Elisabeth

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    2 hours ago, Javfly33 said:

    I quit caffeine (over 3 months) and I feel I haven´t yet recover from it

    That is quite possible. I've once seen a brain scan, they showed the dopamine circuits of someone who quit caffein compared to a normal brain. The timescale for recovery was definitely months to a year. 

    Maybe research supplements? Eating more omega 3's seems to help me somewhat. (Check your sleep. Check your motivation. Check your other stresses in life...)

  5. Posted · Edited by Elisabeth

    @Shaul How do you feel about the technical part of science support, i.e. taking care of lab equipment helping build prototypes of machines? Is that still a thing? Or the experimental part of science, where you at least get to prepare samples and perform measurements.

    I imagine that would still be too much of an indoor job and there's no doubt a lot of computer use too, but at the end someone has to put the machine together. 

    Or perhaps construction in general? Yeah I know "actualized.org" people usually have higher intellectual ambitions.

  7. Posted

    On 12. 8. 2020 at 10:32 PM, blankisomeone said:

     

    So who should I believe? lol fuck off guys haha, y'all confuse me :P

    My first reaction is to call BS on both of you...

    That is the sane thing to do. 

    There's no reason why you should worry about the content of someone else's spiritual insights.

    Your fear stems from turning Leo's work into belief. 

    You may have that insight yourself when you're ready. Until then, do your best to live your human life well. 

  8. Posted

    I try to give advice based on the experience I have. Sometimes I preach from an "I wish I had done this better" place, but mostly I talk about what did help, from my experience with emotions and relationships. 

    Do I live all the personal development theory that I've learned? NO WAY. 

    But if I'm giving advice on stuff that I haven't been able to follow, I try to mention that. 

     

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    2 hours ago, Elshaddai said:

    So rephrasing my original question: Should I postpone learning a degree that i'm passionate about for a diploma that will almost certainly land me at the very least with a typical 9-5 career?

    Why don't you spend some more time on the straightforward "how do I want to earn money" question? When you know that, you know what skills you need. Maybe you want your own business or freelancer's path, but business management skills are still great for that. Maybe you want to write textbooks and could use a philosophy/teaching degree. It's less likely to succeed, but maybe you're ok with teaching as plan B. Maybe you don't mind a 9-5 job if it pays. 

    Nobody can tell you what to study without knowing what you want to achieve.  

  10. Posted

     

    I'll leave is up to the reader to take sides on this kind of dispute :D

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    I think telepathy exists, and I think quantum physics will help us understand its basic properties.

    - Brian Josephson, nobel prize in physisics 1973 

     

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    Winning the Nobel Prize in 1973 gave him the freedom to work in less orthodox areas, and he became increasingly involved – including during science conferences, to the irritation of fellow scientists – in talking about meditation, telepathy and higher states of consciousness.[36] In 1974 he angered scientists during a colloquium of molecular and cellular biologists in Versailles by inviting them to read the Bhagavad Gita (5th – 2nd century BCE) and the work of Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, the founder of the TM movement, and by arguing about special states of consciousness achieved through meditation. "Nothing forces us," one scientist shouted at him, "to listen to your wild speculations." Biophysicist Henri Atlan wrote that the session ended in uproar.[37]
    -wikipedia, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Josephson

     

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    I was feeling like I can't reset my sleep schedule to an earlier hour because I just wouldn't fall asleep. All it took was starting to get ready for sleep an hour before my chosen time and just getting to bed at chosen time for 3 consecutive days. The first night, I didn't fall asleep right away, got up after an hour to spend another hour or two online. But then, my sleep schedule shifted. I relapsed after a month, but now I've got the experience that it's not so hard to shift. 

  14. Posted · Edited by Elisabeth

    @Chumbimba

    1) Think about whether you really want both at the same time. 

    2) Find a Buddhist monastery where you can learn meditation cheaply. Talk to the teachers. Continue pursuing your degree, and spend your summer breaks taking long meditation retreats.

    3) Once you have a degree, take a gap year (or so) between school and work to immerse yourself in meditation totally. 

    4) When you feel ready (or your teacher sais so), get back into the real word, start your software-related career if you still wish so and run meditation courses for African-American people in the evening. 

    Or

    Fuck software engineering and financial security. Switch to a degree that's directly related to helping people, such as being a teacher, psychologist or social worker, take trainings and seminars in dealing with mental health issues and helping people, including a training on mindfullness-based stress reduction or a similar program. Have meditation as just one of the tools in your wide professional toolbox!

    Which one sounds more appealing? Any mix of those?

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    2 hours ago, Seed said:

    @Leo Gura I think the root of my anxiety is related to repressed childhood trauma. Because the more I try to release it, the worse it gets and there is no getting through. I’ve tried a lot of things.... It started when I started psychotherapy 18 months ago. The closest I’ve got to releasing was when I did transformational breathwork and I just lay there shaking and trembling but without a conscious recollection of anything. And since then, it’s like my protective mechanisms have adapted to that type of therapy so now it doesn’t  work. 

    Ah, I see you do know what I'm talking about. 

    Be kind to yourself. You may have gone a little to fast/too far, if your psyche now protects itself from what has worked. Find a very safe setting for approaching your trauma. I don't know if that's a love-focused meditation technique, a breathwork/bodywork seminar, a trip on a low psychedelic dose with a sitter, your psychotherapy, something else... or if taking a break first is what you need. 

    3 minutes ago, Seed said:

    Thanks Elisabeth. You mean Leo’s approach of contemplation or psychedelics ?

    It’s a very, very deep visceral feeling deep in my gut that doesn’t affect my digestion. It feels like a knife cutting through to the core of my being.  

    I've been working with a similarly sharp emotional pain in my chest. It's a journey. 

  17. Posted

    6 hours ago, Seed said:

    @Leo Gura I’ve had psychedelics in the past but since all this ‘work’...  I don’t feel mentally stable enough to have them now. And therein lies the irony.... ? 

    I suppose I just want to be less in my head and more in the moment. I seem to have developed this horrible gut wrenching anxiety, however this is not related to anything I am consciously thinking about. I couldn’t sleep last night cause of it. I’ve tried meditation and all sorts, it remains throughout the meditation. 

    I want to live a better a quality of life than what I currently am.... more energy, more vitality, more confidence. Not ‘happy’ but just more resilient I guess. Like I used to be. 
     

    Thanks for the suggestions. 

    two suggestions come up in my mind: 

    1) Absolutely do supplement Leo's approach with some kind of body/movement focused practice. Leo doesn't stress that, but it's critical for anxious people to use body-centred approaches, perhaps free spontaneous movement, for grounding, body awareness and emotional release. 

    2) You've twice described your anxiety as gut-wrenching. How's your digestion?

  18. Posted · Edited by Elisabeth

    Just had that emotional experience. Someone loves me although I've been snappy, unproductive the whole day, feeling bad -- basically I've done nothing to earn any love, and it's not whatever pleasure I bring them. 

    A flash of insight came for a second, that this is what opens the door for true authentic motivation. Has anyone had that experience? 

  19. Posted

    On 25. 7. 2020 at 5:58 PM, Elshaddai said:

    I've been thinking alot about what to study in college and honestly I'm not sure what.

    I mostly gravitate to the humanities and thought about studying anthropology,philosophy and history, but there is little in the way of high paying jobs in those fields unless I want to and work in academia, which I don't know if I even want.

    So should I first pursue something more practical like bussniess management or practical engineering??(it's an Israeli thing, basically 2 year courses that almost certainly land you with a profession).

    Any advice?

     

    I do think you might want to/ need to do both. The actualized.org popular thought is that you want to create a job just for yourself from your passion - but that's quite rare, and just won't happen with anthropology, philosophy and history without additional skills. Be it marketing, or journalism, or ... don't know what... you'll need something to couple with these abstract subjects. 

  21. Posted · Edited by Elisabeth

    @Leo Gura  I've seen more of the original video, and I understand why you would want to communicate about different standards of behaviour. In most of the interactions the guy is on top of it and turning the tables, they seem quite consensual. 

    12 minutes ago, commie said:

    It would be easier to understand if you addressed what you said and not what you wish you had said.

    With that, I agree.

    Also, the longer I'm in a relationship, and interacting with guys in general, the more seriously I take male consent. The woman absolutely can be forceful about sexual interactions. Abuse and domestic violence targetting men are a thing. 

  22. Posted

    15 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    Most men get raped by other men.

    I was not minimizing male on male rape. I was minimizing females raping males. Which is such a silly and rare thing that it isn't worth talking about in the context of males raping females.

    I'm not saying it cannot ever happen. I'm saying it's absurd to act as though men face anywhere near the same threat from females as females face from males. This is a difference by a factor of at least 100x if not 1000x.

    So spare me your SJW woke scolding and outrage.

    The average male faces zero threat ever of getting physically restrained and raped by a female.

    I have never in my life worried that a woman would rape me. Like zero chance of that. I worry more about getting hit by lightning. Yet if I was a woman I would have those worries frequently throughout my life. Which is why women hitting on men is not such a big deal.

    Fair enough as far as "getting overpowered in a park or club" goes.

    Do we have to discuss that most rape happens with people you know (or even are in a relationship with) and is often set up by psychological rather than physical violence? 

  24. Posted

    @Leo Gura A friend of mine took a deep dive into the history of neo-liberalism. He now thinks most of libertarianism is just a huge smokescreen created to gain popular support for neo-liberal economic policies which actually serve corporations and the rich, Milton Friendman being a typical example of neo-liberal propaganda disguised as libertarian belief. I wonder whether you think that's possible.