Sunchild

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    A lot of people will probably call him a piece of garbage lunatic windbag but honestly he has my genuine sympathy. I can only imagine the kind of trauma and neglect little baby Rush must have endured to become such a monster. Think of how he must have been humiliated in school, slapped around by his father, mother leaving him to cry for hours in his crib. Teased, bullied, ignored, invalidated. And nobody noticed.

    Do you have anything to back up the above speculations?

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    On 1/31/2021 at 7:58 PM, Leo Gura said:

    Most people have no interest in developing themselves.

    It is actually rare for someone to outgrow the stage they were raised in -- as that requires emotional labor and people are lazy.

    It's extremely rare for someone to grow by 2 stages or more.

    What If "developing" yourself arises organically, without any effort required, at all? WI it thus doesn't require anything more than just letting go of attachments to things that ultimately never mattered/that you never actually cared about to begin with?  WI It [Stage X] is your natural State, and you just Flow right towards it?  In which case you aren't "developing" anything at all, just becoming your most Essential Self?  Seems like the most natural thing in the world, does it not?

    4 hours ago, Carl-Richard said:

    Growth involves adapting to the environment.

    "The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man."

    ---George Bernard Shaw

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    I had a friend who underwent this kind of change--much more radical than what has been described so far.

    When I met him he was an environmental activist, part of a campus group who fought the administration's attempts to expand the campus into some sensitive areas [the entire campus is built on wooded marshland].  I recall reading a book on Christianity once [note: I am basically a hybrid pagan/Taoist/Buddhist, but was just trying to expand my horizons a bit].  He took one look at it, then looked at me like I was utterly crazy.

    But something happened when I left town for graduate school.  As he tells it, he got into a wreck [him driving] which killed his girlfriend.  His grief & guilt almost got him to pull the trigger on the firearm he had, but then he says she came into his mind in the form of a bright white light and got him to not do the deed, telling him that it wasn't his time yet.

    When I came back to town about a year later, he had gone full right wing fundie, spouting Dominionist rhetoric and listening to Limbaugh and Hannity the entire time.  That of course would be going not one but two levels down [Green to Blue]

    I suppose he was a closet Blue the entire time, not an authentic Green, but damn this remains deeply puzzling to me.  Esp. since I had a similar experience (also ostensibly involving an old girlfriend yes), but whose effect on me was 180 degrees removed from his.

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    On 8/5/2018 at 4:23 PM, Scholar said:

     All I am trying to do is find a place where I can have normal conversations with people about philosophy without emotions and dogma. I just cannot find it, and I seriously am questioning whether I have some blind-spot where I just don't see my irrationality that seemingly makes everyone think I am a threat to them. I even tried approaches where I merely asked questions, without including any of my own ideology, and people think I am trolling and being intentionally annoying as if I had nothing better to do.

    It may not be you.  It is quite likely in these communities (having hung out in one which was pretty materialistic and atheistic) have endured a lot of JAQing off concern trolls (said forum had a regular parade of such coming and going), and when you sound just like one they will jump your behind, even if you are sincere.  We also do have, as you intimated, the cemented mindsets in question from the regulars that you dealt with there.  I say let them find out for themselves.

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    3 hours ago, Scholar said:

    That's what I'm trying to figure what, what exactly that is that stays the same, because I have not yet seen a human being who actually changed that which does not change. It's hard to explain because maybe character is no the right word, it does definitely have to do with personality though.

    I have.

    Risking drifting into New Age mumbo jumbo, it apparently was what they call a soul exchange.  One soul left, another entered (tho in this specific case I have strong evidence that they coexisted for a number of years).  Original personality markers became much more extreme and dysfunctional (where there was once insecure shyness, we now have paranoid secretiveness, for example).

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    But in practical 3D terms it becomes very hard to find someone else.  Someone else on your own wavelength, who has fully owned her own path, and who can thus handle the powerful energies which are typically engendered.  I've only had one woman who made it to that point, and said energies as she told me herself started to threaten to upend her entire world and tear her psyche apart.  Most sense the danger and end up bailing on me long before then.  But that's ok, I now make love to the entire universe, in a sense.

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    Personality typologies can be useful, but you can never be sure whether there truly are say exactly 9 types, or 16, or whatever-as in whether any vital dimensions have been left unexplored and thus undocumented and unmeasured by the typology in question.

    I will say that the Enneagram is more useful than many others because (at least as promulgated by Don Richard Riso) it often encompasses the third (vertical) dimension of growth (or decay).

  17. Posted · Edited by Sunchild

    There are several threads being woven here when anyone discusses "Twin Flames"--not all are substantial, many are mutually exclusive.

    You have any given Soul Connection between two individuals (of course any relationship can be said to embody "soul" at some level, even if severely debased), each of which may have certain unique and numinous aspects/phenomena happening between them-"Twin Flames" are likely a subset of them.  Ultimately, no outside observer can say anything about their experience (i.e. you've gotta be there), but one can try...

    You have what passes for "Twin Flames" in certain communities.  I once was a fairly active member of one such community, but so much of it ended up descending into negativity, angst, and other such dualities that I came to believe that only a very small fraction of participants there had actually met anyone of any real consequence (Exhibit A was how quickly the forum membership would turn over--for a connection which is supposed to be timeless, it's strange that someone would post on it for a year or so, then vanish and never come back).  Most everyone there seemed to exist in this indefinite limbo where they have various degrees of contact with their Twin, but always in stasis, never any true coming together.  All too often newbies would show up--and immediately be spouting all of the usual TF jargon right from the get-go, which when you think about it is rather strange...

    It is very very hard to find any tales of happily together TF's out there which ring authentically true, and they very rarely would show up and chime in on said forum either (the usual excuse there is that United twins have it all figured out and/or are too busy out there saving the whales or such to trifle with internet forums, which is horsehockey for anyone who has ever been in any committed relationship or knows of forums devoted to discussion of same).  (Re)union stories as hinted at above were as rare as hen's teeth; if I ever saw such a post, I don't remember it.  That all just raised the needle pretty high on my Doubt Meter, and I was forced to delete my bookmark awhile back.

    I especially am skeptical of certain very trendy memes that constantly circulate out there, such as the "11:11" thang (wouldn't each couple have their own special and unique idioms and symbols, and not simply reuse some shallow string of digits which by definition occur twice daily on any clock in the world?).

    You have "Twin Flames" as a set of theories, often put forth by those who may, or may not, have any real idea of what they're talking about, and who may harbor ulterior motives in so doing.  The idea that one soul was "split" into two, and then decided to incarnate as 2 separate individuals, is problematic from certain points of view.  As is all of this talk of "False Twins," "Karmic Twins," "Twin Rays," and so on, ad nauseum (you really need a scorecard to keep track).

    My take is that, yeah, soul connections occur all the time, but I doubt that the common TF theories can really explain them accurately.  If the split theory is true, then, given the stories I have read, I think involution away from each other is the only viable explanation (i.e. they don't come here to reunite, but fall here in forgetting to escape each other).  But other scenarios are possible...

    And then (going back to point number one full circle) I have my own personal experience.  Words cannot do It justice, so I'm afraid I cannot say any more.  I will just say that the "Disney" Ideal alluded to upthread is ultimately the final reality that exists beyond all false and distracting dualities, and it is my hope to realize it on this plane.

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    On 3/5/2018 at 8:15 PM, aurum said:

    @sarapr'

    I'll the explain the full circle I've come to on the topic of love because I think this might clear things up for people.

    Most of us have all been taught growing up is that co-dependency and neediness is love. Phrases like "they complete me" or "they're my savior" are usually tell-tale rationalizations for the fact that you and this person are addicted to each other in an unhealthy and destructive way.

    Not our fault. That's just default social conditioning.

    I was in that paradigm until about age 19. That's when my long term girlfriend, who I thought was the "love of my life", broke up with me.

    I was so crushed that it actually shocked me out of that paradigm. I started saying things like "love doesn't exist" and become extremely bitter towards relationships in general.

    Fast forward a couple of years. I'm starting to get into this weird thing called "enlightenment" and having profound experiences of what could only be called unconditional love.

    These experiences have been so beautiful that they've literally brought me to my knees crying. They will change your life forever if you have one.

    The best way I can describe it is that you just have a deep desire for the well-being of everyone. You realize that any small, petty personal concerns like your reputation or how you compare to others is just bullshit.

    All that matters is you just want to love everyone. Everything else is a front.

    So it's not a personal kind of love. There's no playing favorites.

    BUT that doesn't mean I still don't have preferences. This is the part I think people have a hard time grasping because it seems paradoxical from their paradigm.

    I can love someone and not want to spend time with them. I can love someone and set boundaries. I can love someone and not like them.

    It really just depends.

    If I had to translate what this kind of love feels like into a song, it'd be this:

    Feel, don't think ;)

    So...if you've reached that point, do you no longer find "romantic" love, one person to one person, useful or rewarding?  That's my question.  Completely pointless at that juncture?

    The only (person to person) love I ever had (and now, have again) was NOT like you describe in your second paragraph.  We instead simply flowed and tripped (flow and trip) doing whatever, in the present moment, nary a care for the (horrid) past or (unknown) future.  And yet, it also led (the second time) to the kind of broader love you then describe, paradoxically enough...

     

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    Could SOMEONE please show me how to embed videos here?  Every option I try, every YT code I use, just results in a highlighted URL.  Is this a feature only available after someone has a minimum number of posts or something?  Or do I need to be initiated into some sort of secret hyperlink protocol code that nobody wants to share?

    http://<iframe width="560" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/tPayQuTuZWo" frameborder="0" allow="autoplay; encrypted-media" allowfullscreen></iframe>

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tPayQuTuZWo

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  24. Posted

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  25. Posted

    19 hours ago, Arcangelo said:

    Judgement from the person doing S.A.

    Depends on what you mean by "judgement."  If the higher (define that whatever way you wish) notes that remaining with the other person would be counterproductive and thus feel they must end the relationship, is that being "judgemental"?  How about if your lack of judgement leads to a co-dependent type of situation, or just brings the one person down to the level of the other one?

     

    19 hours ago, Arcangelo said:

    Personally i think that we are all into self development, meaning we are all evolving. Is just that some of us are conscious about it while others are learning the hard way sort of speak. Meaning that their S.A. process is too slow just like it had been all of my life until I started watching Leo's videos. In Leo's motivational speech he says that you might realize that your whole life has been about self actualization and i think that's my case and everyone's. This conscious SA that we are doing is great, in one year i feel like i have improved my psyche by decades.

     

    EVERY single individual on the planet?

    I say this as someone whose idealism needle is usually cranked pretty high, but...  Some are indeed evolving, but the vast majority are likely completely stagnant, and more than few have certainly regressed.  Did Stalin evolve at all during his lifetime?  Charles Manson?  Bill Cosby?  [just examples, maybe some did, likely that most such individuals didn't]