Egoic Love Vs Unconditional Love

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Egoic Love    ||    Unconditional Love

 

• Is an impure form of Unconditional Love    ||    Is Self itself, the pure unity or oneness of Presence (aka existence, the absolute)
• Based on pleasure and pain, and so has an opposite – the hate    ||    Non-dual (There is no Unconditional hate, you see)
• A behaviour that assists in survival    ||    An attribute of the Presence itself
• Originates from the needs    ||    Originates from the knowledge that everything is just Self(Consciousness), there is no separation of any kind
• Needs an agent to trigger, vanishes in absence of it    ||    Has no beginning or end, eternally present
• Exclusive to the object of love    ||    All inclusive. It is seen as love for everything
• The person become indifferent towards other things or other people whom he does not love    ||    The person shows no indifference towards anyone or anything, he acts in exactly the same manner with all
• Objects or people are seen as sources of pleasure and happiness    ||    Objects and people are seen as receivers of love, the person himself is the source
• Easily turns into hate when the person does not get the love and happiness in return    ||    Remains as strong as before, it demands nothing
• Conditional by very nature    ||    Absolutely unconditional
• The person in love tends to become possessive and restricts the object of love    ||    Non-possessive, takes no ownership, respects freedom of others and remains free
• Is about give and take    ||    Is about just giving, takes nothing, lacks nothing
• The person gets easily attached and dependent on the object of love    ||    Remains detached and independent
• Causes suffering and pain when the object of love is gone    ||    Remains peaceful and happy as ever, has nothing to do with the objects or people
• Forms relations and bonds, tries to keep others tied    ||    Does not form bonds, needs no relations, no names for relations, needs nothing at all
• When bonded in relations, the person demands love, care, security, resources, time or money. Demands anything that ensures survival    ||    Demands are non-existent, instead the person serves others selflessly. Remains friendly and helpful in all situations
• Love becomes an expression of lust when in sexual relations, a means of fulfilling procreative tendencies of the Ego    ||    Knows no gender, is same for all, irrespective of gender, age, locality, time. Has nothing to do with Ego and its procreative functions, or bodies.
• Has degrees of intensity from neutral to extreme love    ||    Is same always, cannot be quantified or weighed, doesn’t increase or decrease
• Has degrees of quality from extreme hate to extreme obsession    ||    Is always of same quality and purity
• Evokes actions that either enhance love or maintain it    ||    Nothing needs to be done
• Results in jealously when the exclusiveness is threatened    ||    Since it is all inclusive, all are an object of love
• Is fickle, easily changes from one object to the other, or one person to the other    ||    Is changeless, since all remain as Self all the time. Is all inclusive.
• The person is always afraid of the loss of loved object or person    ||    Is fearless, there are no objects or people
• Causes anger when the expectations are not met    ||    Has no expectations
• The loved person is forced to comply with the expectations, however inconvenient, in order to maintain the love (or relation)    ||    The person is always free, no one can force him, he gives nothing and takes nothing
• Deteriorates with the age and looks of the beloved    ||    Does not depend on the structures, mental or physical
• Is impulsive    ||    Is actionless
• Is subject to P2P (continuous exposure to the loved object or person causes indifference eventually)    ||    Always remains steady, does not change with mental states
• The beloved manipulates the lover in order to get the needs fulfilled    ||    A receiver of the love gets nothing except love, there is nothing else to give
• Modulates one’s actions, influences decisions    ||    Remains uninfluenced and conscious
• Tries to change the other to suit his needs better    ||    Accepts everyone as they are, sees perfection in all
• Sees love as an achievement, competes to get more, its about getting more and more    ||    Has an unlimited love already for all, its about giving more and more
• Is a sign of ignorance    ||    Is a sign of knowledge and wisdom

 

The above is a snippet from my blog - link, if you are interested in reading more about what love is. Be warned that the views there are not for "ordinary people" and such people may get a shock of their lives if they read it all. Your rainbow coloured fluffy ideas about love will be destroyed. Its mainly for seekers, who are open to things as they are. Don't blame me if it changes you forever, I warned you

 

[Shin]

Exactly !

Now, chop chop !