Spence94

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  1. I bought the Lifes purpose course years ago. I wasn't ready for it, I needed to go out and live and experience life to find my calling. Now I basically know my calling, it's pretty obvious, so are my values. I'm still resistant to go back to the course and try to take it very seriously.

    Can anyone share their experience with the course? Did it have a profound impact on you in the short and long run even if it was clear what your purpose was already? Did those concepts and books have a a profound impact? How impactful were the exercises? Is it something you did in one go or have you been returning to it over time to more deeply integrate?

    I feel like it could be of value but also feel like I'm wasting time investing lots of hours into the course when I could just be building the skills I already know I need to be building...

    Maybe in the long game it will be worth the time investment...


  2. On 26/01/2022 at 11:18 AM, aurum said:

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    What I care about more is emotional maturity, aligned goals / lifestyle, personal chemistry and her willingness to grow. Which could mean she is into spiritual topics, but not necessarily.

    I second this but in order for the relationship to be long term potential, personally I need the girl to have some level of spiritual awareness and inclination. At this point, I wouldn't settle down with a girl who didn't meditate or do yoga or do taichi, that comes down to aligned lifestyles and wavelengths, but I would be open to guiding her into it, if she was curious, like others have said. Curiosity is a dealbreaker.


  3. @Yoremo The paradox of passion is that in order to do what you are passionate about you have to take action to master a skill you're not passionate about. By developing proficiency in the skill and seeing the results of that proficiency benefit other people, you will develop passion for that work. In short, passion is created not found. Don't wait for it. 

    This perspective comes from the book 'Be so good they can't ignore you.'

    He says, don't wait for your calling, focus on building skills so you can do work that is passionate. Passionate work is a valuable thing and contrary to popular belief is something you have to earn, not just stumble upon.

    He suggests to follow the things you're interested in and have inclination towards but don't get hung up on wether or not you're passionate about the things or not because you will never get anywhere that way. Passion comes once you build the skill in the area and serve others with it. Take action first, then passion will come. Not the other way around.


  4. To help with the relative level: Breath concentration meditation and also Body awareness scanning meditation.

    To help with the absolute level: I AM meditation and also Buddhist center meditation.

    Of course, they are one in the same, but it is useful to understand how they can be of benefit. The absolute level certainly serves the relative and the relative level informs the absolute.

    I have a desire to improve my connections with other people as well as my focus, the relative level helps target this more directly. Of course the absolute level does too, so both are needed.

    "He challenged the Buddha's worldview. The Buddha, being the Buddha, remained calm." -A buddhist


  5. 8 hours ago, Hardkill said:

    So, then why is Xi Jinping wanting Putin to making peaceful negotiations instead of going to war with Ukraine?

    @Hardkill They want to maintain a position of neutrality in order to benefit their economic interests in the short and long term. China wants the world to buy into the idea that a prosperous China will mean a prosperous world. They do this by actually putting money on the table instead of talking about it. By advocating for the war in the Ukraine, China will isolate the world from itself just like Russia. They do not want that at all, they want to control and gain from the global economy not isolate itself from it.


  6. 9 hours ago, NoSelfSelf said:

    watch yourself when you are trying to pick words that would appeal to other rather express whats really going on inside you in calibrated way ..meaning reading social situation...

    Important point. I thought about this yesterday. If you try to do pick up and choose your words to appeal, you will attract women but you won't attract women who are attracted to the authentic you. OR you can drop that, just express yourself authentically in the moment with honesty without trying to 'pick her up'  and you will probably not attract the women who liked the other version of you but you WILL attract women who connect with your authenticity. 

    Wether you are inauthentic or authentic in your communication, most women won't be interested anyways. Unless you're Leo DiCaprio you ain't gunna be getting a 100% record. So it is better to just focus on authenticity and being well socially calibrated without 'doing pick up', then that way the women you attract will be the ones who are attracted to the authentic you. You'll feel better about it too and enjoy those women and relationships a lot more. 

    also yeah, I agree, it doesn't have to be cold approach. You can do social circles and business circles game by adopting this socially calibrated authenticity. Focus on attraction and leadership over persuing and chasing.


  7. @Scholar Thanks for the response. Yeah a lot of westerners enjoy living in Taiwan a lot more. I live the far West of China, Sichuan, it's still pretty authentic here with a lot of rich history and culture and even spirituality. It's definitely a lot more 'Chinese' than the rest of China. lol.

    10 hours ago, Scholar said:

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    What you currently observe in China is very heavily Stage Red and Blue on the spiral, so you have a unique opportunity to understand these stages of development.

    A large chunk modern Chinese society is stage orange too. At least it's becoming more and more orange.

    Green and yellow and turquoise feels non existent in my experience, apart from the odd enlightened taichi/kungfu master and Buddhist monk floating about. I've been fortunate to meet one or two of them in my time here. 

    But thanks for the POV. I guess I do have a unique first hand experience of these red and blue stages. 


  8. @PurpleTree

    10 hours ago, PurpleTree said:

    "In 2019, Sterzel moved to Los Angeles because he felt that he would lose his life or be incarcerated in China following threats by ultranationalist Internet users and the government, who accused Sterzel's wife of being a spy and a threat to national security.[18]"

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Winston_Sterzel

     

     

    Wow. Yeah I think a similar thing happened to C-Milk and ADV China and their Chinese wives. They used to drive around China on motorbikes with helmet cams and make Vlogs. I don't think they got deported but were threatened with deportation and had threats made to them by nationalists so they left. Their videos used to get hundreds of thousands of views. 


  9. What did I learn today?

    Saturdays I need to decompress, chill, meditate and go outside in order to avoid burnout and so I can take lots of action the other 6 days. 

    There is something very powerful and profound about tidying and cleaning. It has an amazing effect on the mind. 

    My karma yoga is very simple and obvious. 

    Yoga teachers are often viewed as somehow different from normal humans. The human being  gets separated from the concept of the 'yoga teacher'. 

    I need to sleep more. 

     


  10. @LSD-Rumi As long as you don't talk shit about the Chinese government or criticize the people and culture you're allowed to share your perspectives and opinions here.

    Two popular vloggers that did get deported a couple of years ago were starting to openly criticize government decisions, mock Xi and just rant about how much they disliked the changes happening in the society. They were Vlogging here for about a decade before they eventually got kicked out because they started moaning about everything.

    Daily life in China for the majority of people  is actually a lot more 'open' and 'free' than people outisde of China realize. You just can't question or criticize the government.


  11. 1 hour ago, tsuki said:

    What you are doing is playing with language and spinning the wheels of your thinking mind.

    What you are looking for is non-symbolic "knowing" that starts with thinking, but goes beyond it into actual life-transforming insight. It is more similar to "remembering something you've long forgotten" than "figuring something new out".

    The closure you are looking for is the  peace that comes from grounding in your body, in your belly center. It will come along as you mature in your seeking and let go of fear.

    This.