Gabith

Addicted to porn

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@Gabith

fill your time with things you'd rather do instead and don't feel guilty bro, feeling guilty is dumb, there's no need for you to be punished you are a beautiful being. if porn makes you insecure then that's something else besides guilty, maybe you wish you had more dates or a committed relationship and porn is too cold and empty and it's not real sex lol maybe you should try to talk to girls like in leo's get laid videos. If you have this "i'm addicted syndrome" with other habits then maybe check for like religious trauma or verbal abuse or something, i got some of that from my dad, always thinking i'm doing the wrong thing. you got it bro, figure it out, it's just a screen it's not "bad". if anything denying yourself like those no-fap guys or normie christians would say fuck that, you deserve to NUT bro!!!!! be happy 

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There is nothing wrong with porn, or even using it a lot. It's good to release that energy. The problem is if you're using it in place of being able to have sex with someone else.

So yeah if you're using it because you don't have the skill to get laid, be honest with yourself about it and quit porn until you can.

 


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Is it possible that you're searching for some kind of intimacy through it (besides meeting biological needs)? Or desire the kind of intimacy shown but do not have it in your life currently. Just a thought. 


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11 hours ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

porn women are fucking pixels on a screen. Real life women are actually real? Don't you think there's a fundamental difference?

No


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even though I have many scientific reasons for not watching porn. I request you to get back to your feelings. do you feel good or bad after watching porn? I know it might be a satisfaction meanwhile but after I know almost all men feel like crap. 


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2 minutes ago, hamedsf said:

but after I know almost all men feel like crap.

Never had that problem. Feels great every time.

Often feels better than real sex.


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20 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Often feels better than real sex.

Dude wtf

It can't be possibly better than sex. I mean, what you fantazise about in porn, is what you do in real sex.

It's like watching food asmr, and then actually eating that food. No way in hell someone will enjoy the videos more than eating the actual food.

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45 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Never had that problem. Feels great every time.

Often feels better than real sex.

I think you’re projecting your outlier experience of porn onto everyone else who tries to cut down on porn.

Most guys feel like absolute garbage after a porn binge. Sex feels fundamentally healthy wheras a porn binge feels fundamentally dirty, like all my good brain chemicals have been drained. It’s kinda like the difference between feeling good playing a fun sport vs feeling “good” eating a Big Mac.

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2 hours ago, Medhansh said:

Dude wtf

It can't be possibly better than sex. I mean, what you fantazise about in porn, is what you do in real sex.

Many girls suck at sex. I can please myself better than most girls can please me.

1 hour ago, Joel3102 said:

Sex feels fundamentally healthy wheras a porn binge feels fundamentally dirty, like all my good brain chemicals have been drained.

Don't know what you're smoking.


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@Leo Gura You got it backwards. The better you are able to please a girl the more enjoyable the sex will be. 

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14 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

You're never going to get sufficient sex in real life to replace porn unless you got a rotation of 5 girls.

Nor will the quality of most girls you get match that of porn.

@Leo Gura No ... just no. I dont know if you see how strange what youve just said is.

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(Opinion from direct experience…) Nothing is comparable to the emotional depth & physical intimacy of selfless sex in a genuinely expressive (honest) relationship, in which two are ‘fully’ in communion. Transactional objectification very much veils and limits, and is experientially opposite to authenticity as expressions of our being. This… is what’s avoided and kept at bay, and that is veiled with “addiction” to porn. Avoidance of opening up, intimacy. Vulnerability. Authenticity. Simple ‘regular’ maturity. 

1 hour ago, MarkusR said:

The better you are able to please a girl the more enjoyable the sex will be. 

?? Selflessness always paradoxically comes ‘right back around’… when genuine. 

Why not simple quit porn (when ‘addicted’)… 

because of how… I think… I will feel. 


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13 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Don't know what you're smoking.

You’re the one that thinks porn is better than real sex ?

I’ve never heard someone say that 

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14 minutes ago, Joel3102 said:

I’ve never heard someone say that 

I say that. Feels better, not is better. And not porn but masturbation in general. And it goes both ways, for girls and for boys. Sex toys are also more intensive feeling than anything you can get in normal sex I think.

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48 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Many girls suck as sex. I can please myself better than most girls can please me.

I think you meant "suck at sex". 

Anyhow, whatever works for you ?

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1 hour ago, MarkusR said:

@Leo Gura You got it backwards. The better you are able to please a girl the more enjoyable the sex will be. 

Cute, but no.


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@Leo Gura 

3 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

No

If that's your experience, then fair enough. I personally think there's a big difference. I'm pretty numb to pixel porn nowadays, it takes me at least going throught 3-4 videos or pictures to get fully arroused, whereas whenever I was very close to attractive girl, or had a kiss with a few girls, I got boner almost instantly. This is my personal opinion, but physical closeness/intimacy matters.

Then again, I never actually progressed things to full blown sex, so I don't know? can't really compare.

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I agree that porn / masterbation is better than real sex. 

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@Gabith

19 hours ago, Gabith said:

Hey I stopped watching porn for years and a month ago I felt again into it.
First days I was ok I'll watch it a last time and tomorrow I stop. 
I also made a promise to myself to stop watching porn but it was not enough, I was watching porn video again the next day. And now I've noticed that only after 2 weeks of jerking off to porn almost everyday, I've become addicted and it seems not so easy to stop 

Do you have good reasons or scientific reasons to stop watching porn & advice to break this addiction ?

   It depends on how a person views pornography and what stage, cognitive and moral development, state of consciousness and life experiences in other domains and sexual domain that one has, to put pornography in it's proper context.

   It also depends on how your consumption of pornography impacts your other areas of life including career, finance, relationships, intimacy, health and fitness, home environment, entertainment, hobbies, spirituality and emotional mastery. If, for you OP, porn has overall had a negative impact on more than half of those doamins of life, then consider quitting and figuring out how to quit in your own way. However, I suggest not to take pornography for granted, as pornography has a function ib society that it serves.

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