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3 hours ago, Gregory1 said:

Monday clean.

Good job;)


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4 hours ago, Someone here said:

January clean. 

Don't you have to fight the urge to fap for like 2 days though

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15 minutes ago, Dryas said:

Don't you have to fight the urge to fap for like 2 days though

No. I see fapping and porn with a negative attitude now that I don't even want to do it any more. It's so toxic and destructive of a habit. At least thats how I personally see it. 


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1 hour ago, Someone here said:

No. I see fapping and porn with a negative attitude now that I don't even want to do it any more. It's so toxic and destructive of a habit. At least thats how I personally see it. 

I feel there is something not healthy about viewing a natural bodily function as negative. The way I see it is if you don't feel like fapping, that's fine, and if you feel like fapping, that's fine as well. I think unhealthy fapping is when you're doing in spite of not feeling horny, as an emotional band-aid or just as a mindless habit.


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1 hour ago, Carl-Richard said:

I feel there is something not healthy about viewing a natural bodily function as negative. The way I see it is if you don't feel like fapping, that's fine, and if you feel like fapping, that's fine as well. I think unhealthy fapping is when you're doing in spite of not feeling horny, as an emotional band-aid or just as a mindless habit.

Porn specifically is extremely unhealthy and this has been proven recently. 

 of course there is a distinction between what kind of porn you watch (vanilla stuff vs fucked up shit) and how often do you watch Yada Yada Yada.. The issue I see is it's so easy to become an addiction. Because it's extremely pleasant unlike video games or fast food. Especially for young boys with you know with an explosion of hormones during  puberty age. the thing is.. exposure to porn results in dopamine spikes in the brains of the porn-users.. However.. after being exposed to many graphic images.. the brain becomes de-sensitised and unable to be satisfied by ordinary sexual encounters.  now what is needed is sexually extreme experiences and hardcore pornography to become sexually aroused.  You get how this works? 

What wasn't so popular and known untill recently as I mentioned in OP that watching porn causes physical damage in the brain.. Researchers found less grey matter in the brains of men who watched large amounts of sexually explicit material relative to those who watch it casually or were not exposed to it at all.  So I am actually building a case here that porn is harmful and should be avoided. Watch video below for more information.. 

 


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2 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

I feel there is something not healthy about viewing a natural bodily function as negative. The way I see it is if you don't feel like fapping, that's fine, and if you feel like fapping, that's fine as well. I think unhealthy fapping is when you're doing in spite of not feeling horny, as an emotional band-aid or just as a mindless habit.

@Carl-Richard I agree.

However, fapping can become an unhealthy habit once you do it out of "habit" and not because you "feel like it". There is a subtle difference between "feeling like it because you want it" and "feeling like it out of habit"


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February clean .


"life is not a problem to be solved ..its a mystery to be lived "

-Osho

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26 minutes ago, John Paul said:

I'll bust an extra one for you :)

Your choice lol 


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I really recommend, even if it's only after a few months of complete nofap for you, to consider doing sexual practices that cultivate and transmute the energy and train your ability to stop ejaculation before orgasm.

Sex, and even masturbation, is incredibly healthy if done right. If you're building up control, learning how and when to stop, how to orgasm without ejaculation and most importantly how to circulate the energy through your body, you can very quickly feel similar energies as in Kriya Yoga or Kundalini Yoga practices. Sex or masturbation without cumming leaves you in a state of ecstasy, regenerates your body and energizes your mind. 

I've only tried dabbling in these practices shortly. It's been incredible. But I have to admit there are still strong patterns of addiction within me and they got triggered at some point and I gave in. Back on it again! First going off for a while, then integrating the practices.

You are a sexual being. Being sexual with another is an incredible act of love and prayer, devotion and celebration of the immense beauty that you are. Even masturbation is. God loves itself and its urges completely. the question is how consciously you are indulging. 

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@peanutspathtotruth pornography and masturbation in all its forms are addictive and unhealthy.

Common sense is important to talk about. Common sense is what the majority of people rely on when they evaluate risks, dangers, and effects, especially when it comes to children. We need to discuss common sense, and what it says about pornography, and modern sexuality in general. Because common sense and those intuitive feelings of rightness and wrongness are the dividing line between people who are increasingly worried about the growing dangers of pornography on the internet, and those who argue that the effects of pornography are minimal, or even positive.

It seems to make common sense that because pornography, and sex in general, feel so good, that they could become addictive. It also makes intuitive sense that, because sex releases neurochemicals in the brain, that those neurochemicals could act like drugs on the brain. When we hear people talk about starting with one form of pornography, like Playboy Magazine, and ending up later looking at some extreme forms of porn like rape porn or bestiality, it makes common sense for us to worry that porn could have a tolerance effect that might lead people to pursue harder and harder forms of it, in order to reach the same level of stimulation. That need for greater stimulation could also make it so that men can’t get erect with real women, but only when faced by their fantasy images. If that slippery slope of porn tolerance might lead men to watch extreme porn like rape porn, then might it not lead them to act on those desires? Couldn’t it push someone over the edge, from fantasy to reality?


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1 hour ago, Someone here said:

@peanutspathtotruth pornography and masturbation in all its forms are addictive and unhealthy.

Common sense is important to talk about. Common sense is what the majority of people rely on when they evaluate risks, dangers, and effects, especially when it comes to children. We need to discuss common sense, and what it says about pornography, and modern sexuality in general. Because common sense and those intuitive feelings of rightness and wrongness are the dividing line between people who are increasingly worried about the growing dangers of pornography on the internet, and those who argue that the effects of pornography are minimal, or even positive.

It seems to make common sense that because pornography, and sex in general, feel so good, that they could become addictive. It also makes intuitive sense that, because sex releases neurochemicals in the brain, that those neurochemicals could act like drugs on the brain. When we hear people talk about starting with one form of pornography, like Playboy Magazine, and ending up later looking at some extreme forms of porn like rape porn or bestiality, it makes common sense for us to worry that porn could have a tolerance effect that might lead people to pursue harder and harder forms of it, in order to reach the same level of stimulation. That need for greater stimulation could also make it so that men can’t get erect with real women, but only when faced by their fantasy images. If that slippery slope of porn tolerance might lead men to watch extreme porn like rape porn, then might it not lead them to act on those desires? Couldn’t it push someone over the edge, from fantasy to reality?

I don't know what you're trying to say, has nothing to do with what I was sharing. 

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

@peanutspathtotruth pornography and masturbation in all its forms are addictive and unhealthy.

That's blank black and white thinking and is obviously not true. With porn I tend to strongly agree that it's not healthy, but even I have to admit that I'm biased because of my negative experience with it. Maybe I could have learned approaching it a different way, but I didn't. So I don't know. But overall damage to humanity is obvious when we look at reports and studies.

But regarding sex in general, you can't seriously draw yourself into a corner of believing it's all unhealthy? Come on, don't play yourself, be honest. Just because you can't build a healthy sexuality in yourself (which takes a lot of psychological, physical and spiritual work, especially if you have learned negative patterns that need to be released) doesn't mean it's not possible. It is - I and many spiritual practitioners can attest to that from direct experience. It completely changes the playing field, but only if you experience it for yourself. It's the opposite of an addiction, it is a spiritual practice, a health generating way of loving yourself and sending energy through your whole system. You should read up on some tantric and taoist practices :) 

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@peanutspathtotruth then we agree to disagree :). I was merely pointing out the negative effects of pornography on our sexuality. And masturbation leads to porn anyways .so there's that. 

It makes sense to all of us that we don’t want children watching pornography. Pornography contains extreme, unrealistic depictions of sex acts that even most adults don’t engage in. Certainly it makes common sense, that showing those images to kids might confuse them at the least, or even warp their ideas about sex, gender and relationships.


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3 hours ago, Someone here said:

@peanutspathtotruth then we agree to disagree :). I was merely pointing out the negative effects of pornography on our sexuality. And masturbation leads to porn anyways .so there's that. 

It makes sense to all of us that we don’t want children watching pornography. Pornography contains extreme, unrealistic depictions of sex acts that even most adults don’t engage in. Certainly it makes common sense, that showing those images to kids might confuse them at the least, or even warp their ideas about sex, gender and relationships.

Of course you're right with that assessment, but I didn't argue against that. "Masturbation leads to porn" is not only a poor generalization but simply not true. You can argue all you want, but it's obvious that it isn't true. It's true for certain cases, but not generally, and that's my whole point.

Of course sexuality and masturbation CAN be unhealthily embodied because they are unhealthily learned and connected to addiction. But this doesn't mean it must, that's just generalization without any merit. One counter example would prove you wrong and there are dozen. So nothing to agree or disagree upon, if you seriously believe this is universally the case, you're very deluded.

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This thread is still alive? Lol.

Fap till you tap is my motto .. to hell with this virtue signaling !

God didn’t create your hands, private parts, and high speed internet for no reason xD

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I have thought of this extensively, create a cage strap to your junk time lock it one month, make a TikTok video go viral, sell it on Amazon 24.99$.

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How is this post just me acting out my ego in the usual ways? Is this post just me venting and justifying my selfishness? Are the things you are posting in alignment with principles of higher consciousness and higher stages of ego development? Are you acting in a mature or immature way? Are you being selfish or selfless in your communication? Are you acting like a monkey or like a God-like being?

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@peanutspathtotruth check this video out 

https://youtu.be/OtQBxsf1st8

It's about the effects of pornography on the human brain. 

As for masturbation..it just drains you for a tiny bit of pleasure. It's just not worth it for me. 

 


"life is not a problem to be solved ..its a mystery to be lived "

-Osho

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@Terell Kirby @integral lol you guys are trolling nofap . Just give it a try. Try it for a month. I promise you ,you will feel so much positive. 


"life is not a problem to be solved ..its a mystery to be lived "

-Osho

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