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About the role of experience episode

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Hi, so I've just finished watching the newest episode of how the role of experience plays in life and it is quite insightful. I feel like my level of experience of life is very low and I don't really go out there seeking to acquire more experiences, like Leo said, I'm comfortable in my own rut. It is very overwhelming me to go and experience more of life, even the things most people would consider very small like just hugging a woman (as a friendly greeting), being genuine with people about how you feel, talking to groups of people, feeling excited with more people, laughing with others and more. I fear life. I fear the death of my ego from this overwhelm of life. I would also add that having more experiences can really shake my paradigm and threatens my homeostasis.

So how do I overcome this fear of life and start to experience more? Leo suggested that I need to develop more skill by gaining experience, but I still fear this change. I've always knew that at some point will come a time when I'll need to overcome my fear of life. It's as if I had this intuition many years ago and now it's happening (I could almost say like it feels part of the plan I always knew on the deepest levels).

Another question I had is regarding the life purpose course. In less than 3 months I'm going to a camp of 6 months which is basically something before the military service. I chose to go to this camp, and afterwards I have a duty of serving for 3 years in the military (I'm not so pro this idea but wherever I am it's a must to serve in the military). So during those first 6 months of camp I'm going to be there with the people for like most of the time, and come home only once every 2 weeks (later, in the military it will most likely be once a week). So as you see, I won't have time to work on my life purpose as I am kind of confined and limited with what I can do. What should I do in that case? Should I just wait until I finish those 3.5 years and then start taking the life purpose course? Also, how am I supposed to practice self actualization work and meditations there? I fear I might be worse off. (by the way, the reason I decided to go to this camp from the start was to get out of my comfort zone and live with people my age and grow socially. But as time comes closer I start fearing this experience and I start seeing the negatives of it)

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Just bite the bullet and do it!

Who gives a fuck how you feel?

Courage isn't a lack of fear, it is acting in the face of fear. Face your fears one by one by one. That's how you ace life.


You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity.

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@Leo Gura

10 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Face your fears one by one by one. That's how you ace life.

Of course, but it is problematic if I'm not clear about what I want to experience exactly, or rather, forgot  what it is that I desire to experience.

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@fopylo Stop overthinking and take action! Make decisions!

Your fuckups will teach you what you desire and don't.

If you forget, write it down on your bathroom mirror.


You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity.

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@fopylo You won't serve forever. Enjoy the ride of life! 


 "Unburdened and Becoming" - Bon Iver

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@Leo Gura But it's kind of putting my mood down the fact that for 3 years I won't be able to make any progress discovering my top values in life and finding what fulfills me. I might go insane seeing that I'm not making progress because of those limits. I must say though, over the months I have periods where I'm more sure of what my talents are (those are usually in times when I'm progressing a lot in life) and periods where I'm clueless and doubt whether I am even skillful at anything, like now. Even when I discover that I do have some talents here and there, I don't find myself to be very great at one of them, certainly no master, not exceptional. I believe part of it has to do with my fears of going all out and probably more, but I hope you see the situation I'm in

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9 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Just bite the bullet and do it!

Who gives a fuck how you feel?

Courage isn't a lack of fear, it is acting in the face of fear. Face your fears one by one by one. That's how you ace life.

@Leo GuraLeo i am quite confused

One of the most influencial vedios iv seen on internet was your minimalist lifestyle on youtube.

there you encourage us to avoid seeking pleasure from outside world(sex,food,...)and have simple mundane life but with depth and mindfulness

I watched it last year and i structure my life that way but i recently join to the forum and  i find you all about watching porn ,persuing outside pleasures and experiences

Maybe i misunderstood you in that video but any explanation to guide me through this contradiction would be appreciated

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2 hours ago, fopylo said:

But it's kind of putting my mood down the fact that for 3 years I won't be able to make any progress discovering my top values in life and finding what fulfills me.

Try to get out of that situtation if you can. But if you can't, then you have no choice and you gotta make the best of it. You can commit to figuring out your values and LP even while in the military. Those 3 years will give you plenty of new life experience to contemplate. And in the military there is so much down time and waiting around, you should have lots of time to meditate, contemplate, visualize, etc. Maybe you can read books or listen to audios. Get creative with it.


You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity.

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2 hours ago, mamad said:

@Leo GuraLeo i am quite confused

One of the most influencial vedios iv seen on internet was your minimalist lifestyle on youtube.

there you encourage us to avoid seeking pleasure from outside world(sex,food,...)and have simple mundane life but with depth and mindfulness

I watched it last year and i structure my life that way but i recently join to the forum and  i find you all about watching porn ,persuing outside pleasures and experiences

Haha!

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Maybe i misunderstood you in that video but any explanation to guide me through this contradiction would be appreciated

Yes, you misunderstood.  You can minimize your life but still enjoy pleasures.

Minimizing your life does not mean to avoid all pleasures and material things. I am not an ascetic or monk.

There is nothing contradictory about watching porn. You guys are way too uptight and judgmental.

I generally don't seek after pleasure, but sex and masturbation are perfectly normal and healthy human functions.

Get the stick out of your ass and enjoy life, but don't chase material things too much, that kind of enjoyment is far too limited.

The reason I talk openly about porn and sex and so on is to break your guys' silly ideas of what spirituality is about. Spirituality does not limit you in any way. You have more freedom, not less. There are no rules for how to live.

See, you think porn is something seperate from Love and God. I see it as Love and God and appreciate its beauty on that level.


You are God. You are Truth. You are Love. You are Infinity.

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I am porn. lol the "life is a dream" video covers it all

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14 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Try to get out of that situtation if you can. But if you can't, then you have no choice and you gotta make the best of it. You can commit to figuring out your values and LP even while in the military. Those 3 years will give you plenty of new life experience to contemplate. And in the military there is so much down time and waiting around, you should have lots of time to meditate, contemplate, visualize, etc. Maybe you can read books or listen to audios. Get creative with it.

If I REALLY REALLY want I can get out of this situation but it is very common for Israeli citizens to serve in the military (it is expected from you, otherwise it isn't seen as something good). You are right in the sense that in downtime I could find time to meditate and contemplate. I could also maybe read books on my phone. I just prefer to do it mostly in private, you know...

Thanks for the encouragement, I feel more hopeful. However, I still can't go wherever the fuck I want, can't be on my laptop, can't try out new hobbies. It's a bit sad thinking about it but I'll try using the time to probably read more and if possible to watch your videos and practice privately

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@mamad "What people will do in moderation those who follow will do in excess" Stop giving Leo your authority and think these concepts through yourself

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