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  4. Posted

    32 minutes ago, PurpleTree said:

    I wonder what the underlying belief/ assumption is for this

     

    for example an hour ago i felt good, saw two beautiful women, they seemed interested the way they started touching their hair and looked at me. Also they walked towards me and were whispering to each other.
    But my body and brain just shuts down with intense shame in these situations and blocks.

    has anybody overcome that?

    Don't listen to the other guy.

    Accept your desire to want to talk to these girls and what else not. If you feel like you need to be better for doing that, then improve. What it is you find out in overcoming the problem.

    Don't make it harder as it is.

  6. Posted · Edited by supremeyingyang

    I know the pain. Just don't let them do it. Undermine their action until they are halfway reasonable. If they want to leave you pressure them to go even quicker, then walk in front of the pack... Ohhh wait, I have forgotten something.. you get the idea.

    Or you play into their fear and make them go even earlier. Make only sure you don't come with them. WHAT you are ONLY 8h before departure at the airport? Oookay, if you feel comfortable with it...

    Haha. Have fun.

  8. Posted

    15 hours ago, Roy said:

    Yea honestly it's annoying af. Ironically you will get results with women when you stop treating them as important and trying so hard. They end up coming to you because it's attractive when someone doesn't give a fuck. "This guy must be busy and important since he barely spares any attention for me." That is what they are subconsciously thinking.

    You read this "wisdom" in a Pickup Forum from the early 2000s?

    Instruction unclear, I ignore 99.9% of women, but get no results. Please give more Insights.

  9. Posted

    35 minutes ago, Nabd said:

    The guys I mentioned don't mind it, but I know other people who would feel insecure.

    Young women and men are usually highly educated in Syria, but you wont earn enough if you work most jobs. For example I am a dentist and I worked as a taxi driver because it earns more money and unless you work with UN or some other international organization where you get paid in equivalent of dollars then you will starve, but these jobs are very competitive and usually are predetermined by the government for their own people.

    Other options are freelance like subtitling or translating which is outsourced from UAE for cheap labour. I worked with Disney recently subtitling from English to Arabic but we get dirt while UAE companies swim in cash.

    Wow. This is all hard. You do so good, but cannot earn a decent living?!

    Is it like this: Younger people compete over the rare good jobs? Reminds me of India, only India is even harder.. People with a masters degree in CS can hold a job. Meanwhile in Germany people hire anyone who can code hello world -

    35 minutes ago, Nabd said:

    I actually play electric guitar and if I ever make an album or even a song then I'll use that name lol

    Love to hear that!))

  10. Posted · Edited by supremeyingyang

    5 hours ago, trenton said:

    Of course I still have the list ready for the psychiatrist. There seems to be a happy ending to all of this.

    Happy to hear that!

    Only one thing: A Psychiatrist is someone who gives you drugs. I recommend you to see a Psychotherapist and talk it all through. Maybe even join a group therapy. It may seems tedious, but it's the real deal. Drugs are not the real deal. They can help in very severe conditions as a first aid to get you going wirt therapy - that's it. Every treadment has it's place.

  11. Posted

    14 hours ago, Yimpa said:

    The main way I see gender is that it’s a social construct.

    ... which developed because of biological differences.

     

    14 hours ago, Yimpa said:

    In general, for someone who is conservative or very strict with their religion, they will only see gender as binary. For someone who is progressive and not religious, they are open to seeing gender as a spectrum. 

    I hear this all the time, but I still don't understand it. Spectrum - doesn't that simply mean do what you want? And I don't see even Conservatives in the West holding anyone back. You might don't call yourself non-binary, you are just a dominant Woman in her relationship.. Instead of just doing what everyone desires for themself they talk abstract ideology from Universities they have not studied deeply..

  13. Posted

    14 minutes ago, Lila9 said:

    This is so true.

    Women feel misogyny very easily.

    And respond to geniune love very easily. I'm sure that men do respond to geniune love as well, this is universal.

    That's may be the reason that the men who grew up with women around them (sisters, female childhood friends) tend to be on average more successful with women, what some men call 'naturals'. They know women, they love them because they know them well, this energy is very bold and magnetic. 

    There are lots of patriarchal beliefs that ruin this beautiful and natural connection between men and women, that create unecessary separation and suffering.

    A recommend video to watch whether you are a man or woman:

     

    I had to smile at the part with the Patriarchy. Ahaha

  14. Posted · Edited by supremeyingyang

    @CARDOZZO

    Brat, I praise you for your posts cuz you share worthwhile stuff. 

    Let's talk about specifics. The biggest learning for me is to let women be how they are. To not want to change / improve them. They will grow on their own with love. Also, a woman may has different goals and viewpoints than the man in a romantic relationship. This is not wrong, it has to be that way. Why fight against reality? I found even if I succeeded in making her improve I drove her away, and rightfully so, I'm so happy I finally learned the lesson.

    11 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    It's an interesting perspective.

    But here's another:

    Don't pander to women. Focus on your life purpose.

    An important corolary rule. Without boundaries the whole relations would not work.

    A woman wants EVERYTHING of a man. Time, Attention - but the man has to have an Agenda so the woman feel valued if she get's some of it. If the woman get's everything very easily, you drive her away and it's right cuz she needs someone with a purpose, not a slave pet human.

    3 minutes ago, StarStruck said:

    This is not only with women but also with money or with anything else. 

    Law of attraction?

  18. Posted

    6 hours ago, Nabd said:

    I come from the middle east and it's a very harsh environment where survival is not guaranteed and money is very important, but I have seen many relationships where women were working and earning more money than men and these relationships are long term.

    Im talking about a population where 90% of the people are actually in critical condition of being poor (most people earn 10-15$ a month while you need like 100$) and of course you see gold diggers or women who would only be in a relationship with a man who earns alot, but they are by no means the majority, hell ive been in one and I know at least 2 guys who actually married women who make double their income.

    I can't be sure about the situation in the US or Europe but i highly doubt its as bad as some of the comments on this thread seems to suggest.

    Interesting! Very. For fresh perspectives like this I keep lurking arround in the forum. I always thought that in Middle East the Women is not supposed to earn more. Which country you life in? Are the men feeling bad cuz of this or are they just happy to have such a woman as partner? What are examples of the jobs of men and women? Why is it like that - men are less educated?

  19. Posted · Edited by supremeyingyang

    This escalated fast.

    When it comes to women everyone is a expert. We all should look at our younger self before trashing @mr_engineer .

    @mr_engineer : Please read "The superior Male" from David Deida, comtemplate it and don't let youself getting dragged down by this negativity. Don't ask! Purchase it, read it over the next days and I assure you it'll be worth it's price more than 100,000 times. Doesn't this sounds good?))

  22. Posted · Edited by supremeyingyang

    51 minutes ago, Jacob Morres said:

    Does anyone else experience this? 

    Of course, you have to appear safe and interesting. I just assume that you don't want to harm anyone (haha), so the thing is how you project that? You socialize a lot, without wanting something immediately beside communication.

    Go to places you like regularly, over time you get familiar with other people who go there. I for example go 4 times a week to a nearby forest and it's becoming a scene of people I'd never normally talk to. People much older (50-80+) or younger (0-20), people with dogs, women riding horses, people enjoying nature and collecting food in the forest like berries of mushrooms... over time you meet organically women you like. It's much more rewarding to me, even though it's indirect and takes longer. But if you 'get a match' it's usually a pretty good one. You need do find out what it is for you - the Gym, a Club, a inner City place, concerts at a certain place, nature...

    Cuz chances are you sit on your computer and phone too much which makes you too weird IRL and the women feel rightfully repelled by it. It's a feature, not a bug. You have growth to do and then you get girls as a bonus among other things)

  24. Posted

    13 hours ago, MarkKol said:

    without listing many obvious people who qualify, what are your thoughts on this common pattern?

    I've also heard that there is truth within mathematics, which surprised me. 

    Mathematics is a very worthwhile tool-set (financially), which is increasingly harder to get. So to me it's the other way around.

    If someone is very good at higher Mathematics, then the probability of the person being a genius increases.

     

    10 hours ago, Jannes said:

    It's because we simply value math and physics very highly in our western culture. If we didn't do that we wouldn't see mathematicians as the most intelligent people. 

    It's like saying "is it a coincidence that many tall people are above 6 feet"?

    It probably has to do with the fact that math is very crucial for all science and maybe other psychological reasons. 

    I highly value the intelligence to make analogies for everything. 

    We pay good for it, but most people hate on Math after High School. So 'we value math' is a arbitrary statement. Yes we do, but not so that they all say: YEES, this is the most important thing to learn for a majority of people. There is a constant need for people who are good at math.