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First girl I pulled making me consider relationship

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The title is kind of misleading, she's not making me consider a relationship, I'm doing the considering all on my own. 

After my first week of serious game, doing night game every night of the week except for one or two nights, a girl came and stayed at my place on Saturday. 

She is gorgeous, has one of those fierce work ethics, and overall has a good vibe. 

I moved into a big city a month ago to start my life away from my parents, and also open myself up to the pleasure of sex and socialisation, and soften my tense personality through pickup. Coming out here I was certain I wouldn't even think about a relationship. 

It's not like I'm obsessed with this girl (I'm going on a date with a different, beautiful Columbian girl on Monday) but she's definitely made me reconsider whether I want to be with just one person. 

I have a feeling this is the most common trap of all, considering a relationship with my first pull lol. What do you guys think?

 

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That's the devil of pickup.

There is a tradeoff between growing with relationships vs growing your game.

If you seriously want to build your game you have to say no to relationships for at least a few years. But then again, if you find an awesome girl, it may be worth it to do a relationship.

I am not telling you what to do. The choice is yours. But the combo of a really well-matched and pretty girl is rare, so don't throw that away when you stumble upon it.


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48 minutes ago, Mada_ said:

I have a feeling this is the most common trap of all, considering a relationship with my first pull lol. What do you guys think?

What do you want out of this pick up stuff? What is your goal?

If it is sex with a lot of girls or even to casually date a lot of girls then avoid attaching to this one.

If you want 1 great girl then keep her but i would also talk to others just to avoid screwing up with this one until it is clear u guys can be exclusive.

 

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8 hours ago, Mada_ said:

She is gorgeous, has one of those fierce work ethics, and overall has a good vibe.

You need to check if you're actually compatible and if yes how much ?

Would you get bored if you spent a full week with her without any distractions ?

You really do not know someone, e.g. how she handles conflicts, her values, how she acts, etc. very deeply until you spend considerable time with her in different situations.

One good check I would always do if I'm considering a partner is going on a short holiday with her to see how it goes.

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If you've never been in a relationship before it might be good experience to try one out and see how it goes, assuming you're young you have plenty of time to recuperate if it doesn't work out

Being able to say you've spent time in a relationship helps you with girls too. A lot of girls I've met liked the fact that I'd been in a long term relationship before. A typical mid-twenties or older girl probably doesn't want to be your trial run for a first serious relationship

I'm in kind of a similar situation just now actually, I've met a girl I'm considering a relationship with but I'm not sure I want to give up the freedom. I left my last relationship of 2.5 years (started when I was 17) because I had such a craving for some wild sexual experiences, and I've sort of lived that out over the last 8 months or so but I still don't feel like I've lived it out enough yet. At the same time I do like this girl. It's a tough problem

 

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Don't fall too easily, trust me on this one. Keep options open 

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On 10/3/2022 at 2:28 AM, Mada_ said:

I have a feeling this is the most common trap of all, considering a relationship with my first pull lol. What do you guys think?

 

Yes, it happened to me with the 8th girl of so that I approached, we connected really good and I got "feelings" for her . LoL.

My advice is, you don´t have to do any decision. Keep going out and being open to new experiences. If it comes a moment that you are really happy with this girl, then you can consider a relationship and stop the fucking around with pick up.

So you don´t have to make any decision now basically. Let "life guide you" to what is best, so to speak

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