Very few people ever change their attitude

[wk197]

or their thoughts. Makes me wonder that even the potential to get better yourself is luck.  If you've changed your attitude for the better than congratulations you've probably won life. most people just revert back to their old habits. the self help industry is rich but most people who are into it never improve substantially. you can't expect stupid normies to conquer themselves with the power of love or anything. they are too dumb and are okay with the bare minimum. then you have me with a poor attitude, habits and disorders who doesn't even have the bare minimum in western society which most people take for granted, who's probably going to die on the streets because people treat homeless people like trash.

I just find everything too hard with not much time left considering my life circumstances. this is just more of a rant than a call for help. 

 

[No Self]

All very true.

If you do want to make a change, it helps to have a positive role model. Most people will not cut the mustard for that.

[susanyzm]

Personally I find making changes by oneself is very hard. The old habit is too slippery to revert.

But making changes in a community is a lot easier. That's why Leo has started this forum. He keeps reminding us that it's so easy to forget what one has learned. We need to be reminded by other people to get back on track. 

[bejapuskas]

You are inevitably changing something. But it is very easy to overestimate the speed at which you can make a change in the direction you want it to be changed in.

[Nahm]

16 hours ago, wk197 said:

or their thoughts. Makes me wonder that even the potential to get better yourself is luck.  If you've changed your attitude for the better than congratulations you've probably won life. most people just revert back to their old habits. the self help industry is rich but most people who are into it never improve substantially. you can't expect stupid normies to conquer themselves with the power of love or anything. they are too dumb and are okay with the bare minimum. then you have me with a poor attitude, habits and disorders who doesn't even have the bare minimum in western society which most people take for granted, who's probably going to die on the streets because people treat homeless people like trash.

“Loser”, “stupid normies”, “luck”, “what most people do”, “they are too dumb”, “identifying yourself with an attitude, habits, and disorders”, “what I don’t have”.. 

16 hours ago, wk197 said:

I just find everything too hard with not much time left considering my life circumstances. this is just more of a rant than a call for help. 

If I was judging myself & others, and holding perspectives of lack, shortage, etc, I would be suffering exactly as you are, as that is what suffering is, and that is how you’re recreating it over & over. That is what is “so hard”. It is exhausting, and you want to quit. But that means you’re going to feel. Stop being afraid to feel. It is love. 

You learned all that garbage. Let it go. Unlearn it. Recognize the suffering in feeling not ‘going there’ when you do think & share the ‘garbage’. That is what feels terrible. Stop doing it, and you’ll stop suffering. You can do anything you focus on. Stop focusing on garbage. Start focusing on what you already know you want. Write it on a dreamboard to make it foolproof and easy. 

It is not your past nor future which you care about, nor your perspectives. It is only how you feel, right now, that matters to you. Be honest with yourself about this, and clarity and inspiration are yours. There is truly only this present moment precisely as it appears. All else is the ruminating mind. That is what meditation is for. Stop being the slave to a mind, and get behind it, where it is directed. 

Change your environment to what feels good to you. Change your words to those which feel good to you. Talk slower, deliberately, as if - when you speak, it is so. Notice this is already the case. Be willing to be brutally honest with yourself. 

[wk197]

@Nahm

''If I was judging myself & others, and holding perspectives of lack, shortage, etc, I would be suffering exactly as you are, as that is what suffering is, and that is how you’re recreating it over & over. That is what is “so hard”. It is exhausting, and you want to quit. But that means you’re going to feel. Stop being afraid to feel. It is love.'' I really don't understand what you people mean by love and no one does except a niche of hippie new ageists and another thing, stop this weird fluffy lovey obtuse hard to understand text you do sometimes. this is the only time i've seen you type concisely.  if you couldn't read this thread was more of a rant than a call for help but anyways.

If I didn't have those perspectives like lack, shortage and judgement what would both people and I strive for? it was because of those perspectives that you probably improved your life. I read your loa thread and you said you were lost and depressed in beginning, the way I interpret it you were lacking and eventually met your basic needs with probably better circumstances to do so, you already had an established meditation habit (which has proven scientific health benefits) which seemed to help you greatly navigate the complexities of life. count yourself lucky. you're a winner. as a loser I can at least provide valuable/useful contrast to happy/successful people in which people can learn how to survive better. if you lost a loved one you would definitely hold a perspective of lack. if you don't understand that people aren't always dealt the best of cards or have full agency over the circumstances and can just think it or write it away with a dreamboard then you're probably not going to help people as much as you think. 

About that dreamboard you bring up so much, I've already tried that for a year before it slowly bit by bit started to feel futile. you know there are many takes/viewpoints on how LOA works, there's no clear consensus and if it is real then its probably really advanced. 

Edited October 4, 2020 by wk197

[Nahm]

39 minutes ago, wk197 said:

If I didn't have those perspectives like lack, shortage and judgement what would both people and I strive for?

What you actually want.

[wk197]

8 hours ago, Nahm said:

What you actually want.

Sigh dude. I wrote down my dreamboard that I want an apartment, a job and happiness.  simple shit. just look at that ''failure to launch'' thread. that guy was head over heels for YOUR loa stuff and has seemingly gotten nothing from it.

[Nahm]

@wk197

When resistant thoughts arise, resistant as in ‘doesn’t feel good to you’ - let them go. 

No need to change really. With so much to let go of, the change you desire will be the natural outcome of letting go.

[wk197]

8 hours ago, Nahm said:

@wk197

When resistant thoughts arise, resistant as in ‘doesn’t feel good to you’ - let them go. 

No need to change really. With so much to let go of, the change you desire will be the natural outcome of letting go.

what about negative feelings? I read something and it made me feel negative. would that stop me manifesting? I feel thrown off. at least i'm meditating

[Nahm]

@wk197

Great to hear you’re meditating!  When thoughts arise like “negative feeling”, feel instead.