Can you actually change your personality? I hate my personality

[Bodhitree]

When I did an mbti test in my twenties I was an INTP, but I recently did it again and I am now an INFP. It’s very possible for these things to change spontaneously as you learn more about yourself and become more mature. 

[Matt23]

22 hours ago, ShardMare said:

Matt23 well i hope my big5 and mbti will change...

Also consider that what you now see or think of as your "personality type" might not actually be it.  Consider it might simply be a false depiction of what you think is your personality type.  From what I've learned, it's difficult to actually see oneself and "true personality type" accurately.  Whereas others probably see your "true type" in a amore accurate or objective manner.  I'm making a distinction here between A) your personality type, and B) the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, desires, fears, etc., that you notice and have "cherry picked" unconsciously to create the image of who you think you are.  These might be separate things, and I think this is where people can get confused as to what personality type they truly are, vs. what personality type they think they are or really want to be.  

But maybe you see yourself clearly.  I dunno.  Discovering your "true personality type" might also be something not so spectacular and amazing.  The way Objective Personality speaks about what they've found, usually upon discovering one's true personality type, people aren't like "Oh yay! That's me!''  Usually the personality types people really want to be and idealize aren't what personality type they really are.  I've heard it's usually like "Oh.. ya, I guess that kinda makes sense.''  

I guess I'd suggest to make a distinction between what seems to me as the negative images of yourself you seem to identify with.  Like "shy, thoughtless, loner, irritable, numb," etc.,  vs. your personality type.  I don't think there's a personality type who's core characteristic is "numb" or "irritable" etc.  Sure, maybe if you count neuroticism from the Big5, but even then I think you can run the risk of attributing negative labels and characteristics to your personality type, which kind of makes it seem more unchanging and innate, like you're somehow stuck with them.    

Maybe focus on characteristics you "resonate" with and feel inspired by and try to embody those more without thinking too much about it.  

What characteristics do you get inspired by in others?

What are your hero's and why?  What makes that person inspiring to you?  What do they do and how do they do it that you really appreciate and admire?

...also, remember to not create a huge shadow out of the things you don't like about yourself as well and repress your "stuff".  Haha, just to make things more complicated. 

Do what feels good. 

 

I'd recommend checking out their stuff and method.  Probably the most rigorous and scientific personality testing I've seen so far.  They have a YT channel and website with all their info and how they do their testing.  

Edited May 26, 2021 by Matt23

[ShardMare]

I was just thinking about this and i came to realization i just need to switch to stage green. Lot of things like numbness, being boring would go away. Emotion is what really missing. I just watched leos nihilism and dangers with spiritual work vid and its really helpful. I struggle with depression and anxiety and i dont have bad thoughts or generally bad life(from the outside) Idk depression just comes. Although im 16 i resonate a lot with being a doomer idk life has no meaning, im just living on addictions and i hate school. Video games, porn, anime, rap metal 24/7 and i have no motivation and i dont care about self-help no more. I've tried to get on a bigger break but no matter how much i try to have fun i just cant. Basically for 6 months i havent done nothing with my life. Everyday go to school->come home dead-tired. Why people say teens dont realize how much energy they have? No we dont have energy at all. Somehow it became so much more easy to socialize at school and with friends but why? The more unconscious i am the more friends i get? Anyways this is just me talking about random things... What im saying that I cant see no meaning. I just want to be left alone in nature for weeks. All these people around me so boring and talking about meaningless, material things. Idk how the hell im going to get to green... Maybe i will try blue and become religious and create meaning that way. Anyone doomer here? What did u do?