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Hypergamy

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On 1.07.2019 at 11:55 AM, themovement said:

regarding Leos new video, can I re-iaminage the dynamics of hypergamy ? How can I do this? I want to have the dynamics in favour of me and not just my genetics. I want to believe this new way

You may not re-imagine hypergamy. Whatever you come up on your own will only serve to perpetuate your suffering. 
The only thing you can do is to purge yourself of your beliefs and make space for a revelation to occur. Hold your imagination at bay and start living through knowing nothing and letting reality speak for itself.

If you're genuine in this pursuit, reality may speak to you. If it does - you will understand that whatever it speaks is true because you will feel liberated. You will feel like yourself, and yet - you wouldn't dare to say that you came up with whatever reality had told you. Reality is more "you" than you yourself are.

This inner truth will need to be actualized, objectified by practice.
Only then it will be confirmed as a fact, irrespective of what science tells you, without being in conflict with it.

Your current approach is ass-backwards. You are taking facts supported by empirical science as truth.
Facts of science are useful only in so far as they are confirmed by reality. Have you found what reality is?

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1 hour ago, tsuki said:

You may not re-imagine hypergamy. Whatever you come up on your own will only serve to perpetuate your suffering. 
The only thing you can do is to purge yourself of your beliefs and make space for a revelation to occur. Hold your imagination at bay and start living through knowing nothing and letting reality speak for itself.

If you're genuine in this pursuit, reality may speak to you. If it does - you will understand that whatever it speaks is true because you will feel liberated. You will feel like yourself, and yet - you wouldn't dare to say that you came up with whatever reality had told you. Reality is more "you" than you yourself are.

This inner truth will need to be actualized, objectified by practice.
Only then it will be confirmed as a fact, irrespective of what science tells you, without being in conflict with it.

Your current approach is ass-backwards. You are taking facts supported by empirical science as truth.
Facts of science are useful only in so far as they are confirmed by reality. Have you found what reality is?

Its hard to get ride of old beliefs when you have been burned so many times, time and time again hypergamy proves itself to me. If I get ride of this belief then I will no longer be burned? I just don't see how this life is fair unless you win the genetic lottery. I haven't found what reality is, i just hope this is real and not some kind of pseudo relief from the harsh truths.

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Just now, themovement said:

Its hard to get ride of old beliefs when you have been burned so many times, time and time again hypergamy proves itself to me. If I get ride of this belief then I will no longer be burned? I just don't see how this life is fair unless you win the genetic lottery. I haven't found what reality is, i just hope this is real and not some kind of pseudo relief from the harsh truths.

Using knowledge as a shield is beta. Using knowledge as a sword is beta.
A true alpha stands naked and empty-handed, sees the fire as love and embraces it.

Become a man of value despite your genetics and let women chase you.


Bearing with the conditioned in gentleness, fording the river with resolution, not neglecting what is distant, not regarding one's companions; thus one may manage to walk in the middle. H11L2

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21 hours ago, themovement said:

I would make it less brutal, its all about superior genetics. I would make it so people love for the personality

Personality is also mostly genetics. 


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7 minutes ago, Enlightenment said:

Personality is also mostly genetics. 

Well Im double screwed then, no enlightenment can save you from this

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3 minutes ago, themovement said:

Well Im double screwed then, no enlightenment can save you from this

Why do you crave women so much despite every evidence that you will have none?
Why do you want to suffer so much? Why do you need this suffering for?

Let go of this desire and be free. Become celibate and see how your life will transform.


Bearing with the conditioned in gentleness, fording the river with resolution, not neglecting what is distant, not regarding one's companions; thus one may manage to walk in the middle. H11L2

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17 minutes ago, tsuki said:

Why do you crave women so much despite every evidence that you will have none?
Why do you want to suffer so much? Why do you need this suffering for?

Let go of this desire and be free. Become celibate and see how your life will transform.

@tsukiSurely I can change this? re imagine my reality like leo is saying. isn't this the point of spirituality, also maybe it will give me an edge being the spiritual dude. Its torturer seeing others get what you can't have just because of genetics, why should I even put effort into chasing women when others can get it instantly based of looks? Do I even have a choice not to suffer ?

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5 minutes ago, themovement said:

Do I even have a choice not to suffer ?

Yes. Let go of the story that tells you that having a hot woman by your side is the only mark of success.
Find out what success means to you, without anybody's guidance.

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51 minutes ago, tsuki said:

Yes. Let go of the story that tells you that having a hot woman by your side is the only mark of success.
Find out what success means to you, without anybody's guidance.

@tsukiWhat about the studies on hypergamy? like on tinder surely that proves its more than a belief?

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1 minute ago, themovement said:

@tsukiWhat about the studies on hypergamy? like on tinder surely that proves its more than a belief?

Unless you know what reality is, all knowledge, that includes all of science, religion and spirituality, is a belief.
Knowledge is not something that justifies truth, truth is something that is expressed through it.


Bearing with the conditioned in gentleness, fording the river with resolution, not neglecting what is distant, not regarding one's companions; thus one may manage to walk in the middle. H11L2

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the last girl i was with exposed hypergamy to me, it exists. 


Your intuition is your own personal genie.  Learn to trust that infinite intelligence.

 

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Life-changing videos.

Make sure you don't skip the basics or try to learn the advanced stuff directly. I recommend that you study Leo's old videos. They contain the foundation for creating a great life before even chasing enlightenment. Without this foundation, you're screwed.

Victim's mentality is the number one reason for all of your problems.

@themovement

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9 minutes ago, SageModeAustin said:

the last girl i was with exposed hypergamy to me, it exists. 

@SageModeAustin Exactly, what happened?

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23 minutes ago, tsuki said:

Unless you know what reality is, all knowledge, that includes all of science, religion and spirituality, is a belief.
Knowledge is not something that justifies truth, truth is something that is expressed through it.

Perhaps I am not enlightened enough yet,

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2 minutes ago, themovement said:

Perhaps I am not enlightened enough yet,

If you ground the truth of hypergamy in science, then in order to question hypergamy - you need to question science.
You cannot question science by regressing, by denial.You cannot reject it.
Become genuinely interested in the limits of science and see if it's applicable to your particular problem.


Bearing with the conditioned in gentleness, fording the river with resolution, not neglecting what is distant, not regarding one's companions; thus one may manage to walk in the middle. H11L2

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@themovement In my experience, hypergamy was a pattern of the undisciplined mind, just like pornography, masturbation and alcoholism.

Now that I am aware of True Nature, such sources of unfulfillment do not scratch me. It's been 4 years and getting better, more peaceful and joyful everyday.


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On 7/1/2019 at 1:47 PM, themovement said:

@seeking_brilliance Genetically superior people will only marry other genetically superior people. Either I change my genetics or re imagine the dynamics of hypergamy. 

Perhaps are you doing this to women for their looks, and then the judgments you make toward them looks-wise come back to bite bite you because you then start thinking in an objectifying way about yourself in terms of status and questioning which men deserve and don't deserve an attractive woman as a signifier of their worth?

This is really the reason why so many men are freaking about hypergamy. They engage in hypergamy with women for their looks and then project that every woman on the planet is doing it to them for their money and status, when it's really just a small minority of women who are like that.

The solution is to integrate your anima and to be a real person and see women as real people.

 

 

 


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There are different levels of consciousness within both men and women. Hypergamy is very real and correct in some regards, and in others it is totally false. You are basically trying to take the approach 'what can I do for this not to be real?' You're trying to use your mind, consciousness, whatever you want to call it for reality to be different than how it actually is. Why not focus your efforts on actually answering the question DIRECTLY for yourself what is hypergamy, is it reality, what makes a man attractive, what do I value in a woman, etc. rather than mentally fighting with a theory you've heard proposed online. If hypergamy is true or not is irrelevant, do you know who you are as a man? Do you know how a woman fits in to your reality and what value/lifestyle you can offer her? These appear to be more practical questions for you to be asking yourself.

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