Strangeloop

My Penis didn't work... Or did it?

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This is a continued story about my sex experiences.

This the same girl slept at my house. We played around she got horny I got horny. We make out, we go to bed, we take our clothes off and we start to play with each other. 

Last time  my dick didn't work per say. It worked but not as good as I expected. This time was better. I got pretty hard. 

So as we play around I finger her but in one moment after a while she stopped me because it started to hurt. It's probably because she wasn't wet enough because comparing on how she was wet after I did Oral to her she was way more wet after oral. 

But still this time I managed to put it in the vagina, but again not for long. It was a struggle to put it in, with her help we managed to do it and it slipped away very quickly. 

So technically I lost my virginity. Yay! ??? LOL I expected something more but this is it :D

Buuut again. I didn't cum. But still enjoyed myself. So it's okay... 

I don't know what else to say so that's it for now.

 

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And now she wants more sex, but I don't want any. I guess I'm asexual ~\_▪_▪_/~

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You're putting too much thought into it man. Meditate and let go, be intuitive during sex, work with the problems. Plenty of foreplay before penetration and if you aren't hard or she isn't wet, don't make a big deal of it. Answer that with more foreplay, ask her for head, give her head. 

I doubt you're asexual since you're so hung up on the issue of wanting to have sex. You're probably just not confident enough yet in your skills, which is fine. If she wants more sex, then you're not doing too bad, seems like you got a good opportunity to learn and become comfortable. Get out of your head and into the flow. 

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@Peter Miklis I mean that I managed to put my dick in the vagina and my dick went out of the vagina very quickly. Literally, no metaphors or anything.

@Dlavjr You're right.

40 minutes ago, Peter Miklis said:

 And why didn't you cum?

Because there was little stimulation to my dick.

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15 minutes ago, Strangeloop said:

 

Because there was little stimulation to my dick.

Or maybe you just don't like girls.


"Sometimes when it's dark - we have to be the light in our own tunnel"

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@Strangeloop if your sexuality is hetero and you normally get attracted to women then this could be a medical issue of a lower sex drive. 

1 Are you on some medication/ illness that reduces sexual drive and affects performance?

2 Look into performance anxiety. Does this happen with same person or with every person?

3 Is there too much distraction or logistics issue?

4 Are you sexually repressed due to religion, culture etc or by your own beliefs? Do you repress yourself right when you get around the time when you need to be doing?

5 Do you feel upset or change in emotions while doing the act?

6 Is there a shame or negativity lodged in your mind as soon as you approach it?

7 Are there any considerations bothering you like safety, Std or unwanted pregnancy of the person who you choose to have the stuff with?

8 Is it that your level of attraction and stimulation always low?

9 How was your puberty?

11 Do you experience the same problem during masturbation or is it completely okay during masturbation?

12 Does your partner do something that makes it awkward or uncomfortable for you to do it how you want?

13 Do you experience sexual shaming from anyone?

14.  Is there something that is related to energy levels?

 

15 or have you overused porn or over masturbated to a level where normal levels of stimulation are not enough due to constant over stimulation. Have you ended up exhausting yourself sexually and losing interest due to over use of sexual desire and energy. 

 You will have to explore these questions if you are confidently heterosexual. 

Also try exploring your sexuality many times so you know the truth about it. 

 

 

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1 minute ago, Peter Miklis said:

If you are normal, healthy straight guy, you should be getting massive boner even THINKING about girl naked.

I second this. Also the challenge shouldn't be to cum.. the challenge should be not to cum.

 


"Sometimes when it's dark - we have to be the light in our own tunnel"

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till this day I still don't know if your trolling for not :D

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Enough of this nonsense. We have already established you are not straight. Don't waste the forum's time with these games of evasion. You are not turned on by girls. That's the issue.


You are God. You are Love. You are Infinity. You are Leo.

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@Strangeloop How old are you when you lost your virginity? Also, how old were you when you had your first girlfriend?

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On 21/2/2021 at 2:23 AM, Strangeloop said:

This is a continued story about my sex experiences.

This the same girl slept at my house. We played around she got horny I got horny. We make out, we go to bed, we take our clothes off and we start to play with each other. 

Last time  my dick didn't work per say. It worked but not as good as I expected. This time was better. I got pretty hard. 

So as we play around I finger her but in one moment after a while she stopped me because it started to hurt. It's probably because she wasn't wet enough because comparing on how she was wet after I did Oral to her she was way more wet after oral. 

But still this time I managed to put it in the vagina, but again not for long. It was a struggle to put it in, with her help we managed to do it and it slipped away very quickly. 

So technically I lost my virginity. Yay! ??? LOL I expected something more but this is it :D

Buuut again. I didn't cum. But still enjoyed myself. So it's okay... 

I don't know what else to say so that's it for now.

 

Do you not find her hot? Maybe thats the issue. 


Certified lazy skeptic and armchair philosopher

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3 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Enough of this nonsense. We have already established you are not straight. Don't waste the forum's time with these games of evasion. You are not turned on by girls. That's the issue.

Concurred.

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I will say that I had a somewhat similar experience as a teenager, but it was largely because I didn’t find my girlfriend attractive enough (possibly from porn desensitization) and I was extremely neurotic about sexual performance. Also because of the way I masturbated at the time (rather forceful grip) the condom/vagina combo essentially felt like zero contact was being made with my dick—more desensitization. Add on top of that the fact that she kept commenting on how much pain she was in; I felt like I was raping her so we stopped.

THAT SAID, I agree with the others that you ought to just spend some time examining your own sexuality.

Sorry to add to the nonsense!

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7 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Enough of this nonsense. We have already established you are not straight. Don't waste the forum's time with these games of evasion. You are not turned on by girls. That's the issue.

I didn't read his last thread if there was one but don't tell him he isn't straight. He may be new to sex and nervous or he may not be that attracted to the current girl he is with. 

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15 minutes ago, Peter Miklis said:

He already said that when he watches porn, he notices men more than women. I mean ffs, how many signs does one need to see and realize the truth?

His enviroment must have been one hell of a fundamentalist hellhole if he wants to be straight this badly. If I was him I'd just go shamelesly full gay and not even think about this ever again.

Hmm, I think OP should inquire more then on this. Nothing wrong with having some attraction towards men. Sexuality is a spectrum like they say. He could have something held regarding this unconsciously that makes it hard for his energies to flow. I still don't think it's right to tell him he isn't straight though. Nothing wrong with being bi or having some attraction to men while still having a preference for women in relationships. I say explore both. It may be freeing and allow for him to enjoy being with women if he so wishes to pursue this or if it opens up new doorways that's cool too. He said he was aroused some by this experience so I think this is more of one of those unconscious blockages that pulls everything down and makes it confusing. Only way to feel more clear is to be honest with oneself, let go of shame, talk about it / self inquiry and be open with one's emotions on the issue. Don't think it's healthy to flat out tell someone what they are or aren't though.  

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