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  1. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    1 hour ago, NewKidOnTheBlock said:

    That's really interesting, never thought of it like that. Even if it improves more of cognitive empathy than actually being emotionally engaged in it, that's still a benefit that could be potentially worthy of pursuing. Might start reading fiction again

    Glad you find this helpful. A good book can certainly be emotionally engaging. The length of books also means readers spend more time with certain themes, ideas and characters that make it even more impactful thanks shorter mediums.

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    2 hours ago, Schahin said:

    Actually while Christianity and the New Testament and especially the OT encourage slavery, Islam is the first religion that abandons it.

    Slavery was a very common barbaric practice and the Quran clearly abolished it and says its an entry to heaven to free your slaves. Being a military leader and killing people was not because Mohammed was a bloodthirst person, but because the first Muslims got heavily and barbarically persecuted by the pagans who worshipped statues as God and refused the concept of God as the eternal, and infinite oneness of existence.

    They saw the practices of their forefathers in danger which brought them heavy financial benefits through selling Idolatry like statues and pictures. 

    It was a time where people were utmost barbarics, killed each other for tribal dominance, blinded each other  taking their eyes out and enslaved their enemies.

    Mohammed had no other option than to lead wars not because of fun but because of desperate persecution. You can not deal with those types of people by cuddling them. It would be better to study Islam and its historic context rather than cherrypicking certain verses without knowing their context

    Muslim countries abolished slavery much more recently than Christian countries. 

    Early Christians were also prosecuted and lived in barbaric times. Mohamed could have practiced non-resistance like Jesus and Ghandi and just accepted death/martyrdom like what Jesus did. 

     

  3. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    Sam Harris, says the same thing because while Jesus taught peace, Mohamed was a military leader and a statesmen,  who took slaves, multiple wives (some were children) beheaded people, etc. So Muslims countries have better justifications for merging church and state and to spread their religion. Judaism for example makes it very hard to join and that's why there is relatively so few Jews in the world. 

    I thought this was an interesting distinction between these major religions of the world that might indeed help explain some of the actions of the followers. 

  4. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    On 12/05/2026 at 0:15 PM, Lila9 said:

    I unfortunately no longer expect an intelligent, respectful, and grounded conversation here, especially on matters that are not directly related to men’s romantic issues.

    Not only are people here very reactive and have a short attention span, but many of them also see the world through their unfulfilled desires and a resentful view of women, which distorts any grounded thinking and truth.

    I bet no one has read the article and no one is going to read it.

    You are free to leave anytime. It's not like your comments are that great either. If all you find on this forum is argument than perhaps you are the common denominator and your communication style needs work. 

    Pro tip: calling everyone the forum unintelligent, reactive, ungrounded, and distorted is an example of what not to do if you are looking for productive and thought provoking conversation. 

    The irony is that you exhibit many of the criticisms you mentioned above as you seem to also have a "resentful view of men, which distorts any grounded thinking and truth." 

  5. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    4 hours ago, SageMind said:

    IHowever, I believe I have built a psychological barrier that makes it difficult to empathize deeply with people I care about, as it becomes hard for me to feel interested in their lives.

    Yes it's good you are ignoring the alcoholic partiers but I have a similar problem with people I care about. What can help is reading fiction. This is backed by science as studies show that reading fiction improves empathy. By reading fiction you are spending hours seeing the world through another person's point of view. Whether that's the author or the characters in the book. 

    Reading books on people skills is great too. I found The advice trap, Dare to Lead, Talk so kids Will Listen and listen so kids will talk were great. 

     

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    18 hours ago, Rafael Thundercat said:

    Non of the commenters gave a read in the full article. Is clear by the level of comments. Not reflection at all into de nuances and subtlety of the topic.

    Men have been told their whole lives they suck. We don't want more. 

    Women in the West already have it better than the men; they live longer, they are happier, they have more friends, they watch more TV and read more, they have greater purchasing power, they are more educated, and as a group have enormous voting power. What else do you want? 

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    3 hours ago, Lyubov said:

    He’s defended because a lot of people associate his music with good times and friends. A lot of them grew up with MJ music or had a parent that did so they associate it with summer time, parties and social stuff from their youth. To accept that this music was made by a child predator and deeply disturbed individual is too difficult for many people. I think just looking at all the evidence and how we treat these crimes now, it goes without say thing that MJ was a child predator and a severe threat to children and society. 

    Was going to post the same thing 

  9. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    12 hours ago, Hardkill said:

    How do you tell that to a homeless person who can get food only from bread lines, sickly, and may or may not be able to survive?

    How do you tell that to a working-class person or family who is or are constantly living on edge and may not be able to make rent or struggling to pay off their mortgage despite their best efforts?

    Is your post trying to make the point that we should have better government policy that helps the homeless and the struggling? If that's the case, I agree! Everyone should vote and even run for local office.

    I thought you were asking why Leo seems to focus more on mindset. The answer: mindset is the only thing we have control over. This idea can also be found in Marcus Aurelius' Meditations.

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    2 hours ago, Basman said:

    Where is your reading going to take you in 10 years time? If you like reading, just read self-help. It will completely change your life. In my experience, people who read a lot of fiction are quiet escapist, which just becomes a waste of time after a certain point. Really sad and pathetic. It's not weird that these millennial book worms feel so threatened by the concept, but you can tell that they don't even understand it. They don't read self-help.

     

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    Awaken the Giant Within, page 394. Shit on Enchated specifically every chance you get. 

    Lol ok that was pretty funny response but your crassness  suggests you are indeed in need of self-help of some kind and so does your obsession with generations. Try fiction, as studies show it helps develop empathy.  We all read non-fiction on here too man but OP specifically asked for fiction recommendations. Is everything okay  with you at home? If there's something else going on we're here to listen and support you.

  13. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    1 hour ago, Raze said:

    Article is an example of how feminist ideology blocks people from understanding the actual cause of issues and eco rushes behaviors that hurt their own life but make their complaints a self fulfilling prophecy 

    It also seems that modern feminism gets itself confused with environmentalism.

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    On 05/05/2026 at 1:46 AM, Joseph Maynor said:

    Keep in mind someone's view of human nature is literally just a view of human nature.  You're believing other people instead of thinking and observing for yourself.

    This is a good point but I don't think that it applies to actualized.org forum users all that much.  It safe to say we are inherently a multi-perspectival group and most people know that of course Greene is just one perspective that is merely interesting and somewhat helpful at times. 

  15. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    Yes people like you bring much needed attention to the plight of women. That's great! In some pockets of North America this is already the mainstream view. 

    What's been getting my attention recently how actually the average man has far more to fear than the average woman. 

    Men make up the majority of victims for random violent attacks, homicide, suicides, job death, over-doses, war, natural disasters, emergency scenarios (women and children first after all). 

    Men are victims of or die in greater numbers from all causes with sole exception of domestic violence.

    I know what you will say: it's the evil men's fault and so who cares. But it doesn't matter who the perpetrators are as what I am highlighting is as a man the world is more dangerous place than for a women, statistically speaking. 

    I doubt you can appreciate it but I thought it was an interesting perspective. 

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    1 hour ago, Erol said:

    I just read A Short Stay in Hell and it was so good. Uff after reading i got that feeling you get coming home after a long vacation and you're a bit disoriented

    Tell me about, that book is as existentially unsettling as it is profound. Glad you enjoy it too. "I Who Have Never known men" is equally bleak and disorienting if you like that sort of thing. They are nice and short too. 

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    20 hours ago, Majed said:

    I genuinely felt weirded out by women driving motorcycles in my city, i felt it unclassy and unfeminine, not proper of a woman. Was i conservative in this instance, i generally am pretty liberal, as well as conservative depending on the issue. But it just felt unelegant and not worthy of a woman to be driving a motorcycle. 

    This shows how the human mind works and yours specifically:

    1 You think the distinction between men and women is important (almost everyone does)

    2 you think gender roles are important and shouldnt overlap in some areas, like motorcycle riding

    3 when you see a gender breaking their role it's ok to feel "weirded out"

    Question these assumptions. There's more you can think up probably. 

  18. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    6 hours ago, integration journey said:

    People who smoke already know that. 
    it’s the stress of life that gets people to cope with smoking despite knowing the negativity of it. 

    Yes, it's a form of self harm (that feels good admittedly) like cutting or over eating or alcoholism. The irony is that, like overeating, it actually contributes to being more stress overall and is counterproductive to and compounds stress. These habits make you poorer, less healthy, and less able to tolerate stress in the future. It's a negative feedback loop. 

     

  20. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    8 hours ago, Basman said:

    Definitely worse. Why waste your time on that shit? But you do you brah.

    So you don't like art - in the form of literature? Or intellectualism? 

    Also where does Tony Robbins recommend to shit on other people's interests? 

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    So true. Not to mention that its popularity, even to this day, can be traced back to heavy corporate marketing strategies of the early 1900's. How big of a sucker do you have to be to smoke cigarettes? 

    On the other hand being sedentary is also pretty bad for us but many people do it. It reduces life expectancy and brain function just like cigarettes. This article is titled "Why sitting is the new smoking"  https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/the-dangers-of-sitting

    Interesting post it's always valuable to contemplate health. 

     

  22. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    1 hour ago, integral said:

    I was taken to church growing up, forced to do communion and confirmation. And Bible education.

    Was torture because it was extremely boring, and everything they said just sounded ridiculous to me.

    I deeply questioned everything that was happening from day one and thought the whole thing was wrong and deception, I told the teacher when I was 6 that she's just repeating whatever she was told. This of course got me into huge trouble and it was a huge problem with the teacher lol. This was between the ages of 4-10.

    So I think resistance to Conformity in my case was genetic. 

    Interesting because I had almost the exact same experience growing up. 

    My parents are Catholic Bible thumpers and they taught me to mistrust the "evil materialist, consumerist, mainstream culture" at every turn - from fast food, to fast fashion, to profane music videos, latest videos games/books/movies, and clever marketing tactics. 

    It was this same skeptical attitude that I instinctively applied to Church itself at a young age.  It was so obvious to me that it was a patriarchical, brainwashing, intellectually dishonest belief system that doesn't hold up to even the slightest scrutiny. I was confused (and still am) why adults believe this nonsense. 

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    1 hour ago, Monster Energy said:

    Starting to see that lust isn’t really about the other person.

    It feels like they have something, beauty, energy, aliveness, but the actual experience is happening within me.

    So what I’m really chasing isn’t the form, but a state of consciousness that gets triggered through the form.

    This explains obsession

    you think the source is “out there,” so you keep chasing it.

    But if you look directly, the feeling is self-generated.

    At the same time, it’s not like the other person is irrelevant. The form still matters as a trigger.

    So it’s like

    the experience is internal

    the trigger is external

    Still trying to see clearly where projection ends and actual connection begins.

     

    Insightful thanks for sharing 

  24. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    On 02/05/2026 at 4:57 AM, Natasha Tori Maru said:

    I'll be reading this - I enjoy Robert Greene's work.

    I've read The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction & The Laws of Human Nature.

    If you liked Robert Greene check out Oz Perlman's "Read Your Mind". Ignore the bad reviews, there is a subtle genius to Oz Perlman. Also check out some of his interviews where he does some mentalism. 

  25. Posted · Edited by enchanted

    3 hours ago, Basman said:

    50 Shades of Grey taught mfs the ideal cucumber size.

     

    4 hours ago, Basman said:

    I think you can learn somethings from reading books, but it mostly just boils down to different perspectives. The same is true of movies and video games. A single chapter of Awakening the Giant Within will teach you more than a bunch of fiction books combined. It's cope to act like they are at all equal.

    The millennial stare you get when you don't read Harry Potter and Morning Milking Farm. His books probably treat him better than his student loans.

     

    Cringe