How can a guy raise his value in a way that is tied with self actualization work

[Karmadhi]

Therefore things like being an asshole, assertive, dominant, not empathetic and kind are discounted. So how to be  a high value developed person, not some PUA sociopath. 

[universe]

Self-Love. If you cannot love yourself, how love others?

Be a good role model and others will follow you ❤️

[Preety_India]

Be a resourceful man 

Humble, honest, hard worker, disciplined, chaste, loyal 

 

 

[Chew211]

First off, go after what you want. 

Make mistakes along the way. 

You'll inevitably end up hurting yourself and others.

But then you learn.

And you become a little more refined.

And because you developed skills, you can manage to be more empathetic and kind, and still get what you want. 

Or maybe, you'll get enough of what you want/realize you'll never have enough/realize that this isn't what you really wanted, and then you'll move on to an actual solid stage green, instead of the immature stage green where you're at now. 

 

Also in terms of spiral Dynamics, the issue for most guys at the moment isn't primarily with Orange and Green, but rather Purple and Red. 

You gotta move some of your Purple to Red. 

[Karmadhi]

@Preety_India Good in paper but does not work in the real life, already have these traits. Thank you though for replying.

@Chew211 Good advice , thank you.

@universe Hmmm makes sense, thank you.

Edited April 7, 2021 by Karmadhi