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What's The Secret To Happiness ?

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How would you find happiness in these situations/scenarios  ?

3 scenarios to consider :

|°|   When you have everything  and you still don't feel good

|°|    When you feel inadequate because you don't have everything.

|°|   When you feel you're not good enough for anything ? 

 

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  1. Only ONE path is true. Rest is noise
  2. God is beauty, rest is Ugly 

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@Loreena i'd go to a zen monastery and get used to having nothing and being a nobody. that's what i did for 10 months.

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presence for an empty mind
compassion for a light heart
Life is the highest art

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58 minutes ago, Loreena said:

How would you find happiness in these situations/scenarios  ?

3 scenarios to consider :

|°|   When you have everything  and you still don't feel good

|°|    When you feel inadequate because you don't have everything.

|°|   When you feel you're not good enough for anything ? 

 

1.  This kind of person lacks comfort in their own skin.  Or maybe they didn't pursue the right things in life and they realize that, maybe half-consciously and half-subconsciously.  Lack of self-acceptance is a likely culprit here.  Money doesn't buy fulfillment.  That requires self-acceptance work to get.  Feeling like you are at home in reality, with all of reality as it is.  This type of person should study enlightenment.

2.  Maybe this kind of person is insecure and trying to impress others.  Or maybe this kind of person wants to live the fullest life possible and is dismayed by their lack of performance on that goal.  We don't wanna make excuses for not living a full life, a big life, your dream-life, your fullest potential life.  Most of us are way, way under-performing in life.  I don't wanna discourage anybody by saying this though.  But we need to live out our fullest potential and that means -- on some level -- that we can never be satisfied with our present performance, and certainly not our past performance.  You need to always be shooting to do more than you are currently doing.  Way more.  Comfort and complacency are our worst egoic obstacles to living a big, inspirational life.  We get a little success and then wanna regress into comfort.  That may be the absolute worst of all traps because you had some steam and then you lost it.  The ego diverted the wind from your sails.  So, we gotta be very vigilant and hold ourselves totally accountable to our goals every moment of the day.  

3.  This kind of person lacks self-esteem and confidence.  This person should work on their limiting-beliefs and get a life-purpose to give them some passion for life, some juice.  They need to become engaged with reality again, with a vision of their potential.  They're not sold on their own dream-life yet.  Their antidote might be to do life-purpose work.  Get in there and root around.  Be an explorer about what your life could be.  Visualize what your fullest-life could look like.  And then realize that there really is a path to making that dream a reality.  And you're gonna get to the point with your personal development work that you will love growing yourself into your dream-life one day at a time, one task at a time.  Fall in love with your vision and the work you are going to do to make that vision exceed your wildest dreams when it becomes a reality.  And then when the time is right, start to study enlightenment to dissolve internal obstacles from your path.

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Creativity and enlightenment fit together perfectly.  Divine creativity is flowing through you.  Be aware of this and how massive of a force this is.  Get more in touch with your creative process.  Enlightenment -- Business -- Art.  Opening the channels of the creative power of Reality.  Just sit there and notice that everything is already infinite.

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1 hour ago, Loreena said:

How would you find happiness in these situations/scenarios  ?

3 scenarios to consider :

|°|   When you have everything  and you still don't feel good

|°|    When you feel inadequate because you don't have everything.

|°|   When you feel you're not good enough for anything ? 

 

I would ask the question what are you to gain from material goods? How would they make you happy? Exactly that would be the reason why you do not feel happy when you have everything because material goods are not what make you happy additionally you in fact do not have everything in this case. You just think you do because you live in the material world.
There is nothing to have but there is everything to give.
If you are not good enough for certain things they are either irrelevant for you because nobody is good at everything or you should have the courage to become better at those if it is so important to you, you can become good at anything. Obviously everybody was a newbie once.
Now the way to stop living in the material world would be to get in touch with your emotions just start feeling them as deeply as you can even pain because ignoring pain will make you suffer and lead to exactly the things mentioned above.

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|°|   When you have everything  and you still don't feel good

1. Practice negative visualization — a Stoicism practice in imagining what could be worse off to appreciate the here and now. You could do it daily for a certain period. 

2. What do you mean by everything? Are these things that truly matter in life that you personally want? Or what others want?

3. Are these things you define as "everything" really something that sticks out in the long term? Something that lasts often is a change inside yourself rather than trying to change your environment. 

4. Is this "everything" something that really matters like close relationships, better health, wisdom, courage, emotional strength and so on? Or is it something like money, fame, power and success?

|°|    When you feel inadequate because you don't have everything.

1. Develop patience. Realize that things come in their own time and rather than looking into rushing the future, notice what is going on in your mind and environment now. 

2. One practice is to reflect on how things change in your life. You accomplish one goal or fix a problem. Maybe celebrate it for a little while. But then you're off to another goal or thing to fix all over again. The more concrete memories you can find — the deeper the emotional impact of this realization to you and the more motivation you will be to change your life in a way that lasts. The less seriousness you have in dealing with certain things in life — because you often held seriousness at it because you think it would make you perfectly happy but it doesn't.

3. Negative visualization again.

4. Practice ancient Epicureanism. Not the modern Epicureanism that people imagine tasting fine food and traveling to exotic countries. The ancient version of this emphasizes minimalism. Not everyone can look to add things in life for happiness. But everyone can look to subtract the bad in life more easily. Eat junk food less, watch and read less shallow media (Unlike other people, I don't think watching tv in itself is bad. There are some shows that taught me and others a lot about life. On the other hand, there are many books that are shallow and predictable.), buy less things you don't need, etc. The goal is basically to experience a life of less so you can learn to be satisfied with less.

|°|   When you feel you're not good enough for anything ? 

1. Gain some confidence through small ways. It may be as small as getting your chores done well or it can be bigger like trying a new hobby. And most importantly, when dealing with personal development. Think of confidence less like superman soaring up to the sky quickly but more like stairs with steps. Gradually increase the difficulty based on the criteria of how inadequate you think you are for it.

2. Ask others like family or friends what your strengths are. Often people with low self esteem can't see the strengths others see.

3. Who do you admire? Why do you admire them? Often people with admire have some traits we find in ourselves. Not always as amazing as our idols but at some respected level, yes.

4. Sometimes instead of self esteem, you have to develop self acceptance instead. Acceptance comes with awareness of our thoughts, emotions and situations. Resistance is when we fight against these and seek to turn away from them. 

5. Another thing to try is self compassion. Sometimes the problem isn't really that you aren't good enough but because your standards are too high. Your self critic could be strong too. You can google self compassion exercises or self compassion meditation.

 

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Journal : What Stages 8 and Beyond of the 10 Meditation Stages from the book The Mind Illuminated is like. After 5 years of meditation.

https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/12952-beyond-the-eternal-into-the-advanced-stages-of-meditation/

 

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- It's not as big a deal or as complicated as you think.

- It's just an emotion blocking happiness.

 

- So don't think or fix anything in reality just remove the emotion and you'll be in a natural happiness or high state.

 

This video will work for every situation listed.

 

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