Dan Arnautu

Tell me your biggest struggle right now and I will help.

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6 minutes ago, Shin said:

Then be a lifecoach for people whot wants to be successful musicians !

Very interesting idea. I'm gonna think about that.


”Unaccompanied by positive action, rest may only depress you.” -- George Leonard

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Hi! I don't Know what to do in life. I am 20 years old. I am from Nepal. I am studying Information Technology But I don't really like programming. I want to create financial freedom but I don't know how to?. I am always bored.What I need to do 

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@Dinesh Karki

  1. Quit college if you absolutely hate what you are doing and get a job (even as a bartender need be).
  2. Then, while supporting yourself with that job, start to try hundreds of different activities to see which one sparks the most joy in you, the one that you would be inclined to do even if you would not be payed for it.
  3. Once you find the activity that sparks the greatest amount of joy in you, commit to master that activity/skill in the following 10 years.
  4. With mastery, the money will easily come. Once you become good enough to make a stable living from that activity/skill, quit your job and do that full time.

This is the oversimplified process. You will figure out the how-to along the way. Right now, you need to sample the buffet of life and see which type of food you enjoy the most.


”Unaccompanied by positive action, rest may only depress you.” -- George Leonard

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4 hours ago, Shin said:

Then be a lifecoach for people whot wants to be successful musicians !

Thought about doing that actually. You will hear about it if I'll make it work :D

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6 minutes ago, Enizeo said:

Thought about doing that actually. You will hear about it if I'll make it work :D

 

4 hours ago, Dan Arnautu said:

Very interesting idea. I'm gonna think about that.

 

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Im watching Leo's video about quantum mechanics, I have been taking vigorous notes on it since 4 pm, Its 10 minutes left, but I have to wake up 5 am tomorrow, and why am I writing this post, it's so contradictive, im confused please helppp meee

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2 hours ago, StarfoxEpiphany said:

It's always been painful for me to make money.  And 2 years after taking the life purpose course, which led to much improvement, adventures, financial successes, traveling, growth, etc.,...the only thing that currently feels right at the moment is to become a pornstar.

I don't get what the problem is. Is it hard for you to make money or is the way in which you are making the money painful?

Also, if becoming a pornstar is what floats your boat, there is no one stopping you.


”Unaccompanied by positive action, rest may only depress you.” -- George Leonard

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5 hours ago, StarfoxEpiphany said:

@Dan Arnautu To answer your question, it's generally been easy to make money, just usually by doing things that don't interest me and suck the soul out of me  (office work, sales, teaching, military, management).

 

The problem with pornstarship is just normal fears I suppose.  No different than anything else, really. Am I doing something right for the world? Do I really bring something significantly different to the industry?  How do I compete with Johnny Sins? How am I going to be paid consistently? But these are all just normal fears, and I'm already well, balls deep, in the process.  It appears I was just looking for an extra push, thanks!

You're gonna get paid very consistently if you make use of social media. If you build a large following, you can easily get sponsorship deals, do affiliate deals, create products etc. (and you have the potential of becoming a millionaire simply from those). There are many ways to go about this. You will figure this out.

What you have to accept when pursuing this path though is all the consequences that come with that job: the way people perceive you because of your job, your prospects of getting hired in other industries if you did porn in the past, family tension (bc many parents don't agree with the idea of their child becoming a pornstar, mostly because of how other people will perceive them) etc.

If you know all the consequences that may appear with that job and you are ok with them, and if that's what you really want to do, then by all means, go all out.

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”Unaccompanied by positive action, rest may only depress you.” -- George Leonard

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@Dan Arnautu I have been meditating on and off since summer 2017 and being aware of my thoughts like clouds everyday since 2016.

What advice would you give me to transcend these thoughts? I heard every type of advice but the progress is still slow. Maybe all I can do is keep going.

I want a quick fix but there seems not be one.

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How to forgive yourself after having destroyed the psychological and physical health of the person you love the most ?

Please tell me ...

Edited by Shin

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@Dan Arnautu i have another struggle : how do I correct my sleep cycle ? Here's what I can do , I can wake up whenever I want but can't go to sleep when I want and then if I don't get proper sleep at night I keep having naps during the day and I can't control the napping and that reinforces me not being able to go to sleep at night when I want . give me a pill for this one too . the previous one worked awesome thank you for that.

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1 hour ago, sarapr said:

@Dan Arnautu i have another struggle : how do I correct my sleep cycle ? Here's what I can do , I can wake up whenever I want but can't go to sleep when I want and then if I don't get proper sleep at night I keep having naps during the day and I can't control the napping and that reinforces me not being able to go to sleep at night when I want . give me a pill for this one too . the previous one worked awesome thank you for that.

Maybe this can help:

 


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@Shin great thanks I actually did a lot of the things that prevent sleeping at night

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5 minutes ago, sarapr said:

@Shin great thanks I actually did a lot of the things that prevent sleeping at night

Nice, glad I could help a bit.


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A struggle I have is ignoring people who have self important perceptions of themselves in thinking they can solve other people's issues using their own subjective experience perspective.

I eventually pay them some attention and I may even interact with them in some way but they almost always assume their observations and insights are a universally recognized truth, right or good.

Yet, my intention of interacting with them is in possibly bringing some awareness to humble agnosticism in perception because the value they assume they are imparting to others is the very value they fail to acknowledge in their own perspective by the process of dispensing 'wisdom' to others.

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On 3/13/2018 at 1:39 PM, Ether said:

@Dan Arnautu I have been meditating on and off since summer 2017 and being aware of my thoughts like clouds everyday since 2016.

What advice would you give me to transcend these thoughts? I heard every type of advice but the progress is still slow. Maybe all I can do is keep going.

I want a quick fix but there seems not be one.

We have to get rid of the quick-fix mentality if we want to keep making progress. Your improvements will usually come in small spurts after long periods of plateau. So you just have to keep at it.

Also, maybe you haven't found the technique that works best for you yet. There are so many. For me, going into my body (ex. body scans) works really well for slowing down my mental chatter and making my mind more calm. Because when I am fully into my body, I can not be into my mind. Visualizations also work really well for me.

For others, awareness of the breath or chanting mantras may work better etc. Sample each meal for a few months each and see which one attracts you the most.


”Unaccompanied by positive action, rest may only depress you.” -- George Leonard

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23 hours ago, Shin said:

How to forgive yourself after having destroyed the psychological and physical health of the person you love the most ?

Please tell me ...

I'm gonna quote Gary Vaynerchuk directly on this: 

"All of this looking back is fucking with your neck." 

What happened, happened. You could not have done it any other way. Why suffer the event over and over again in your mind? Ain't once enough?

If you can do something about the situation, do it. If not, see that as a lesson both for how you should not act in the future and for becoming more present in the moment / aka making the past die every second. 

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”Unaccompanied by positive action, rest may only depress you.” -- George Leonard

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On 3/13/2018 at 7:08 PM, Shin said:

How to forgive yourself after having destroyed the psychological and physical health of the person you love the most ?

Please tell me ...

Only the worst person in the world can do that. Gosh so abusive. 

Edited by Preety_India

INFJ-T,ptsd,BPD, autism, anger issues

Cleared out ignore list today. 

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