Max8

is self criticism bad for us ?

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i do criticize myself harshly when i make a mistake or fail 

i mean really harshly i feel very terrible and talk to myself in a very harsh way that you could hear me screaming :D

and i enjoy it to be honest i dont know why 

i deeply feel like it's effective method to get my ass moving 

 

but lately i have been having great procrastination and fear of doing the work im assuming thats due to fear of failure and victimhood 

i dont know if there is other effective way to motivate myself 

and i dont know if i should keep this habit or not 

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No. Excessive, compulsive and recursive self-criticism can be.


Intrinsic joy is revealed in the marriage of meaning and being.

 

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29 minutes ago, Max8 said:

i do criticize myself harshly when i make a mistake or fail 

i mean really harshly i feel very terrible and talk to myself in a very harsh way that you could hear me screaming :D

and i enjoy it to be honest i dont know why 

i deeply feel like it's effective method to get my ass moving 

 

but lately i have been having great procrastination and fear of doing the work im assuming thats due to fear of failure and victimhood 

i dont know if there is other effective way to motivate myself 

and i dont know if i should keep this habit or not 

You are a victim of perfectionism. You probably grew up in an environment that normalized this as being tough. Its a form of tough love, and it can serve a purpose....but in truth any judgment of yourself does damage. How you talk to yourself is also how you will talk to others ultimately and how you will view the world at large. 

You should be kinder to yourself, as a finite being you are going to make mistakes. To be human is to be imperfect, and that imperfection is actually perfection. In every moment of your life seek to become more aware of the different aspects of what you are....and then embrace it all. Allow your life to be a life-long session of love of yourself.


The same strength, the same level of desire it takes to change your life, is the same strength, the same level of desire it takes to end your life. Notice you are headed towards one or the other. - Razard86

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As it's good to be your own best friend, sometimes you must also learn to be your own best critic. 


"Those who have suffered understand suffering and therefore extend their hand." --Patti Smith

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37 minutes ago, VioletFlame said:

As it's good to be your own best friend, sometimes you must also learn to be your own best critic. 

If you are going to critique yourself be gentle.....you only need to kick yourself in the bum sometimes. Extend a hand of kindness only slap yourself out of stubborness lol.

 

3 hours ago, Max8 said:

i do criticize myself harshly when i make a mistake or fail 

i mean really harshly i feel very terrible and talk to myself in a very harsh way that you could hear me screaming :D

and i enjoy it to be honest i dont know why 

i deeply feel like it's effective method to get my ass moving 

 

but lately i have been having great procrastination and fear of doing the work im assuming thats due to fear of failure and victimhood 

i dont know if there is other effective way to motivate myself 

and i dont know if i should keep this habit or not 

 

Watch this video by Leo. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uk2dvilKdRo


The same strength, the same level of desire it takes to change your life, is the same strength, the same level of desire it takes to end your life. Notice you are headed towards one or the other. - Razard86

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You need some degree of self-criticism to be constantly improving. But too much and you become neurotic or suffer self-esteem issues.

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be ten times as hard on yourself as you are on others, don't criticise yourself, just do the damn work no excuses

become master of your ship - and quick

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On 2/6/2022 at 4:23 AM, Max8 said:

i do criticize myself harshly when i make a mistake or fail 

i mean really harshly i feel very terrible and talk to myself in a very harsh way that you could hear me screaming :D

and i enjoy it to be honest i dont know why 

i deeply feel like it's effective method to get my ass moving 

 

but lately i have been having great procrastination and fear of doing the work im assuming thats due to fear of failure and victimhood 

i dont know if there is other effective way to motivate myself 

and i dont know if i should keep this habit or not 

This is a great question.

Your mind is going to do it anyway because this is simply how most of us are designed, aka the human body where emotional reality meets the projective mental reality that inserts identity creation in between the two.

Information, is essentially a mirror, especially the more we take the time to contemplate any one word and bring an imaginative reality to it, aka recursion. This means, that once you separate identity from mind and emotion as well as mind and emotion from the perspective of how they influence each other, you can exercise free will be strategically using information to mirror against, aka from self correction (aka criticism) which is related to needs around self mastery to self creation, which takes advantage of self mastery by understanding how an identity is created first and foremost in order for self criticism to arise and then strategically uses information in a way that shapes identity by understanding it as a mirror used in the creativity of shaping our identity.

As I look into myself in the moment, I can feel in simultaneity the stressors of mastery, the self comprehension I gather through this and the modulation of the theatre around self criticism. These forces in combination subconsciously engineer my existential position in the present moment, this position is binded and moulded from the perspective of my ever present connection to the continuity of life whether I accept that or not, the conditioning and growth conditioning that those forces have undergone up to this point combined with the sentient “hardware” that exists that allows my position to use this existential object of “free will” as a meditative reference point to satisfy the conditions of self-creation. This is my binding element as a sentience in this particular biological form, perhaps if my consciousness or “spirit” was in another biological form or techno-biological form we could instruct, utilise and implement novel forces that create novel chain reactions which shape the information we use as a mirror in return to define our state and therefore, this spectrum of “criticism” of our existential position to “affirmation” of it.

In short no when this “mechanism” is used intelligently intelligent things start to happen (as with the use of all our “mechanisms” in this regard), you have to learn about the forces of control you have here, experiment with what emotionally and intellectually works, what doesn’t, and don’t hesitate from repeated implementation and improvement from there from all perspectives.

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