Viking

how to shed resistance to work?

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how do i do something if i dont feel like it?

i tried to create habits but i just dont manage to do the thing i need in the first place so the habit doesn't catch up.

i feel this issue is very deep as practically everyone faces this.

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23 minutes ago, Viking said:

how do i do something if i dont feel like it?

Learn to like it. 

You can learn to like it by breaking it down into smaller pieces. Or you can visualize the reward of achieving the final result. 

Who would you be if you did it, and who would you be if you didn't do it. Then decide which one of those two people would you rather be. 

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Two things came to my mind:

1. Having a vision always helps. Visualize who you want to be, what you want to achieve, how you want your future to look like.

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The future depends on what you do today.

2. Shadow work. Try to identify where your laziness and resistance come from. Once you manage to do it, try to get to know this side of you. Understand it, accept it. I'm not talking about some intellenctual mental masturbation. Actually feel it in your body. Give permission to yourself to feel everything that is related to laziness.

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Pomodoro method, and time. The more you work the easier it gets

Mastery - Robert Greene


 "Unburdened and Becoming" - Bon Iver

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You have to sit down and work out what motivates you to do stuff. Everyone's different though, so I can't give you a specific answer. But here are some pointers:

1. Money.

2. Recognition and status.

3. Doing stuff now, to make things easier in the future.

4. Staying alive: eating, bathing etc.

5. Reward of any sort (after doing it) / making people happy

6. Relief - from worrying about not doing it.

7. Threat or stigma from other people for not doing it.

8. Deadlines.

9. Structure and timetables. Any sort of framework for working.

10. Actually starting a task.

11. Interaction with other people or sharing a task or being on a team.

 

Here are some things that are non-motivating:

1. Being unhappy or depressed.

2. Physical illness (or being unfit, eating junk food, brain fog etc).

3. Having too many things to do.

4. Having too many options.

5. Reward without working for it.

6. Too little time (deadlines!)

7. Too much distraction, either thoughts or environment.

8. Underdeveloped executive function and/or attention span

9. Previous negative experience in doing the task

10. Too much effort for too little reward

11. Working in a negative environment.

 

The point is to work out what does motivate you and put those things in place; and work out what doesn't motivate you and fix or remove those things. It's a mental game you have to play with yourself.


All stories and explanations are false.

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Start by liking it 


INFJ-T,ptsd,BPD, autism, anger issues

Cleared out ignore list today. 

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I think you have to look to do what you love or like. Is there anything you like to do? Some hobbie, whatever?

Try to make it your main source of income. That's what I am working on, trying to make my art to become my work.

^_^


Don’t you realize that all of you together are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God lives in you?
1 Corinthians 3:16

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