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  1. Posted · Edited by NoSelfSelf

    Ive been there paralyzed, panick attacks for years just stuck it seems like at the mercy of your psyche not being able to do anything but wait, it gets better ofcourse, with work, the strongest ones have -1000 steps to get to the 0 step to go up! nobody will understand this because they dont know how brutal psyche can get.Then you just climb.

    Hesitant to post this because its brutal(dont watch if sensitive) but it really describes what you saying .

    Lyrics they take good care of not take care of you im unexplainable one! 

    If you want to talk im always free i swam that current maybe i know something to help..

     

  2. Posted · Edited by NoSelfSelf

    I know how this  because i went through it its like living hell basically,no matter how good you become you always think, okay but there is another level,i still suck so there is always inner conflict when you dont accept yourself.Expecially through sports tilting and seeing how bad i am comparing to someone great.

    Root cause: it all comes from you defining yourself through the level of success that its placed upon you,definig yourself with your salary,with anything outside of you that is placed by society instead you placing your owb standard(which im sure you havent placed its placed for you so if there is a standard that is way up there for you and for someone else is easy you will hate yourself).That creates that boogyman belief im not good enough. Only if you are some type of genius you wont "fail"ever,so self assesment is crucial here to see hey im not on a level that i think i am,mind loves to think of itself that is way higher than it is,so there is also comparing yourself now with ideal self whit that expectation to be ideal self comes self hate and self definition.

    Thats why there is huge fear of rejection because being rejected by a woman is defining me as being less of a man.(what a bs,nobody holds this power but me)

    There is so much layers to this cant just write it all here, there is also your mind afterwards pointing out the things you did.

    For example today i fumbled with one social interaction immidietly mind gets into attack but since im not defining myself by the standards of how i should be im good ill do it next time,i am where i am right now.

    Thats like you right now cant lift 200kg instead of seeing where you are and where you need to go without like saying im pathetic i can only lift 50kg.

    Be grateful for 50kg and where you are right now and watch for definitions you giving yourself.

    This is tough to get out of because you think like you serving yourself by hitting yourself in the head but no you just unnecesary give extra stress.

    No matter how much you hate yourself or whatever you are still you  and you move accordignly.Or fall into victim mindset that just creates hell and self pity instead of seeing yourself as great the way you are because you know no outside definition is making me better(only if validation definse you because again you dont define yourself with self assesment,being grateful,seeing you are already great by itself) its just me adding to my greatness...

     

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    @Princess Arabia True but there are many factors where it can be louder but 9/10 its just silent happening :)

    @Sugarcoat I cant speak for a woman but its more mental than physical with a woman, so you imagining things is creating more pleasure,you being more comfortable,more open,more mentaly stimulated, so if you nervous,worried,cant let go, then it wont be intense as it should be, again its job of a man to make you feel comfortable mentally..

  7. Posted · Edited by NoSelfSelf

    @Princess Arabia Yes if she showed me she has something more than just looks then its earned.Its worse for the individual who thinks its just a given if you are not worthy of the d then you wont have it,im not chasing.Im not here to follow whats natural of how it should be im here to unlock my whole beauty of me which is blocked by following the crowd,looking to fit in,being liked which is natural way of being.Like i said its better for me.

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    I dont want to be with a woman just because she looks good,i dont want to enter her just because im horny.I dont long for things outside of me.I dont need a woman or long for one.

    I want to be with a woman when her cutness matches her quirky personality,i want to enter her when she shows me she is worthy of it,i long for myself so she long for me.I dont need a woman the way you think i need her.My horniness doesnt matter my choices does.

    This is my ideals without them im like every guy out there.

     

  11. Posted · Edited by NoSelfSelf

    @Schizophonia Well if there is no conviction behind what you saying not standing on it,with no care of any loss because you know why you said it not just saying it,then who cares if she runs away, you just placed a judgment on yourself that you are not "the guy".

    You dont speak for it to work out you speak out to get it moving in direction you want, with your style of flirting etc.

  14. Posted · Edited by NoSelfSelf

    Well you could have said:"what makes me good is that i have no problem giving you full body massage from head to toes,but what makes me bad is that i cant resist to put my teeth on your soft skin now ill be generous for you to choose do you want me to stay good or you want me bad 😈 😂  even puns are flying...

  15. Posted · Edited by NoSelfSelf

    @Miguel1 For sure im jelous of you since my whole point is to have sucess with women aka them having sex with me which will put sex and her on a pedestal so im defined by the womans reactions to me perfect way to live.

    I never talk to women and like 10 years ago i knew about this pick up bs doesnt matter what you say to a woman it does matter to me since im saying things which display who i am vs what will give me better reactions.

    So you not answering what you saying at first minute just shows your manipulative nature good job 👍

     

    That thread answer is pure manipulation my god,just admit you manipulate for sex and we good...

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    @Miguel1 You saying that you sleep with 1-3 women a week almost immidietly puts my bullshit radar  on because if you about the game you never say stuff like that.Since you make it about that you automatically make it manipulative as fuck.Its like you need to prove something im writing this because its totally weird, you seem cool but you say stuff that doesnt make sense. Thats why for sex you turn yourself into self deception machine i never witnessed this.

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    5 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    The manipulation of people to maximize sexual opportunity is low consciousness.

    Just in general, sex and everything revolving around sex is low consciousness. The reason that is, is because the only reason you care about sex at all is because it is mechanically coded in your animal nature. And as you pursue that sex you lose consciousness to attain it. You lie. You manipulate. You cheat. You hurt others. All for a few minutes of pleasure and excitement.

    Have sex if you wish. Just notice what you're doing to get it.

     

    I would frame this on my wall if i could masterfully but simplisticly said, actualized.org manifesto.

    Manipulation runs deep but if you want to take a short test answer this queastions to me.

    1.What do you say the first minute talking to a woman?

    2.Whats your endgame with a woman?

    3.How much is your thinking aligned with your behaviour around women?

     

  20. Posted

    How can you even think about stuff like this, this is like father thinking my daughter shouldnt be having boyfriends now 😂 let them do whatever they want to do,you cant ever know  whats good for someone, its their responsibility to know whats best for them.

    Also you as a boyfriend:you shouldnt be eating this cake my girl not good for you.Dont talk to other guys not good for you ,then she will do exactly that!

     

  21. Posted · Edited by NoSelfSelf

    Just say this Hey(her name) i know this place____(pick some good spot) lets grab____(what they serve or what drink you like thats unique) because_____(now say why you love that place paint a picture)

    so i can complement your fire energy and see how bright i can make it shine than its already shining, lets flow to see where it goes.My best time is this weekend at this time let me know whats best for you 👌.

    Add something yours that you noticed face to face i just outlined it.

  25. Posted · Edited by NoSelfSelf

    @Princess Arabia Look at my yesterday post in thread Dear Leo,exactly what i was speaking about and what ive been saying  for past year on here like a broken record.She spitted some real game there,she used manipulation perfectly, when a woman can sense a guy giving power to the pussy/beauty/sex he is done ,she is going to use it as a weapon againts his weakness, he wont be in the position of any impact she is.Guy saying women are beautiful without her doing anything is already lost in the game.