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NoFap - Why you should quit porn & masturbation !

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5 minutes ago, Javier said:

like a base habit that kind of recharges my energy and sets me up for setting new habits.

Yep, it's a strong foundation. 

What is your longest streak so far?

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Sadhguru on point:

 

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Why is it (as a female) after fapping, I feel a sense of 'dirty' as in like discusted with myself? 

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@Charlotte This is an emotional reaction, it does not happen only to femals but to males too,

Because When You fap, You are doing this to Yourself alone and You miss so many things that You need from a guy,

When You have Sex You do that with a guy, and each of You will complete the other in that relation emotionaly, chemically, energetically..etc

 

Be careful choosing Your partner, Choose  a guy that will stay with You all Your life.

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4 hours ago, Charlotte said:

Why is it (as a female) after fapping, I feel a sense of 'dirty' as in like discusted with myself? 

You're not alone. 

 


Memento Mori

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@Star Net @Truth

Cheers guys! 

I thought maybe it's because unconsciously I feel it's a low conscious behaviour. A moment of pleasure, no different from eating that slice of pizza you want.

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5 hours ago, Charlotte said:

@Star Net @Truth

Cheers guys! 

I thought maybe it's because unconsciously I feel it's a low conscious behaviour. A moment of pleasure, no different from eating that slice of pizza you want.

This is also correct. I've had many moments where sexual acts altogether seemed very primitive and disgusting/low conscious behavior because in the state of consciousness i was tuned into, it was completely pointless to my understanding at that time/space.

I turned down sex many times because i was more interested the deep intellectual conversions of awareness of truth because in that i saw optimal growth and expansion thus unconditional love and still to this day i am quite successful with this way.

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B R E A T H E

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@pluto thanks for your input. 

If masterbation is making me feel this way should I avoid?

 

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@Charlotte @pluto

8 hours ago, pluto said:

I've had many moments where sexual acts altogether seemed very primitive and disgusting/low conscious behavior

People Why do You think that Sex is a low conscious behaviour, I feel it is the opposite It is one of the highest conscious behaviors,

But I can understand that the chemical structure of the human body can differe from one to another, and in the same time maybe You feel that Because of Your partner, maybe You do not like Her or Him,

Sex is disgusting !!!?? Why !!!?? :) :) is that a joke,

8 hours ago, Charlotte said:

If masterbation is making me feel this way should I avoid?

:)  Well, of course You should avoid masterbation,

Your body has not been designed for masterbation, it has been designed for having a partner and having Sex, Do not destroy Yourself emotionally and physically,

and think about it, You feel this way emotionally because some thing is going wrong chemically in Your body,

 

Look people, the formula is so simple

Love  >>> Sex  >>> Love  ( the loop goes on and on )

 

I do not know how old are all of You!!  but if You are going to choose a partner, be carefull with that, This is one of the most important choices in Your lives, Choose a partner that You like to live with.

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Let's goooo baby, let's fucking goooooo.

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Finally had sex.

Now the game of No-Whack-A-Mole is back in effect!

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On ‎4‎/‎5‎/‎2018 at 9:14 AM, Javier said:

For me it's kind of a super habit, like a base habit that kind of recharges my energy and sets me up for setting new habits. If I fail I demoralize and then maybe I try again next day or next 3 months. I think it's like taking out the trash and making room for better shit. Right now I'm starting a new streak and I just feel it's the right thing to do. I'm 19 by the way.

That's it, man. And huge kudos to you for recognizing this stuff at your age. 

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6 minutes ago, PsiloPutty said:

Finally had sex.

Now the game of No-Whack-A-Mole is back in effect!

Watchout for the chaser effect.

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@Psyche_92   Yes, I remember someone saying that there might be a resurgence of temptation/emotion after sex. Thanks, brother.

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Contemplation by me, just an example, doesnt mean i actually watch that type of porn

 

What happens when you watch porn 

There is nothing wrong with watching porn. 

The problem arises when you imagine you are the dude having sex with the girl. Multiple things can happen: You can compare yourself to him, you can wish you were him (desire), you judge yourself for not having sex with the girl you like that he is having sex with, you can imagine you are the type of personality the porn scene is about. 

So, what about thinking you are the personality the porn scene is about? 

How do you inherent that? Can you get it from watching a lot of form? For example, cucc porn?  

Yes, you can get those desires from watching a lot of porn if you genuinely like it. Why do you like something? I don’t know. 

But the thing about cucc porn is that, watching your girlfriend getting fucked by another man is not inherently wrong its that considering yourself worse than him, feeling hummiliated to get pleasure is what creates the suffering. 

Also, thinking you will never be able to satisfy your girlfriend, wife like another man does also can lead to suffering. Why? Because you are comparing your hability in the bed to another man, as better or worse. 

If someone factually was better at something than me but wasn’t better than me, would that create suffering? 

If I admitted that lebron james is better at basketball than me, would that create suffering? 

I don’t know, on one hand you are not comparing your worth, so, you don’t suffer from that, you are not saying you are bad. But doesn’t ability comparisons usually lead to that? 

Yes, but if you don’t compare your worth, just your skill does that create suffering? 

Well, I think when you compare your skill, your mind automatacally goes to worth comparasions. 

But if it didn’t compare your worth, would that create suffering? 

Well, isnt ability having more skillful worth than someone else? 

Yes, because you are comparing how good you are at something, how precious your skill is. 

So you are comparing your skillful worth. 

For example, if I said I dance better than you, you are comparing your skill to mine's.  

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Since Shin gone, this hasnt been that active

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