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  1. 7 hours ago, This is the end said:

    Maybe search another job until you find a better way to have money. 

    I have no job atm. I've been searching and applying like a mad man for the past months, but nothing good is coming from it. They won't even hire me for a temporary job anymore.

    I'm also getting a lot of interviews, and the recruiters always tell me i'm well spoken, my resume is good, and that i come over as a motivated person, but in the end they either don't call me back, tell me there were other candidates who were a better fit, or tell me my personality doesn't fit the team. 


    7 hours ago, This is the end said:

    are you laughing because of wanting to evade responsibility or are you laughing because you see it will turn out fine whilst taking action? We need to know

    No. I'm laughing out of frustration. I'm basically doing everything i can to fix my situation and nothing seems to work out in the end. It doesn't make sense at all. 

  2. Hi,

    About 2 months ago i decided to stop whining and take total responsibility for my life. 

    I ended up creating a daily structured morning routine, containing: meditation (1h), waking up early (4am), reading (30min), 100-200 pushups, running outside (5km), cold shower,.. 

    Besides that i also included doing chores in and around the house ( cleaning, gardening,..)

    Everything was working out pretty well, until 2 weeks ago when i had to stop running and ended up injuring my left leg. This is where it all went down hill. I stopped running, started sleeping in late again, feeling lazy again. From there on my routine imploded like a house of cards, and now i can't even get myself to read for 30mins anymore.

    What do i do?

  3. Hi,

    About a week ago i started facing fears and stuff that make me uncomfortable head on to get out of my comfort zone more often. So far everything is going great, and i'm becoming proud of myself for doing the stuff i fear most.

    A lot of my fears are resolving around social activities, like eating alone in a restaurant or drinking a coffee alone in a bar. Talking to random strangers i don't know about random stuff etc ( i used to be a pussy and not do it ). Right now i'm doing all these things, but while i'm doing them i still feel pretty uncomfortable, and it doesn't get any easier the next time. It's like the fear subsides but comes right back at me. 

    Will this ever go away?

  4. 14 hours ago, Gili Trawangan said:

    Outside of your comfort zone is where you want to go.. IF you want things to change. I understand that it might seem overwhelming but it's absolutely worth it if you try. Good luck, with whatever you end up doing.


    13 hours ago, flowboy said:

    Outside your comfort zone is where it's at. The sooner you realise that, the better!

    No growth possible without doing scary things. Sorry, that's just the beauty of it!

    You'll want to get comfortable with a certain level of discomfort. Not stressing and burning out completely, but also not stagnating. Find the level of uncomfortable you can handle, and play around there until your comfort zone stretches.

    Can you go up to a girl you like and only say hi?

    If not, you can start with people you don't feel attracted to. Can you do that?

    Yea i know i need to get out of my comfort zone more often. Don't know when that will happen though... I'm already doing other stuff instead like getting on Tinder and thinking about going to a hooker instead..

    I'm such a pussy lol.

  5. 43 minutes ago, Gili Trawangan said:

    Daygame. You don't need friends, a job, bars or clubs to pick up girls. Just walk up to a pretty girl on the street and talk to her. Actually, talk to as many as you can.

    After you've approached a hundred girls I can give you some theoretical pointers if you want :)

    Yea that's a little bit outta my comfort zone. Right now i'm not outside that much. I go outside for groceries and job interviews, and beside that the only place i visit is the library ( haven't seen a lot of girls there yet).  

  6. 3 minutes ago, Gili Trawangan said:

    You've answered your own question. Go meet some girls and enjoy yourself.

    I don't know where to start. I have not been to any clubs or bars in ages and i'm not really interested in that anymore. I don't even have real friends anymore as i'm comfortable with myself. 

    Also as i said, i feel like my unemployment status is off putting, even for a fling or one night stand.

  7. Hello,

    I've been having struggles dealing with my urges for sex for a long time now, and i feel like it's holding back my personal growth.

    I have not been honest with myself for a while, and deep down i think i want to experiment with multiple partners and have some fun for a while, but i've been rationalizing it for ages. 

    I'm also not sure where to start with this, and i'm using my unemployment status as an excuse for not being date-able or pursuing a "fling", and this way i'm putting it off ( i think ).

    How should i go with this? How do i find out my real desires? 



  8. On 2-8-2019 at 1:31 AM, Bill W said:

    This is why you have a problem. Once a day is more than enough. Even once a day is pushing it. Gotta cut down on overdoing it. Do something else if it has started to become a distraction. Or it could be your hormones if you are young. 

    Once a day is too much. I can't even masturbate once a day. It fucks up my whole brain chemistry. I will feel down, depressed, unmotivated, lethargic and will have social anxiety for at least a week if i do so. I started masturbating to escape reality at a young age because of being bullied. It was my only coping mechanism. It's no joke for me.