Gianna

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  1. Posted

    2 hours ago, VioletFlame said:

    Lack of intimacy. And I'm not referring to sexual intimacy here but the type of intimacy which looks like sharing, hearing, listening, and seeing another person and truly connecting with other human beings. She may have felt ignored or neglected for some time. Like anyone else, she wants to be seen and heard. She's seeking attention as a cry for help due to lack of true connection with others. 

    It also sounds like she is having a hard time loving and accepting herself as she is. She must practice self-love to the point where she will no longer need external validation or outside approval and strive to build trustworthy, worthwhile connections which will help to build her and support her personal growth. 

    beautifullll fking response. Pure gold<3 

    I also agree with @Charlotte , validate her feelings. It's okay to want those things. Don't make her wrong for wanting those things (she's already doing that to herself). Make it okay. Give her the missing experience. She deserves those things. The longing she has isn't coming from nowhere.  It's coming from somewhere (pain; the lack of it). Love heals pain. This is something she can't even give to herself so she is stuck and she literally needs you. Give her what she needs. Satiate her. And help her out of the war she has with herself. 

  4. Posted

    Daniel, my Dear, 
    I honor you on this day.
    Your birthday. 

    In so doing may I write this poem for you:

    Eons ago,
    in the moment of Now,
    you emerged into your Glory–
    a Star is Born! 

    Curated to the Star that you are, 
    you shine so brightly,
    Brilliance (your middle name),
    and in that form,
    you greeted us all.

    As only an angel can do.

    Today you walk upon this Earth.
    Still, you shine.
    And brighten our day. 
    Embracing all who come your way. 

    Eternal love with my soul brother. 

  9. Posted

    5 hours ago, VeganAwake said:

    It's more than just a belief though....it's an actual experience stemming from a physical/mental misunderstanding or assumption.

    Jim Newman describes it as a psychosomatic misunderstanding.

    ❤ 

    Oh of course! Identification is much more than a belief, although it might come from one. I like the description of psychosomatic misunderstanding. Which elicits, as you say, a whole actual experience. ?

  12. Posted

    22 hours ago, Eph75 said:

    Stretch that to include also direct experience, as direct experience is an interpretation happening based on current values and beliefs, and is limited by your current cognitive level of complexity, attaching meaning to what you experience. 

    Hmm, this is very profound. So, could you say then that a belief is an interpretation of direct experience? But could never be the case/True because an interpretation is never actually the unspoken thing happening in direct experience but a symbolic representation of it? Lol! I realize I’m over-complicating but I feel that’s how to make sense of what’s actually happening with 'belief'. 

    22 hours ago, Eph75 said:

    Unknowing is the understanding that there is naught but beliefs, other than the experience of experiencing, "I amness". 

     

    Okay, yes. So that speaks to the inevitable falsity of any belief. Because nature is unknown, if you think you know something, you're automatically distancing yourself from Truth. 

    22 hours ago, Eph75 said:

    Even conceptualizing what that is, is just that, conceptualization and belief. 

     

    Hm... everything is itself. hehehe. 

    22 hours ago, Eph75 said:

    Unknowing greatly accelerates our development as it makes us recognize that belief is just a vantage point that "is not us", and more easily allows us to let go of that which  we hold on to that is anchoring, and holding us back.

    Even without going to extremes, this is extremely valuable as it brings openness and curiosity, with healthy sceptisism that is "less" biased/ideological. 

    The ego has suchhhhh a hard time with this– at least mine does. It's almost painful. How can we help the mind cope with this? Is coping even the answer or just to allow the meaning-making to happen. My mind hurts so bad trying to know what cannot be known even though I know you can't know it. 

    22 hours ago, Eph75 said:

    Perspectives (products of beliefs) are no longer ours to hold on to but means to some desired outcome and can be replaced as soon as we allow ourselves to find beliefs that better serve those outcomes.

    In that sense beliefs are tools, and should be used as only that, tools. 

    I like this. Loving and guiding your tool instead of having the tool guide you. I feel like we fall into the trap of being guided by beliefs when we identify with them.

  15. Posted · Edited by Gianna

    Okay this is weird but I think my mom psychic attacks me when I make her upset, lol!! It’s something I noticed before and it happened again this week after an arguement. It’s an experience I can’t really describe and don’t even know much about but it’s the only explanation I could come to after reflecting on the experience— just soooooo mentally painful, oh my god. But when it happened I shifted my focus entirely and intensely (feels more accurate to say I shifted my consciousness) to something that would completely take me to another place where my mom couldn’t mentally or emotionally exist. In this case, it was on my fascination with a guy (my mom does not exist there, lol!). And because it was so fascinating to me, my mind just wanted to go further into that and not toward the energy that was sucking at me mentally from my mom. So essentially you have to guide your mind toward something powerful enough to override Fear and keep you out of that state. 
     

    The times it happened to me I was able to intuitively suspect who it was coming from (my mom) even when one of those times it was completely out of the blue (not post-arguement). I feel this could be the case with most females, at least. I think it helps to know where it’s coming from to know where (away) to go. But even if you don’t know, putting your consciousness into another reality where there is no negativity but pure positive focus/intention/love should help if you do it all of the way. Think about wanting to mentally go away from a nightmare or scary movie. You can’t get away from it if your attention is still on it out of fear. You have to totally and completely put your attention toward Love which means out of any state of Fear.  It takes bravery to take your eyes off of something that is attacking you. But it is a bravery that will save you. 

  17. Posted

    I’ve been contemplating this today and have contemplated it in the past. I’ve come to several existential conclusions/explanations/definitions of this word/concept, ‘belief’. And basically, I’ve landed on the idea that a belief is something you identify with. Which sounds simple but only came as a result of very complicated deep thinking/analysis. In the past I’ve defined it as, 

    - A repeated thought. 
    - A thought that you believe in (but that uses the word in question in the definition which I hate.) 
    - A thought that gives a feeling. Why? Because you believe it which also uses the term in the definition. And lastly, 
    - A premise or conclusion not coming from your Self, but from “Other” that you accept and unite with— and thus identify with. 
     

    I forgot the others. They included dualities such as ‘self’ and ‘other’ and ‘inside’ and ‘outside’. But since all of these dualities eventually collapse, I decided to land on, again, the simple explanation of, “a belief is something/anything you identify with.” 
     

    Which is also to say, then, that identification is a belief. Which also appears to be so. What are your guys’ contemplations of this? 

  22. Posted · Edited by Gianna

    If you can stay focused on LP while dating then do it. Why not. They can be a good balance for each other. Like sometimes when you’re dating you can’t stop thinking about the person and having a life purpose to turn to is nice. It gives you comfort in something else; makes you feel less needy/dependent and more focused. Also, being connected authentically to another can make you more connected authentically to yourself which can only help your LP. In other words, they can positively influence on another. I don’t believe they will take away from one another. I think that’s limited not expansive thinking. Follow your desires. Insight always follows.:)

  23. Posted

    On 5/4/2022 at 4:10 AM, AndylizedAAY said:

    It seems like I am avoiding the truth that I need to do these things.

    Or maybe you’re avoiding the truth on why you don’t want to do them. Why you really  and actually are resisting them. Once you connect with the little voice inside that can speak to this, then you will be able to figure out what you can do to make those tasks less miserable and more interesting/compelling.  

  25. Posted

    Hm, all of the scenarios seem connected to me except the one with the dog. The one with your dog seems separate to me, like it came from an inclination to feel/express your own power. This could come as a result of feeling powerless or disempowered or being oppressed or suppressed. Maybe you experienced this during that time of your life. 
    Do you disempower yourself often? Through moral judgment or expectation or righteousness? Do you suppress yourself or inhibit yourself? 

    The other scenarios you said were driven by curiosity and fascination (whereas the dog one came from anger). With these other scenarios, where are you relating to the instances you binge/fascinate over? Are you living vicariously through them? If so, what does vicariously living through the experience give you? You say satisfaction, but what kind of satisfaction? Is it the sense of disconnection that is satisfying you?