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AndylizedAAY

The Cycle of School and Rest

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I am so busy with school, videogames, and anything that is distracting to me that I'm not thinking about. I have stopped doing this kind of work and left Actualized.org because of how busy I am with this cycle. I am still busy with school but am taking a more productive break to get some advice.

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Hi @AndylizedAAY

I have to make some assumptions to respond because your "cycle" seems perfectly normal. School followed by video games. For example, maybe you feel frustrated, because you say, "cycle" and "more productive." I am not sure. Also, advancing through school might be productive, and amusements can help a person to be more effective at their work. 

If you provide some indication of your values and potential alternative activities--maybe we could provide some advice?

 

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@RobertZ Okay, so then it's normal. How do I know when to watch Leo's videos again since they are hours long? How do I know if I watch his content too often? Is it even possible for you to answer this question?

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Hi @AndylizedAAY, 

The questions, "when to watch" and "watch his content too often?" brings to my mind time spent on a task in light of a person's values (which also ties into motivation or interest).

A couple of strategies people use to analyze their time on tasks are (a) task lists and (b) daily routines. Both of these strategies involve decisions about what a person 'should' or 'must' do.

Task lists involve writing down everything a person 'has to do' (on paper or in a journal). [Write a little square beside each task, and check the square when the task is complete.] The nice thing about a task list is getting tons of things accomplished. Some people recommend biting into life by starting with the most difficult task—but finishing small tasks can generate momentum. For example, you might write 'to-do lists' a couple of days per week; and after a month or so, realize that you want to put "watching one of Leo's videos" on one of your daily lists. "To-Do Lists" gradually assists with value prioritization, mainly on a subconscious level, in the tasks a person chooses to list.*

Daily routines involve "blocking off" times each day or week to do certain kinds of activities. Routines are what you make of them--with discipline, adaptation, and experimentation, routines can be effective and powerful. For example, at such a time each day, a person wakes up, has breakfast, works, relaxes, learns, does self-development activities, cooks, cleans, and so on.**

For example, by formalizing a daily routine, a person might block out 25 minutes a day for some kind of self-improvement activity—and commit to this 25 minutes every day. One day—after a few weeks of meditating, or reading, or journaling, you might say, "So what am I going to do with today's 25 minutes?" Then you might decide watch 25 minutes of one of Leo's videos. Then, you can decide whether you want to continue with the video the following day during the "self-improvement" time-block.

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* One of the weaknesses of task lists is that days and weeks sometimes pass, where the task list sits in a drawer--unused. A person might 'forget' about the task list as a way to put the tasks off--because of worry that the tasks might be difficult. We might have a sneaking suspicion that we can ignore the "to do" items without too much consequence. In fact, there might not be any consequences for ignoring a given task. However, a person might ignore the whole list because they need a break, or more fundamental aspects of life require attention. For example, if a person feels tired and overwhelmed every day--they may have a motivation-obstruction. 

** Routines can also be challenging--for example, stopping a fun activity or breaking up a very productive activity because "it is time" for the next activity. On the other hand, there are benefits to limiting activities to set times—like training oneself to work more efficiently next time. Finding the balance between flexibility and commitment to various aspects of life is a juggling act.

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One of the first steps to self-actualizing is finding healthy ways to relax. 

Maybe try a couple of days of replacing video games with a nature walk, some meditation, a sauna, a mixture of these etc.  

I posted a thread a few weeks ago asking people their ways of relaxing and got some really good suggestions. 

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I tried to do the life purpose course during my final year of high school. I also tried to do enlightenment work during this time, and keep up a yoga practice. 

My biggest take-away from this time was that I simply wasn't mature enough nor good at taking care of myself, to be doing hours of spiritual practice. I had to revert back to working on my career, my emotions, hatha yoga, working on my health and also socialising and pickup. The deal I made with myself is that once I have ruled out mercury toxicity, and am self-employed, I will start doing more intense spiritual practice. 

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@Mada_ Now that you mentioned it, I think that I will also take the life purpose course on my last year of high school. @Noahsteelers34 told me to tell my parents that this life purpose coarse can help me with a career or something like that if I remember correctly. The thing is that, my parents might see "weird stuff" on the website itself. I also need money from them and don't know all of the information required to get the life purpose course. I will still try to take his advice and read these responses more carefully if I need to apply them.

Edited by AndylizedAAY
I typed someone's name twice. I also needed to explain why I need my parents for the life purpose course.

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21 hours ago, AndylizedAAY said:

Now that you mentioned it, I think that I will also take the life purpose course on my last year of high school. 

Make sure you do it during a break so you can focus. 

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Monday to Friday are for schools.

Sat and Sunday for relaxation.

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Me too! When some part of your life, as big as school is unsatisfying then there is bound to be some backlash-video games.

Connect with life to counteract the loveless world that is the education system and work.

You can use Leo's videos if it sparks that passion for life in you too!

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