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Opening up about my sexuality and concerns

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28 minutes ago, Someone here said:

I don't have to try sex with a guy .i don't find the physical appearance of a guy attractive sexually. Just the dick is what turns me on .besides that I'm all for a girl . Her hair..her lips .her tits ..her butt etc

But only if girls had a dick that would be perfect ?

Lmao that's a tricky one isn't it. 

23 minutes ago, Someone here said:

Maybe I need to get over that one  

Sounds like it. I am already feeling kinda bad for whoever the first girl you're gonna be with xD


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6 minutes ago, Seed said:

. I wouldnt want to be sexually involved with a women but I think a naked female body and vagina is far more sexier than a man. Just on looks. 

This is strange. On the one hand you say a female body is hotter than a male body ..yet you prefer to have sex with a man !

Is that because of cultural conditioning? 

Because you seem to be lesbian or bi at the very least. 


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28 minutes ago, T_i_m said:

That's certainly not uncommon. A lot of straight guys like to watch it. Nothing to be embarrassed about. 

I consider it abnormal and twisted.  Shouldn't I be watching regular straight porn?


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7 minutes ago, Someone here said:

This is strange. On the one hand you say a female body is hotter than a male body ..yet you prefer to have sex with a man !

Is that because of cultural conditioning? 

Because you seem to be lesbian or bi at the very least. 

I just dont like the idea of touching or engaging in sexual contact. I prefer that with a man. I don't have to find something attrative looking to want to be fucked by it. It's about the person, the energy, the connection, the chemisty. I dont get any of that with a woman.

 

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1 hour ago, Someone here said:

What do you find appealing about a pussy ? It's literally just a passive hole .

It's where you put your eel in man. 

It seems like all of this confusion comes from being a virgin and watching too much porn. 

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45 minutes ago, Someone here said:

What do you find appealing about a pussy ? It's literally just a passive hole .

I'm physically and emotionally attracted to women but whenever looking at vagina in porn it grosses me out. I'm a virgin so I hope in sex that I'm not grossed out by the girl's vagina. It's always looked disgusting to me but does the pleasure one feels in sex overcome how nasty it looks? This is probably a strange situation or are there other guys like this?

Maybe I need to get over that one  Maybe i should look at a real one properly close up (stick my tongue in there whilst  at it) and see that after all, it's just a bit of the body. All pussies are a little different any way. 

If I my add to the conversation, the fact that you call a vagina a passive hole says SO much. I would invite you to rethink your relationship with women and the divine feminine, because we shall all agree that if the vagina was a "passive" hole you would not have come out of it, right? The womb hides the secrets of the universe. Having a bad relationship with the sacred feminine means denying your own true nature. How could you love the female body, breasts and ass and reject the center where everything comes from?

I have never had sex with a woman but I would be open to it, I'm not grossed out by vaginas. I am super attracted to dicks but I think vaginas are beautiful and like Leo said a work of art, there is no comparison both are marvelous in their own way. I also feel a sense of envy when you say that women don't feel drained and have full body orgasms. I would invite you to investigate that too. 

Question it from a place of curiosity, not from a defensive one. 

Wishing you love in your journey, and remember we don't even know you, our opinion does not matter, what matters if how you feel with yourself.


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@MsNobody  sorry if I offended you by my calling it "passive hole ".  I should be careful in picking my words .

I'm 25  hetero dude who thinks all vaginas are gross. I didn't have a normal sex life, but as I've gotten older it's become more and more difficult to even look at the female genitalia. I'm not putting down women or anything like that, I realize this is totally my issue, but what I wonder is am I the only one who feels this way? I don't know if this is a normal part of aging or what, but I've stopped watching porn altogether. I can deal with that as long as I don't have to see the pussy . A woman could be beautiful and she's a clean person; it's not hygiene, it's just the appearance. It grosses me out. And it's not just hers; it's all of them.

Is this normal? For a while I thought it might mean I was gay or something, but I have no attraction to men at all. This seems like such a stupid problem to have, but I'm really confused about what it could mean and it's really distracting to have this crap jump into my head while I'm trying to work or whatever.


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@Someone here Ok here's the thing.... it might be weird but when I was in your shoes years ago, I also found vaginas to be gross to look at (at that time I had also felt embarrassed about my own). Fast forward to when I actually experienced sex and felt accepted for all of my body parts, that was when I also started to change my feelings around the vagina.

And similar to what @Seed was saying, nowadays I do find the female body to be very attractive/appealing, but I'm not bisexual or want sex with women (maybe in very rare circumstances with a butch kind of girl who I had chemistry with but that hasn't happened yet). 


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1 hour ago, Someone here said:

What do you find appealing about a pussy ? It's literally just a passive hole .

I'm physically and emotionally attracted to women but whenever looking at vagina in porn it grosses me out. I'm a virgin so I hope in sex that I'm not grossed out by the girl's vagina. It's always looked disgusting to me but does the pleasure one feels in sex overcome how nasty it looks? This is probably a strange situation or are there other guys like this?

Maybe I need to get over that one  Maybe i should look at a real one properly close up (stick my tongue in there whilst  at it) and see that after all, it's just a bit of the body. All pussies are a little different any way. 

Yeah a lot of virgin guys feel that way about a vagina until they penetrate it and then their entire perspective shifts and they can see the beauty in the vagina. You only feel this way because you are a virgin, the moment you lose your virginity (if it is a good experience) then you will see vaginas as pretty. 


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21 minutes ago, puporing said:

@Someone here Ok here's the thing.... it might be weird but when I was in your shoes years ago, I also found vaginas to be gross to look at (at that time I had also felt embarrassed about my own). Fast forward to when I actually experienced sex and felt accepted for all of my body parts, that was when I also started to change my feelings around the vagina.

And similar to what @Seed was saying, nowadays I do find the female body to be very attractive/appealing, but I'm not bisexual or want sex with women (maybe in very rare circumstances with a butch kind of girl who I had chemistry with but that hasn't happened yet). 

To be honest it's probably fine with me. I i don't wanna fix it.

genitalia is actually pretty gross looking, despite some people saying they're 'beautiful'. it's a buncha exposed organs. not much that's very nice looking about it. i think genitals overall are kinda gross to look at, vaginas especially  it doesn't mean im gay or have to question anything about my  sexuality. it doesn't mean I'm a terrible person either.some people are into the look of genials but generally it's the feeling that people are into, not the appearance of people's junk.


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16 minutes ago, Razard86 said:

Yeah a lot of virgin guys feel that way about a vagina until they penetrate it and then their entire perspective shifts and they can see the beauty in the vagina. You only feel this way because you are a virgin, the moment you lose your virginity (if it is a good experience) then you will see vaginas as pretty. 

Maybe.  I did have a blowjob from a hooker few weeks ago..so I'm not sure if I'm technically a virgin or not .but I never fucked a pussy before.  And I don't have a problem with that. I just find the physical appearance of a vagina gross .that's all.


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You don't have to look at it by the way. Shy girls like to have sex in dark. Still you'll  be  looking at her face\boobs\ back\ ass most of the time and won't even notice visually  that there is some vagina. So I wouldn't worry about it so much

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I would say if you are attracted to men then you are gay. Not because you like to see a dick. It might just remind you of your own and you like to see yourself in others, I don't know. Don't just believe everything Leo says. Things are more complicated than that.

Also no one is 100% gay or straight. So your levels may be 60% straight and 40% gay, or 50/50. I have a gay friend who says he likes women too, but only about 30%. That shocked me to hear it from a gay guy. But it did open my eyes more.

 

And yes, man can have hours long orgasms. I've read stories of people explaining about them like being in DMT world, with pure whiteness and some form of connection to God, among other things, just pure ecstasy.

 

So, one way would be that tantric option that Leo mentioned. If you want to go this way, you can try reading The Multi Orgasmin Man by Mantak Chia. I'm reading that book right now. It involves practices like imagining your sexual energy in you and then trying to move it with your thoughts to your head, and some other stuff.

 

And then another option is massaging your G-spot - your prostate. This is the part where I've read the stories mentioned above. I've been trying to achieve this for 7 years now, but for me it's difficult. Some people take longer, some people get it in the first few tries. There's a lot of rewiring to be made because we are only used to the penile orgasms. But it's is a whole different world out there. Stories of people lying on the bed, having endless orgasm after orgasm, with only seconds apart, lasting for hours, without ejaculating. Pure bliss.

Google Super-O for that ultimate orgasm.

 

 

And check out subreddits r/ProstatePlay and r/Aneros. There's people explaining how they made it work.

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10 minutes ago, mojsterr said:

I would say if you are attracted to men then you are gay. Not because you like to see a dick. It might just remind you of your own and you like to see yourself in others, I don't know. Don't just believe everything Leo says. Things are more complicated than that.

Also no one is 100% gay or straight. So your levels may be 60% straight and 40% gay, or 50/50. I have a gay friend who says he likes women too, but only about 30%. That shocked me to hear it from a gay guy. But it did open my eyes more.

 

And yes, man can have hours long orgasms. I've read stories of people explaining about them like being in DMT world, with pure whiteness and some form of connection to God, among other things, just pure ecstasy.

 

So, one way would be that tantric option that Leo mentioned. If you want to go this way, you can try reading The Multi Orgasmin Man by Mantak Chia. I'm reading that book right now. It involves practices like imagining your sexual energy in you and then trying to move it with your thoughts to your head, and some other stuff.

 

And then another option is massaging your G-spot - your prostate. This is the part where I've read the stories mentioned above. I've been trying to achieve this for 7 years now, but for me it's difficult. Some people take longer, some people get it in the first few tries. There's a lot of rewiring to be made because we are only used to the penile orgasms. But it's is a whole different world out there. Stories of people lying on the bed, having endless orgasm after orgasm, with only seconds apart, lasting for hours, without ejaculating. Pure bliss.

Google Super-O for that ultimate orgasm.

 

 

And check out subreddits r/ProstatePlay and r/Aneros. There's people explaining how they made it work.

Dude.. It was so weird for me to find out that most men don't see it this way too. I asked before about this on reddit and people just started downvoting me for some reason. It just blows my mind that no one seems to understand how I feel !

The thing is I like everything about the female's body ..except the pussy . I watched tranny porn and it turns me on so much to see a girl with a dick .

Am i normal ?


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1 hour ago, Someone here said:

Dude.. It was so weird for me to find out that most men don't see it this way too. I asked before about this on reddit and people just started downvoting me for some reason. It just blows my mind that no one seems to understand how I feel !

The thing is I like everything about the female's body ..except the pussy . I watched tranny porn and it turns me on so much to see a girl with a dick .

Am i normal ?

Of course you are normal, you just have different sexual preferences :D

And of course people on reddit downvoted you. It's a place of normies, don't expect any deep understanding from them.

 

I don't know what to tell you about you not liking pussy. The only thing that I question about is if I have feelings for men or women. This is what defines my sexual orientation. And I also like a dick on a guy, but that's because I too have a dick. To me it's a "high-five" kind of thing. I love everything about the penis. But I do love pussy. So I don't know what to tell you about this. You have to figure it out for yourself.

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@Someone here Dude, you are totally normal. I started having the same experience as you recently, the attraction to dick and I love it -_- but I am also attracted to men. Sometimes I even lose all my attraction to women. Bisexuality is amazing, embrace it, don't reject it.


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54 minutes ago, LSD-Rumi said:

@Someone here Dude, you are totally normal. I started having the same experience as you recently, the attraction to dick and I love it -_- but I am also attracted to men. Sometimes I even lose all my attraction to women. Bisexuality is amazing, embrace it, don't reject it.

Does that just happen recently or were you born like this? 

I mean in the age of puberty..what were you attracted to ?

I have a theory that watching porn can change and shift your sexual preferences, 

I wasn't into dicks until I got into shemale porn.

Don't know how it was for you. 


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1 hour ago, mojsterr said:

Of course you are normal, you just have different sexual preferences :D

And of course people on reddit downvoted you. It's a place of normies, don't expect any deep understanding from them.

 

I don't know what to tell you about you not liking pussy. The only thing that I question about is if I have feelings for men or women. This is what defines my sexual orientation. And I also like a dick on a guy, but that's because I too have a dick. To me it's a "high-five" kind of thing. I love everything about the penis. But I do love pussy. So I don't know what to tell you about this. You have to figure it out for yourself.

Like I said Im Attracted to women from head to toe. Which is not the case with guys.  I don't find the male body sexually attractive .but only if girls have dicks that would be perfect.  I like how a dick looks more than a vagina. 

 


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2 hours ago, Someone here said:

The thing is I like everything about the female's body ..except the pussy . I watched tranny porn and it turns me on so much to see a girl with a dick .

Am i normal ?

I guess you just like girls with penises. That's your sexual preference. 

I mean, I would have told you that you finding pussy gross has to do with you being a virgin, but then you also mentioned dicks turn you on so that kinda tells me you're just attracted to girls with dicks. Since you explicitly said you're not gay and wouldn't have sex with guys (If I remembered it right).

Except I wouldn't know how that would function. So you want to have sex with girls (since you're not gay) but not "typical" girls with their genitalia but you want to have sex with girls with dicks, which means only anal sex is possible in that case. And I assume you can find those kind of girls. There are out there.

And don't worry, there's all kinds of people in this world. This is not weird. Everyone has things that turn them on. It's important to experiment and see what you like. :)

P.S. Pussy is not a passive hole, it has many functions and I guess you meant that as in "it only receives dick" but let's not reduce pussy to just that. There's many aspects of it, that's not her only function. 

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4 hours ago, Someone here said:

This seems like such a stupid problem to have, but I'm really confused about what it could mean and it's really distracting to have this crap jump into my head while I'm trying to work or whatever.

Ahh, the urge to understand & conceptualize...  We can't live if everything is not coherent, confusion is a no no! :D

Sorry, I'm messing with you.

Idk man. Good luck figuring it out, if you feel the need to. Although maybe u could just live and let your life blossom like a flower. 


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