Should you talk about problems with your gf?

[Ineedanswers]

Some coaches etc say you should never discuss your problems with your gf as “she is not your mother and it is not her responsibility to be your emotional caretaker”.the man is supposed to be the girls caretaker.

they say if you talk about your problems she will lose attraction for you.therefore you should take care of your probs on your own.is this true?

[Leo Gura]

If it's a serious relationship she will actually want you to talk about your problems with her. It builds intimacy.

Of course don't overwhelm her with your problems and don't complain to her about them. But sharing is fine. Girls are naturally empathetic and want to give you emotional support otherwise they don't feel feminine.

She is eager to support the man in her life. Just don't be a pathetic victim with her. Still be a leading man.

[Superfluo]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

Just don't be a pathetic victim with her. Still be a leading man.

Don't be a crying baby and be a wounded warrior on his path to greatness.

[Lyubov]

A lot of those goofy PUAs don't know shit about maintaining a relationship much less been able to keep one around for longer than a couple months. 

Yes, you can talk about your problems with your girlfriend. It just depends on the quality of the conversation, how you go about doing it and how you are able to handle the ruptures/repairs when they occur. Lead her and guide her to appreciating this more conscious fork of masculinity. My girl was sort of confused by this and she is now very accepting of it. If you are a man of integrity and she is a cool girl she will be open minded. 

She isn't your therapist so try to avoid all sorts of heavy dumping and expecting her to solve it for you. Get a feel for when it's appropriate to share. You are going to need to open up like this with your girl or else you will feel like a stranger. The relationship will be kinda shallow and pathetic then which is where such advice about being closed off will lead you.