with longer rest times.

To meditate for half an hour to an hour a day, every night, in my bedroom using special pillows and occasional music. Also mindfulness with labelling to help with detachment of aspects of reality relating to negativity.

To contemplate for hours a day psychological and existential topics. Similar to coding and writing, don't like the process at first but after some grind and building up familiarity, I start to enjoy it more, so I aim to get better at this, try to get comfy with being philosophical, hopefully get better. Start light and with topics that naturally interest me first first, for example art and it's sub fields, then sprinkle in existential topics or psychological topics, then follow that with another thing that interests me, so that I mitigate boredom.

To build up my concentration skills. More and more, in today's Era of advancing internet technologies and social media, social media use has had some negative effects on attention span. I've noticed how this has slightly effected my ability to focus, and have had a history of playing video games ahs had slightly more of an effect on my focus. My aim is to develop laser like focus, for up to an hour of concentration, so that I can do deep  work(by Kyle Newport), mindfulness meditation effectively and to one day experience mystical or paranormal experiences related to concentration.

Unconditional happiness, love, and self acceptance. I progressively seem to notice that I'm thinking and feeling more negatively, and with certain people and groups of people, and in some circumstances, which builds up unnecessary stress. I will be building up more skills to be more loving so that from that I release unnecessary stress.

 

 

   

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Yes. Just start. Action is 10x more important than theory. 

Don't learn and introspect and then start — this is a subtle, sneaky form of procrastination.

Start, then learn and introspect. 

Your life purpose isn't permanently set in stone when you pick it. You will be constantly honing it through theory & introspection for the rest of your life, but you first need to have a base of experience to introspect on in the first place.

Action tends to self-correct itself as you are constantly getting feedback. You can't get feedback from theory alone though, because theory doesn't meet the rubber with the road, only action does. 

If you start taking action on your life purpose now, 6 months later you'll have a new vantage point from which you can determine whether this is your real purpose or whether you would want to do something different — because you will be introspecting based on direct experience. 

But if you don't take any action, 6 months later you will be at the same vantage point you are at now, so you won't truly know if this is for you because you have no base of experience to reflect on. 

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@Danioover9000 Wow! what a list, i like how you have everything detailed out.

thats something i noticed i need.

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@Vision great points.

so "exploring" my interests using my life purpose.

if i notice i am not that passionate at whatever it is, i use the course again to specify my life purpose using the knowledge i gained about myself from practice, practice will inform theory.

then repeat, keep adjusting it in the micro and macro level.

until at 21 i will go with whatever i end up with in this exploration process, a lifelong commitment :).

thank you for your reply.

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2 hours ago, Ayham said:

until at 21 i will go with whatever i end up with in this exploration process, a lifelong commitment :).

Be careful with that. You don't want to use this as an excuse to dabble around interests until you're 21. 

The exploration is important but it's counterproductive to stay in it for too long. Most of your progress and results will come from sticking with something.

If you think you're resonating with something before 21 — and it doesn't have to be perfect — then go with that. Go with it as soon as you can, not until you're 21.

Even when you're 21+, you can always change your path down the line. Your values and goals always evolve, they're very likely not going to stay the exact same all throughout your life. It wouldn't be a waste of time if you were to change paths since you'd have learned from your experience.

The earlier you start, the better.

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