Seed

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  1. I just wanted to thank everyone for their input a few months ago! As it happened, I got pregnant very quickly… just one try 😅 this little soul was definitely waiting in line…. We’re due a little boy in early June. It’s been quite a transitional but we’re all delighted, especially big sister to be!!!
  2. So, the title says it all.... I am in deep conflict about it. I am 34, almost 35 years old. Whilst I dont have a deep yearning for another child - I am aware of the ticking clock and feel that if I dont have one now, then I wont have one ever. Mentally if I am one and done, I need to know that so I can focus on what we have, our future, and the benefits of being a family of three. I also have a garage full of baby stuff that I need sort out / sell! ? A little about our family. We have a beautiful, funny, smart free spirited, kind, empathic but challenging 9 year old daughter. Challenging in terms of her being highly sensitive and emotional. She is multi layered, strong willed and passionate. Parenting her often feels like parenting 3 or 4 children! We feel complete and we love her to bits. Myself and my partner also run two businesses and I am in my final year of a pyschotherapy degree so will soon be setting up private practise. We don't have a ton of money but we could make the spaces and make cut backs in order to cater and provide for another. It would mean living more carefully, and not having the freedom we have been blessed with until now when it comes to travel and weekend trips / clubs / classes etc for our daughter. So, practically, it wouldnt be a breeze, the house is pretty compact but we could make it work... However, I am also worried about the age gap of 10 years + how this will effect my daughter going into her teens with a very young child around. Will another one completely mess up the dynamic and rthymn of our family? Will we have to split up on weekends and holidays, one parent taking one kid and the other taking the other one.... I also had a very traumatic birth with my daughter, I nearly lost her. This holds me back, I feel so lucky and blessed with what we have. Why roll the dice again? I am also almost 35, so I am not young anymore. I dont know if I have the patience, energy and enthusiam I had before about another one. And I want my next child to be as wanted and as celebrated as my first.... even before conception if that makes sense. But then there is a part of me that feels grief at the idea of not having another.... at selling all the stuff in the garage and my daughter growing up without any siblings. Is she deprived? Is it too late anyway as she is already 10 so a sibling would be more like a neice or a nephew... I also worry about her feeling like a second mummy as I want her to stay a kid. And feel like a kid. I am worried about birth defects, autism, disabilities... and how that will just completely turn her world upside down and also my partner and i have a great relationship and presevering that matters to us too. But if I dont - willl I regret? I am 35 - - in another tens years time - I will have an empty nest. At the moment this excites me but when the time comes will I be regret not extended my family? And not having a child to love and nurture in the same way anymore. I am very maternal but I also have passion to develop my career and travel. Basically, I know nobody can answer these questions but myself. But if anyone resonates, has similar experiences to share, of age gaps, or having one child quite young and then having their life ahead of them. Any thoughts or words of wisdom would be very appreciated. Thank you in advance !!!
  3. I think the public lynching pre trial or conviction is unfair. Also the fact he was pushing boundaries alongside the entire noughties culture at this point. It was the ‘norm’ and very much an era where this behavior was encouraged and enabled… by both men and women. He’s been well and truly scapegoated. I’m not saying he’s innocent but the way he’s being treated PRE conviction is despicable. He’s given a lot and touched many lives and ultimately believe he’s a good human but took a while to find his way. However he must pay the fair punishment for his crimes IF they were committed
  4. No the alleged assaults happened during his sex crazed, drug fueled era before he reformed himself. He writes in his book that he had years of therapy and self development before he would even allow himself to consider becoming a father.
  5. He has two little girls aged 5 and 6 and one due any day now.
  6. Yes, Laura Brand, his wife is so lovely and down to earth as well. He claims that she ‘tamed’ him…. (Not soon enough unfortunately) And she hates fame, excess and limelight… that’s why he stopped appearing on mainstream tv, because he met her and she couldn’t stand it she appears very ‘normal’ and has Insta page which is now deleted promoting creative and natural play activities for children.
  7. He’s got some cheek really hasn’t he. His last vid I reckon lost any Shred of empathy I pay have had for the public hanging. He’d have done better if he’d had shown some vulnerability and authenticity. Instead he’s hiding away behind the conspiracy shield. he really didn’t seem like any version of himself I’d ever seen. this is def a case of ‘don’t bite the hand tht feed you… ‘ but also, I’m pretty sure he’s guilty which is tragic I wonder what side his heavily pregnant wife is on…. What must be going through her right now, poor woman. And they have two other young kids. they are the innocent ones that sadly having their lives destroyed for his decade old errors / crimes as well ?
  8. off he goes for a rumble in the jungle…. Clearly just carrying on as usual then with his show as if none of this is happening.
  9. I wonder when we’re all going to finally get bored talking about this? Xx
  10. ????. This is the funniest gag I’ve ever heard from you.
  11. You’d think she’d have heard or that would have put him off though… but I don’t have the brain of a rapist so who knows.
  12. Just a thought. But the woman who claims she was raped against the wall said that a friend was round at the time, that he was suggesting they all had sex together which was when she said ‘no, I’m not doing that…’ and then he proceeded to rape her. surely this other person would have been a witness ? Unless he was lying that someone was round? just popped into my mind at random… perhaps there was no one there.
  13. @Leo Gura I personally think that they agreed to have sex, she realised he wasnt wearing a condom middway, asked him to stop but he continued until ejaculation, which obviously still counts as rape and explains the condom bit. Him saying 'that was crazy and selfish' and her saying 'do I need to get checked' sounds like a dispute over the lack of condom, but I also agree force and therfore rape was involved.
  14. There is a whole stream of texts where she is talking about him not wearing a condom and how 'no means no'... the doc didnt show the whole thread. The times article has more detail.
  15. I percieved it has him apologising for not wearing a condom (either due to him lying and saying he had put one on and for her to find out afterwards that he hadnt and storming off, or him taking it off halfway through) However, both of these are still classified as rape. It appears that celebrities are 'guilty until proven innocent'
  16. because they may consent and then the guy takes off the condom halfway through, forces them into a position they are uncomfortable with or finds that they feel sick and want to stop. So they are allowed to say ‘no more I want to stop cause of X Y Z, and then if the person continues then it’s rape
  17. And what if after sending the 'consent'' text, the man starts fucking the girl too hard, forces her into a postion she is not comfortable with or just just doesnt stop when / if she has had enough. IS there a consent form for the positions allowed, the duration of the sex, the type? You see - there is no 'easy' solution, Having sex with someone you dont know well or trust is risky for both parties. So just dont take any risks unless you trust them enough to not claim rape if you have not raped them.# To avoid being accused of rape, at any point, before or during the encounter - if the woman says 'no'. You stop. You get off. And you do NOT try and change her mind. It really is as 'simple' as that to not rape someone. The issues you are talking about are false accusations which will be highly minimised if you take consideration and thought into who you place your penis inside. The same applies if you dont want to get yourself or anyone else hurt - then you dont drink or drive... same applies to dont drink and fuck. Especially strangers. That is like driving some random car from a scrap heap and getting angry when and sad when it blows up on your face. ? Sex is risky as is driving. Take precautions… it’s really not rocket science. 1. Trust the person 2. Be sober enough to drive a car if you are going to shag, particularly in the early days 3. Be aware of how she’s feeling if she indicates she’s not interested or not enjoying it. You stop. This could be in the form of pushing you off, saying no, freezing up, crying. Use your brain and if it’s too complicated then just don’t have sexual encounters with anyone.
  18. This is what is being alleged by a few women. But how can we know if it’s true? Impossible.
  19. must just be for British viewers then. There was a 90 min documentary on it last night. It was horrible. I feel for the women but also a lot for him too as he clearly suffering from mental illness and sex / drug addiction and should not have been allowed to work in the tv industry when he was clearly so unhinged. I feel for his wife who is about to give birth and his two daughters as the media have portrayed him to be an absolute sex crazed monster in that investigation and why they’ve been allowed to display all that before even a trial has taken place, beats me. Very fucked up. don’t know why I feel so sad for him when if what those women are saying is true, then he’s raped them.
  20. https://www.channel4.com/programmes/russell-brand-in-plain-sight-dispatches