What's the way forward for human society in relation to sexuality?

[lmfao]

This overlaps with Society, Environment, Government, Politics section on this forum. I'll preface by saying that I'm making this thread on a whim, and I'm figuring out the point as I type. Also preface by saying I know nothing, and have little understanding of people and sexuality in general.
 

I saw this post by Leo, and it got me thinking a bit. 

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You have to see it from a woman's POV. It's not merely her vanity at work, there are serious survival dangers for women who are perceived as sluts.

Would you want to marry and have kids with the town slut?

Never. You want a nice girl who will be loyal to you.

You may like women being sluts when you're looking for one night stands, but as soon as you start looking for a serious partner you will sing a very different tune. And all women know this subconsciously. They know that a serious guy won't commit to a slut, he will just pump and dump her.

I've had the ideal before "Sex and sexuality shouldn't be a big deal at all. Someone's sexual orientation should be as arbitrary as their favourite ice cream. And the amount of people someone's slept with should also be arbitrary". (I've thought about the issue of sexual orientation in a topic I made months and months ago, so I'll discard considerations of gay/lesbian-ness here)


But it seems sex can't be that arbitrary for people {I realise it isn't for myself either}. It's linked to survival. We can go down the route of looking at it evolutionarily. Sex is reproduction and survival. Having kids is a way of surviving after you're dead, and there's pride people get in having kids. 

And also, it's your partner who will raise your kids (so selection standards there). Idk how exactly sex and gender got invented by evolution, but there's specialisation of roles. Women giving birth and looking after kids, men doing the physical work and being a protector/hunter. At least in the case of humans.

So from this perspective, it makes sense why you want a partner who is strong if you're a girl. And men just want good looking women because good looks=good genes? Maybe a biologist knows more how attraction evolved. I can speculate but it doesn't do anything for me.
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And then there's the topic of slutiness, promiscuousness, etc. Not sure I understand why/how these became taboos. Maybe someone being a slut is a concern that they might cheat on you, or that they already have someone elses kids.
I guess in nature you don't want your woman raising someone elses kids or being with another man, since it takes that woman's attention away from your survival {attention away from you and your kids}


There's also this issue of sexual jealousy. I'm not in such a relationship for it to come out, but I know I'm a sexually jealous person. And so are most people, but to degrees and in different ways. 

I know that if I was with a woman who had a body count of 100, I would feel weird about it. But I don't know why. Why do I have such jealousy and possessiveness in the first place? [There's a very interesting word, "cuck". The fear of being cucked. Hell, there's even cuck fetishes and cuck porn. Weird dynamics going on there.]

^ Someone might interject, and say that in the above situation I considered things in a theoretical vacuum. That I didn't consider what the high body count might mean or correlate to. So if someone has a body count of 100, maybe it means they're not loyal, not committed, they have issues. And those are rational concerns. But that was all prefaced with a "maybe", correlations. Whereas I'm considering what's in the realm of possibilities for humans generally/abstractly

So I'm sure it's possible for a woman to be a slut and have nothing wrong with them. But nonetheless, I have possessiveness and jealousy inside of me regarding that. 

There's also a tangent I could go on about people establish relationships and monogamous relationships in the first place, and people don't just free fall into having orgies or fucking each other freely all the time. 
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Will sexual promiscuity for both men and women ever become widely accepted or more taboo free? Why or why not? In what way do you believe the survival factors of it will forever shape and make delicate this domain of life, so as for it to not be as completely casual as I've hoped? 

Edited July 14, 2021 by lmfao