Posted October 20, 2019 Leo told you many times how important it is to build a relationship in real time, and not through social media or online messaging. I would like to add one demonstrative example. Take on my shoes and imagine you want to express love towards a girl you've been great friends with since 4th grade (that's a long time, and yet I did not have the knowledge base to see the causes of being a friend and the implications of actively teasing her, having the linguistic skills, striving for a more intimate relationship etc.) Back to the point; we had a conversation about our plans and such. We were sitting next to each other and as the conversation was nearing its natural end, I told her: "Hey, will you promise me one thing?" as I put one hand onto her lap and made a firm, loving eye contact. I said: "Whatever you do, listen to your heart and follow your passion." It was such a small, yet powerful moment! (and I've been her friend for a decade, which complicates the situation a bit.) What this hopefully shows is that taking a hot knife and cutting through the right moment may be more risky, and yet you gotta say fuck it and test your lines. If it wasn't for that touch-feel decision, I would have probably written to her later in chat: "Hey, about that convo we had, stick to your dreams." To which she would have casually responded: "Okay." Life would go on, it would be too late, as it has been for the last ten years. I was always the passive guy, but I am trying to seek more activity lately as my fear is mostly gone, thanks to Actualized.org. Should you have helpful notes, both @Leo Gura and others, on how to express love in a long-lasting friendship, I will warmly welcome them. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 20, 2019 So, did you end up sleeping with her? I'm sorry, too many dating-related posts nowadays Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 20, 2019 1 hour ago, Hello from Russia said: So, did you end up sleeping with her? I'm sorry, too many dating-related posts nowadays Oh, I am not interested in short-term dating, sleeping with her etc. That stuff grows naturally in a true relationship. I'm talking real deal. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
