MsNobody

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  1. On 9/4/2020 at 10:22 AM, Nahm said:

    @Dbass

    The chasing of beautiful woman isn’t so much the problem. It’s the chasing of feeling better, from a position of need - believing long term deeper better feeling will come from the woman, which is the suffering. Hat’s off to you for inspecting and inquiring. 

    You are not bad with woman. That’s a self fulling prophecy. You’re holding that belief, and acting surprised when experience is in accordance with it. If that belief were true, it’d feel great. The suffering there is not in regard to a relationship between you and a woman, but rather between you & you / you & the source of you, we might say. 

    That sheds light on this. Trying to stop feeling is resistance / tension / frustration, and it is senseless & futile. Do not try to stop feeling. Feel more so into feeling. The anxiety is continuing to hold the same perspectives about yourself, which don’t resonate, don’t feel good. It can be tricky, as one of those perspectives which does not feel good or resonate, is the perspective that the feeling is due to, or caused by anything other than your own beliefs & perspectives. We are very sneaky creatures. Awareness of this cures this. Do not look to ‘beat’ this, as that is the sneakiness, and would most likely be an under the radar attempt to stop feeling. 

    This is just some guy’s opinion here, don’t give it any weight...but you’re apparently pretty attached to that belief. I suggest it is not true, and the difficulty lies in your recognition that it has never been true. If you sit quietly in a room alone, you very well might experience that your ‘problem’ is not in the room, can not be pointed to. Thus, there in actuality is not a problem. Again, the arising perspective is in discord with truth, with the heart of you, you might say. Letting it go, and understanding, would be the ideal approach...rather than continuing to believe it and continuing to attempt to resolve it by thinking about it more. Look to see the distinction, the difference, between letting go of a perspective, and entertaining new perspectives - vs - continuing to hold that belief and think through that same perspective. My perspective, is that you’re quite literally awesome. Infinitely mystically ineffably awesome. Wether this is true or not is of no concern for me. That it resounds in my being, that it feels great, is all that is relevant. We are creators of our reality, and it is made of love. Do not be a hard working vacuum that is not plugged in. Plug in first, and this reality is Self propelled. 

    Your english is great. 

    Notice in that last comment, this seems to be about woman, mom, dad, and childhood. In a way, it very much is. Yet from right now, it is second order to your health, well being, and happiness. Plug in, then clean this place up, if you get what I’m saying. Make this about no one but you, period. Read a book on each of the things you mentioned, choose to utilize resources (as you already are here) more so. Educate yourself on these matters. Understand yourself and what’s going on with you, and why you’re feeling the way you are, by learning from others who have experienced the same or similar...and also by feeling more and more ‘into’ yourself. I’m not sugar coating your past. It sucks. But the past is passed, and you’re here now, and you got a future, and it can be what you can dream. 

    Feeling is the bottom line, getting plugged in. For you, from the very little I’ve to work with from this post...you’re connected feeling to woman, mom, dad, and past...and it’s not really working. Look to connect feeling to your interests, to what you like & want - for you - for your enjoyment (other than the honey’s, give that a minute); hobbies, preferences, activities, your gifts & talents, really literally anything you like. Like = feels good to you. Good feeling is what you want. 

    The simplest, funnest, easiest, most efficient way I know of to do this is by making a dreamboard

     

    “This place is a dream, only a sleeper considers it real. Then death comes like dawn and you wake up laughing at what you thought was your grief......

    ...A man goes to sleep in the town where he has always lived, and he dreams he's living in another town. In the dream, he doesn't remember
    the town he's sleeping in his bed in. He believes the reality of the dream town...

    The world is that kind of sleep.”

    -Rumi

     

    The suffering has already arrived, that is not in question. This suffering is the calling of love. You must wake yourself up in it. You must see what it really is. 

    @Nahm Thank you for this Nahm ?

    @Preety_India love how you were able to show the women’s side too. ?


  2. @Leo Gura only a player recognizes other players, I have the same question: does the player ever settles down? 

    if I’m also playing we don’t get anywhere, should women not play?! You should help women too Leo with your relationship advices, you teach a lot to men here but not much to us ?

    the charming guys tend to be more confident, we love confidence haha it’s a trap, do we look for the quiet, non experienced one? To teach? ?
     

     


  3. I do microdosing with LSD every three days, the results are amazing, I love it! The doctor prescribed me SSRI and I decided to do microdosing instead. 
     

    I just cut the tab in many little pieces, you don’t need to be afraid because microdosing is not supposed to make you high at all, you just have an uplifted mood, things are more beautiful, it increases your awareness etc 

     

    https://thethirdwave.co/

    here is a good website that teaches you how to do it. 
     

    good luck :) 


  4. @Preety_India love that!
     

    I appreciate when the man takes his position as a gentleman, so I can be free to be in my feminine, planning and thinking is the mans job, our part is being and feeling. 
    Needless to say my treatment when the guy is a gentleman is way different, yes good sex but also the surrender that as women we can only experience when we have enough space to actually “be a woman” 

    yes I can split the bill, but after dinner there is no striptease dance or amazing sex, I was so exhausted counting all the coins that I was better off sleeping ? 

     

    reminds me of this poem from Anais Nin:

    I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.

     

     


  5. @Leo Gura shocked! Lol 

    I don’t pay but also don’t take advantage of the man looking for expensive stuff on the menu.. 

    Well you guys have a whole team of men who gather together to do “pick up” and we can’t even take advantage of our beauty?! It’s not our fault that most men are weak 

    I’m not paying the bill ? we play the game as well 

     


  6. @datamonster exactly. I’ve never paid bills on first dates, but I have friends who actually paid for both, them and the guy, but also Im pretty :ph34r:

    The first thing that comes up in our female mind is: how is this guy gonna be able to provide for the family? It’s an instinctive thing. 
    Men who won’t pay the bill for me are the same ones who will not know how to treat me well in bed, by well I mean bad ? sure some women like submissive men, but that’s not me..

    maybe I’m lost in the female manipulation game, would like to hear more opinions on the topic :) 


  7. I think this is a cultural thing, where do you live? 
    Im from Brazil and am used to the men paying for dinner, I’m pretty independent but I appreciate the guy paying, specially when it’s in the beginning of the relationship, after that I dont mind splitting. Little things like opening the door of the car, paying dinner, are things that are deal breakers for me here in US, I noticed that Californian men are very independent in a way, because of feminism they step away in their masculinity and lost sense where the middle ground is. 

    I remember the first guy a dated in US, I would be barely leaving the car and he would already be inside his place. It’s such a turn off for me, it’s chivalry IMO, i feel like in California men are more feminine, so I usually date guys from other states or middle easterners that have been living here for a while. I’m super open minded and of course have big part of me at stage orange, but I’m a also hippie green, I would like the men to hold his ground and do his thing, be more masculine, if I split in a first date I’ll think the guy is not invested.

    Maybe it has to do with men making more money in my country, but it’s what I’m used to, so you could take into account where you are, how is the culture etc. 


  8. @flowboy @Display_Name men at stage orange and below will show clear signs of toxic masculinity, the fact you don’t see anything wrong with Dan Bilzerian and Jordan Peterson just shows where you are at in the game. :ph34r:

    “People do not seem to realize that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.”

    @Leo Gura Yes behind all the muscles there is also a little insecure boy trying to hide their feminine side ? there is nothing that turns me off more than a guy trying to prove his masculinity 

    @Rilles ??? this is gold! 


  9. @iceprincess you can heal yourself through tantric sex. Check out the book The Heart of Tantra, psychedelics can also help you tremendously. I had the same problem and nowadays I’m very experienced and satisfied with my sexual life. 
     

    Like Leo said you build walls against men, unless you learn how to be vulnerable again and surrender in bed you won’t be able to have orgasms or connect deeper with your partner, the fact you were molested left a trauma in you and deep inside yourself you can’t see the sacredness of sex, it’s very healing if you can find a partner open to it, but even if your partner isn’t into it, just learning it yourself will do wonders. Many men I’ve slept with said they’ve never experienced this kind of sex. Osho also has a book called Sex Matters, it’s a whole new view on sex, where sex is used to transcend the body and reach superconsciousness, Osho is one of the few spiritual teachers that actually talks about sex, all the others are repressing or denying it. 

     

    good luck :) 


  10. Exercise and maca powder. Careful with maca because it also makes you more fertile.

    Also if you are on birth control that could be the cause, when you take birth control you don’t ovulate and the body thinks that since you are not ovulating there is no reason to keep libido high or renewing energies and you may be stuck, exercise is also something that awakens the sexual energy. 
     

    You could also look up Tantra if you would like to understand more about the subject, this book is truly amazing  

    https://g.co/kgs/nJ73kX