herghly

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    8 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    Don't chase her. Step back and let her contact you. If she likes you she will reach out. If not, chasing her will only make her like you less.

    ended up calling her, she was with friends, then texted me saying she knows she's been distant, she's been feeling a little weird since the last meet and she will think about the proposal. 

    I suggested we meet for a coffee. I don't think the call was terrible because i think there's still attraction. But I won't make a further move.

    The question I'm wrestling with is how to know when to stop chasing or chase? If a girl didn't sleep with me and she wasn't into me i wouldn't chase, but if we had sex and in person she's obviously into me, then it feels different

    7 hours ago, mmKay said:

    @herghly in those situations social media helps. Girls love to be nosy and if you post stories of you having fun and enjoying your life in spite lf her ghosting you, your chances of her reaching out to you skyrocket.

    Thats a trick i guess

    Not a bad idea.


  2. I had two incredible dates with this girl. We got along well and there was defenitly attraction. On the second she was the one asking me asking such as

    "Are you dating others"

    "what type of girls do you like as gf"

    We had sex on the second date, the next day she went out with her closest girl friends and since then the tone has changed and she's been basically ghosting me. 

    I'd usually never message a girl again who's ghosting me, but here it's a bit different, we had sex and she was clearly interested in me. 

    I'm considering calling her phone and just asking how she is and pushing for a coffee meet. 

    She hasn't replied in a few days now. At this point I'd always just stop, but i don't think it's because she isn't interested. She also just got out of a semi abuse relationship 4 months ago, so maybe she's being defensive. I dunno. 

     

    Most of the advice i read online is always what to do if girls ghost you after a first date or two when you didn't have sex. But we had sex and she was super into me, so that's why I'm thinking it's okay to call and be direct. 

     

    Any PUA's got advice, haha? 


  3. 12 hours ago, Breakingthewall said:

    seen from the outside it seems that you are addicted to psychedelics to a level that you cannot go even a week without consuming them. How about a retreat of a couple of months to find the point again?

    Because seen from the outside, more than doing a work, what it seems is that you are looking for happiness by consuming substances

    Not everyone thinks this.