Sexuality And Pornography

[Privet]

1 hour ago, Ilya said:

@Privet but I cant control fantasizing and my staring, though I try to be mindful of that. so are we talking about addiction or abstaining from ejaculation? why do all this? im so confused. Its so hard to tell if its a placebo or not. is the end result self control?

You can control thoughts and staring: you can move your attention away from sexual thoughts and move your look away from what triggers sexual arousal (even subtle), you can be mindful when you do that and why it's bad which will make behaviour change.

We're talking about any kind of sexual stimulation if you are addicted to it and can't abstain for a long time without any withdrawal. From just staring at women/porn to actual sex or masturbation. And yes, you can classify most of men as a lust addicts.

The point of alleviating addiction is freedom. You are a slave of your own behaviour. It takes away your energy, time, joy and makes you suffer in obvious (if addiction is hard) and sneaky ways.

If you are addicted to lust, when you walk along the street what do you do? Instead of being present and feeling joy of being you look for boobs, butts and pretty faces to stare. When you meet a new girl instead of enjoying interaction with her you spend too much time thinking of how to get access to her pussy faster and act according to that neediness. Women feel attraction to guys that are not addicted to pussy, because it's outstanding compared to the average over the population. If you can't last a week without jerking off you waiste your semen and feel bad instead of energized. It's not placebo. Take a blood test for testosterone, then take another one after a week or two of abstinence and see the difference. Testosterone is proven to make difference in psyche. 

In short: lust distracts you from more satisfying things like being, love, creation and makes you a slave of sexual stimulation, a stupid horny monkey.

So @Ross  I ecourage you to think of quitting lust, because it will only get worse over the time and enslave you more, gay porn may only be the beginning.

Edited December 20, 2017 by Privet

[Viking]

@Privet lol the first good answer i've seen, thanks man! im 1.5 weeks in btw (im a good boy)