Happy Lizard

A good resource on developing a spirit of competition ?

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Hi, 

I was wondering if any one knows of a good resource for anyone who wants to develop a mentality of winning and being competitive. 
I'm seeing lately that having a good degree of wanting to be competitive is a good and healthy aspect of life if one doesn't obsess about it.

I've noticed in my life that I'd often not care too much about winning as a goal. I used to play video games with friends, for example, but I'd be more interested in playing and having fun than being a good player. Which sometimes was not just being in a good spirit because id get angry or jealous if someone was playing better than me, and I can see that playing in subtle ways in other areas in my life, which makes me want to understand if that's a limiting belief issue. 

so how can one start being competitive and get into the mode of being a winner?

note: if you there's a video by Leo that you recommend please link it, I haven't watched all his success videos.

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So you never get frustrated from being bad at something? 


one day this will all be memories

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@Happy Lizard I can't relate because I've always wanted to win and I'm competitive. I don't care if we're playing Cards, Tennis, Badminton, Chinese Checkers or Mario Kart, if there's something to be won then I wanna win it god damn it. And it's as simple as that. 

I can take losing well, and I don't usually get hung up. Especially if it was luck. But under the right conditions I'm a sore loser. Being a sore loser for some moments is fine if you bounce back and don't linger. If it's playful and fun there's not much to be bitter about. 

Sounds to me like you already know how to be competitive. Isn't losing frustrating? That alone is enough

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I'm only recently discovering that there's real power in ego and "will" (different from common understandings of willpower), having dismissed it before. Higher psychic/energetic states of consciousness being accessible through it, although it can't be forced too roughly or you'll burn yourself. But you have to risk burning yourself. It's a high stakes game. Because deadpanned  seriousness and determination is like that. 

Because with "strong enough will" can come single mindedness and concentration, as there is in deep meditation. 

 

Understanding how letting go and "will" are compatible is tricky, so abandon all talk of "willpower" . Because talking about willpower and framing it like this invariably leads to negative results. But just know that they neccesarily aren't and to keep mind open 

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11 hours ago, kag101 said:

So you never get frustrated from being bad at something? 

all the time....

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