Maximus

I don't have any grit

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A recurring theme for me in any new venture is great starting but lack of perseverance, lack of resilience. I have tried many self help methods and continually end up further frustrated. I don't know how to develop this and feel it is too late.


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Stop looking for techniques. Now that you are aware of it, remain aware of it, it will begin to correct itself if you observe yourself not completing tasks.

I've dealt with this (dealing with) this issue myself. When you do the dishes, do it to completion. When you cook, do it to completion, when you are working on a venture, do it to completion. That's where all the satisfaction is.

You're unconsciously holding yourself back from the light at the end of the tunnel, it's not at the beginning... Watch how the theme applies to everything you do. 

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 I don't know how to develop this and feel it is too late.

It's not too late, that's certain.

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I recommend looking at the bulldog mindset it's similar to grit and may give a better idea of what it looks like to have grit and how to develop it.

http://bulldogmindset.com/what-is-the-bulldog-mindset/

https://simpleprogrammer.com/build-bulldog-mindset/

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07H7TJQG7/ref=dbs_a_def_awm_bibl_vppi_i2

https://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2015/04/01/finish-what-you-start/

https://www.2000books.com/members/bulldog-mindset-john-sonmez/

an idea from grit is also the idea of the hard thing rule.

I also recommend looking at the growth mindset angla duckworth said that it was one of the ways she knew of that made people have grit.

https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Carol-S-Dweck/dp/0345472322

i have also read somewhere that it really comes down to making the decision to become a bulldog in order to have that mindset.(yes it was for the bulldog mindset but i think the idea is still the same for developing grit it comes down to making a decision)

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*Destiny is a gift. Some go their entire lives, living existence as a quiet desperation. Never learning the truth that what feels as though a burden pushing down upon our shoulders, is actually, a sense of purpose that lifts us to greater heights. Never forget that fear is but the precursor to valour, that to strive and triumph in the face of fear, is what it means to be a hero* Quoted from the Troll hunters tv serie

“A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.”
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@Maximus Shift to the experience for the sake of the experience (real, now, all your power), away from some end result (just a thought).    Process orientation, vs goal orientation. 

You have gifts yet to be discovered in you that are just currently not even imaginable.


“Come, come, whoever you are. Wanderer, worshipper, lover of leaving. It doesn’t matter. Ours is not a caravan of despair. Come, even if you have broken your vow a hundred times. Come, yet again, come, come.” -Rumi             

 

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On 11/8/2018 at 11:18 PM, Maximus said:

A recurring theme for me in any new venture is great starting but lack of perseverance, lack of resilience. I have tried many self help methods and continually end up further frustrated. I don't know how to develop this and feel it is too late.

Are you sure you may not just find out during your new venture that you no longer need it.  not all things need to be completed to mastery.  Also grit can be just forced activity.  Sometimes its good to put something down for a period and come back renewed.  Perhaps some examples would be good, so its more clear on what your referring to.

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On 11/8/2018 at 11:18 PM, Maximus said:

I don't know how to develop this and feel it is too late.

There’s nothing more powerful then surrounding yourself with people who have grit, determination, and resilience. Can you think of people who have this trait? Where might they be? Where are they hanging out?

I think using your body as a tool to grow your “grit muscle” is powerful. Martial Arts, endurance sports, etc. would help tremendously. Of course I don’t know your medical history, but maybe this will be an option for you. Hope this helps. 

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