Ampresus

I can't jerk off without porn

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I think this is getting out of hand. I tried ''healthy masturbation'', but I just couldn't do it. Lotion was there to help me for 2 mins, but after that I couldn't even keep an erection. 

I am trying to jerk off without distraction. Something I read in ''No More Mr Nice Guy '' by Robert Glover. I have heard many negative things about porn before. When I asked if NoFap was recommended to teens, there were people who said that masturbation itself isn't bad but porn is. 

In case you couldn't put the pieces together: I am young and don't want to be depended on porn for my pleasure. I haven't masturbated in 5 days. I want to keep it at low rate. Something like once every week. When I masturbate, I want to do it healthy. That means no porn or fantasizing about someone.  

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Dont watch porn at all. After some time, regular masturbation will become  pleasurable again. 

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@Ampresus Have you realized that what you're actually doing is looking at pixels at a screen and deriving the meaning yourself? Fantasy/ imagination + mental talk is what's getting you to PMO. If you really want to stop, which i implore you to do, is to become mindful of when your mind creates these fantasies, these images, and when your mind says "Let's look at xxx".

 

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When your sexual performance with a real woman utterly fails, that's what's going to finally motivate you to stop.


It's Love.

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24 minutes ago, Sahil Pandit said:

is to become mindful of when your mind creates these fantasies, these images, and when your mind says "Let's look at xxx".

@Sahil Pandit This is something I tried today actually. First of all: I felt feelings from my d*ck in my chest. The warmt, the energy. Second of all: It almost worked. So I will certainly try it again after a couple of days. Unfortunately these replies came a bit too late. I have failed. 

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19 minutes ago, John Lula said:

This is normal for people who have desensitized their system with all kinds of porn over many years. At first, you will hit a dip, but then after some time (maybe even months) ED (erectile dysfunction) will pass away. And you'll attain normal libidio, or today it's beginign to become less normal becasue of porn.

"Between 1948 and 2002, historical rates of ED for men under 40 were consistently 2%-3% and did not begin to rise steeply until after age 40. However, since 2010, six studies have found ED rated of 14%-33% in young men, a 1000% increase in the last 15 years. (...) multiple studies from the last decade using a variety of assessment instruments reveal evidence that difficulties during partnered sex are affecting as many as one in three young men." Your Brain on Porn (p. 42-43)

"'Young Japanese men are growing indifferent or even averse to sex, while married couples are starting to have it even less,' reported the Japan Times, citing a 2010 poll that revealed a striking trend. More than 36% of men aged 16 to 19 had no interest in sex, more than double the 17.5% from 2008." - Your Brain on Porn (p. 54)

(A lot of research in this book on the subject.) The book can inform you out of porn.

@John Lula Thanks for bringing some studies in your reply. What is the book called btw?

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3 minutes ago, Sahil Pandit said:

@Ampresus Notice how you feel right now, and what you're telling yourself. Do you want to feel like that again? You felt the high, and now you're feeling low. How about working towards a better base line level? One that the average day is better than the last? 

@Sahil Pandit Yeah this is something I am glad that I know before I have sex. I am a still virgin, so I guess right now is the time to make a change.

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Instead porn try binaural sounds for orgasm ( ejaculation), you can find a lot of videos  on you tube.

Somebody know what to do after a masturbation with orgasm, there is still a big sexual desire what to do. It's normal happening?

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i quit porn when i found that my imagination gives me way better masturbation sessions than porn 

 

however - the visualization needs to be vivid and powerful 

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17 hours ago, John Lula said:

Your Brain on Porn. There's a lot of useful information in there. It's the go to book for why to quit wathching porn, and explains seemingly absurd stuff that is completely normal.

@John Lula you see... my family is stage Blue. If they saw a book I am reading with the name “porn” on it I would be a dead man.

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@Ampresus, just try to use your imagination you will do that easily without watching porn, just practice.

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On 11/29/2018 at 7:29 PM, Ampresus said:

I think this is getting out of hand. I tried ''healthy masturbation'', but I just couldn't do it. Lotion was there to help me for 2 mins, but after that I couldn't even keep an erection. 

I am trying to jerk off without distraction. Something I read in ''No More Mr Nice Guy '' by Robert Glover. I have heard many negative things about porn before. When I asked if NoFap was recommended to teens, there were people who said that masturbation itself isn't bad but porn is. 

In case you couldn't put the pieces together: I am young and don't want to be depended on porn for my pleasure. I haven't masturbated in 5 days. I want to keep it at low rate. Something like once every week. When I masturbate, I want to do it healthy. That means no porn or fantasizing about someone.  

 

If you looked the video and did not take it because it is too long to watch, especially watch this (7:20) for 2 minutes then whether you can choose to watch it from beginning or discard it completely:

don't identify yourself as such immature.

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