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Erectile Dysfunction

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Hi everyone, I am from Toronto and I am 30 years old. I have been in a relationship for the past 4 years and we had sex many times. Things were going fine and we have tried almost everything (she is so active to make me happy in the bed ). Everything was perfect and she went to New Zealand for her research work in the month of April 2016. We were talking over the phone, but I never wanted to distract her from her project so that I was always careful to keep the limit. She reached here by the end of September. It was on September 30th, we had our dinner together after a long time of gap and was planning to enjoy the night. But I didn't get a proper erection and I couldn't satisfy her :(. We made a second try, but I couldn't even achieve erection at that time. We were trying for the coming days and mine is not getting hard as it supposed to be. I am not able to put the condom as it gets soft within a minute of penetration. I am getting too anxious and nervous :(. Is it a psychological problem or biological? One of my friends said me that hormone imbalance causes this. My girl now came to a stage where she asked me to seek medical advice for erectile dysfunction. Can you please share your thoughts? I am feeling guilty :( .

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Erectile Dysfunction is quite a complex issue.

IMO there are two main reasons for erectile dysfunction:

  • Performance anxiety
  • Porn
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Probably psychological. Not seeing or touching the one you love for many months and then suddenly having sex might be like a machine that needs some oil and a lot of psychological healing to work "properly" again. Maybe key is you being very careful to not disturb her too much while she was away. Maybe your body is carrying some of that self-limit still. 


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Diet/Lifestyle can play a role too, have you ever tried Maca Root Power, Ginkgo or Ginseng? are some amazing herbs to balance and restore the system.

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 :D Im not laughing at you but I always find it a bit comical when men freak out about their dicks not doing what they want them to do.  The thing to NOT do is blow it out of proportion in your mind so that it then becomes a problem and you condition yourself to think about it every time you try to have sex.  

My tips for the insecure man - 

1. Getting an erection and being some kind of sex machine that should be able to satisfy your woman at will is ridiculous and unrealistic.

2. Women dont always feel like it and their bodies dont do what they want so why should mens?

3. If this woman really loves you then she is not going to judge you or leave you just because you can't get it up

4. Place less emphasis on sex and satisfying her. Its not your responsibility or purpose in life. Its nice but in the scheme of things its insignificant. 

5. Identify less with your sexuality  because remember Its just sex. You don't actually need it to live or to be happy. You just think you do.

6. Getting it up has nothing to do with being a man

7. Laugh at yourself.  Maybe laugh together with your girlfriend about it.  Laugh at her vagina too because they are pretty funny. Hold your penis like a puppet and make it talk to her vag with a funny voice.

8. Forget about penetrating and forget about cumming. Lay with her and place your flacid penis near her vagina and just enjoy being together.  The sensuality, the touch.

9.Lick her pussy like she has never had it licked before.

10. When you have taken all these things on board and feel completely relaxed together I guarantee you will fuck like a machine again.

 

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It's actually completely normal for a many males nowadays. Most of the males go completely impotent in their early 40s. But it's not uncommon for males to start experiencing erectile dysfunction in their 30s. Your problem is psychological. Maybe after so long time you are having sex. But don't worry there are medications like Kamagra 100mg, which is capable of treating Erectile Dysfunction problem. But now combating all these issues is a lot easier with this medication that ensures a healthy sexual life minus the effects of such stresses.

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It could be a psychological issue, if you don't succeed it with a partner but it is okay, for example, while your masturbation.
So there can be a lot of reasons of the problem. Perhaps, it is a performance anxiety for you when you think you have to perform sex at the top of your’s capacities and you are afraid of failure.

The solution could be changing the way of habitual superficial breathing (into deep and relaxing), somatic excercises or massaging the certain parts of the body https://tantraoslo.no/natural-ways-to-increase-male-potency/

Good luck!

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You may try Ginseng from Asia - it is a natural oriental medicine which has sexual healing effect in some cases. Best of luck! 

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On 10/18/2016 at 3:19 AM, Xpansion said:

9.Lick her pussy like she has never had it licked before.

 

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The probable reason for not getting hard may be the psycological such as depression, stress, anger and anxiety that reduces your sexual desire and leads to sexual problem such as erectile dysfunction. This is common nowadays because of stressful lifestyle. So there is nothing to worry as many treatment options are available, the best way to get treated. You can try Generic Viagra Medication for treating your erection problems.

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Can't believe no one has suggested Cialis yet. This was my magic pill that got me through my partying years. Before, I couldn't get an erection with a woman. So many missed opportunities. I hated myself and my body for this. Eventually I got a prescription for Cialis. I would order bulk from Canada, so the price was super low, at $1 per pill. I'd get 20 mg pills. But would only take a nibble, so more like 5mg dose per use. And it was the golden ticket, the magic pill. Full hard erection on tap whenever needed. I could fuck for hours. It would stay in my system for 3 days, so I could fuck for days on end. My partners would be amazed, but little did they know my little ace up the sleeve. For someone who understands the shame, frustration and sadness of not being able to perform when needed, I can tell you how much of a godsend it is be able to have your dick stay hard all night so you can just enjoy the sex. Highly suggest trying it. Just get a prescription for any doctor. Keep you dose low. And enjoy! 

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On 1/21/2019 at 7:11 AM, Jed Vassallo said:

Can't believe no one has suggested Cialis yet. This was my magic pill that got me through my partying years. Before, I couldn't get an erection with a woman. So many missed opportunities. I hated myself and my body for this. Eventually I got a prescription for Cialis. I would order bulk from Canada, so the price was super low, at $1 per pill. I'd get 20 mg pills. But would only take a nibble, so more like 5mg dose per use. And it was the golden ticket, the magic pill. Full hard erection on tap whenever needed. I could fuck for hours. It would stay in my system for 3 days, so I could fuck for days on end. My partners would be amazed, but little did they know my little ace up the sleeve. For someone who understands the shame, frustration and sadness of not being able to perform when needed, I can tell you how much of a godsend it is be able to have your dick stay hard all night so you can just enjoy the sex. Highly suggest trying it. Just get a prescription for any doctor. Keep you dose low. And enjoy! 

 

Well you are right Cialis and Viagra have the instant and best effect, but also have small problems: they are not healthy, especially for hart, I know few people (older) who died on Viagra and Cialis.

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Is it nerves causing it? I've had that issue in the past. It's a tough one as the more it happens the more it becomes a cycle. Some viagra should snap you out of it and help build your confidence back up. Fear and arousal just don't mix. Maybe you care too much. 

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On 1/27/2019 at 2:36 AM, Wisebaxter said:

Is it nerves causing it? I've had that issue in the past. It's a tough one as the more it happens the more it becomes a cycle. Some viagra should snap you out of it and help build your confidence back up. Fear and arousal just don't mix. Maybe you care too much. 

 

That is a reason why many people (especially older) should avoid using of viagra...

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I had a similair problem. I do no-fap, before I used to masturbate everyday and I didn't got it up when I had sex. Abstaining from porn and masturbation will help. In my case I had insecurity issues because of porn and my penis became desensitized thanks to masturbating with a very tight grip. Feeling bad about it creates a vicious circle of disfunction.

My advice:

  • Don't watch porn;
  • Don't masturbate;
  • Ask your GF to blow jou when having your condom on (that helped a lot in my case).

I know what your going through, good luck.


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On 1/29/2019 at 7:32 PM, Marinus said:

I had a similair problem. I do no-fap, before I used to masturbate everyday and I didn't got it up when I had sex. Abstaining from porn and masturbation will help. In my case I had insecurity issues because of porn and my penis became desensitized thanks to masturbating with a very tight grip. Feeling bad about it creates a vicious circle of disfunction.

My advice:

  • Don't watch porn;
  • Don't masturbate;
  • Ask your GF to blow jou when having your condom on (that helped a lot in my case).

I know what your going through, good luck.

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Nice tips bro! :)

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To maintain healthy erection you need to take care on the following things like as:

- No alcohol/ drug/ smoking

- Eat healthy fruits like Watermelon, Bananas, Sugarcane,

-Exercise daily (You can consult with you physical trainer to guide you some erection sustain exercises)

- Try Meditation, Yoga (It really help to release stress and overcome on depression)

 

 

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