@asha176 It's ok to be affected by other people's opinions. Feedback is important. You just need to know to evaluate it properly and always take it with a pinch of salt. Ask yourself whether the people giving you advise are actually knowledgeable in the topic and qualified to give that advise. Not all opinion are equally valuable, but some are.

I had an insight when reading about memory consolidation and PTSD treatment methods, and how it relates to the progression of one's meditation ability and the decrease in self-referential thoughts.
It has been established that memories exist in a fragile state during recall in a process called "reconsolidation", which means that memories that are being recalled are always prone to being changed or even erased. This has been used to treat people with PTSD by giving them a drug that blocks the stress response (not MDMA in this case, but the mechanism is much the same) and having them recall their traumatic experience. When they recall their memory without experiencing the stressful emotional component, the memory will be reconsolidated in this new emotional context, effectively changing it, which has been shown to reduce the severity of their flashbacks.
Now, what does this have to do with meditation? Well, I've meditated for probably 1000 hours and I've been able to notice a progression over time and how it unfolds. What I'm claiming is that the process of recycling thoughts in meditation is similar to the stress-blocking drug treatment for PTSD. This is because you're essentially doing a technique that induces a calm state while continuously experiencing the same thoughts over and over and eventually changing the emotional relationship to each thought.
"But meditation doesn't make me calm at all?". Well, naturally the source of calm goes hand-in-hand with low self-referential thoughts (psychological calm), but even if the number of thoughts were to stay the same, the technique is also inherently calming on a physiological level (be it focusing on the breath, releasing bodily tensions etc.). The technique usually works to decrease thoughts in the moment, but the question is how exactly does it do this more successfully over time? More specifically, are there any potential mechanistic explanations other than the simplistic "practice makes perfect"? This is my claim.
How exactly does it work? Well, when you're in this calm state, you will have some thoughts entering your mind (obviously). These thoughts are synonymous with a spontaneous recall of a certain memory, and this memory will have to be reconsolidated in this calmer setting. Even if you feel like you don't have a calm mind, your thoughts will always be accompanied by an underlying sense of physiological calm, and the accompanying emotion will therefore be dampened or recontextualized to at least a tiny degree. It might not be true in every moment, but on average, this effect will make itself prominent and starts having an impact over time. 
When you do this consistently (over days, weeks, months and years), you can start to see how this can radically change how your mind processes memories, thoughts, emotions etc. What also happens as the thoughts start to feel less threatening, you'll be more able to grapple with the actual problems behind why they even feel threatening in the first place, and eventually the thoughts will have no reason to come back. This "fixing" aspect is in many ways completely automatic (sometimes the excess emotional load is the only problem), but it might also involve taking actions in the external world or just seeing things from a new perspective.
For sure, the thoughts themselves can still cause you to feel a certain way, but as your practice deepens, you'll attain the ability to simply witness the thoughts without reacting to them the same way, and the reconsolidation effect will at this point start to increase exponentially. You'll notice how being mentally calm, clear and present are all synonymous with eachother, and how a silent mind and a healthy body are two sides of the same coin.
This I believe is at least one mechanism behind how self-referential thoughts seem to decrease as you keep meditating (or at least one way to conceptualize it). Meditation is essentially a type of long-format self-therapy. This can also serve as motivation for people who feel they're struggling with an unruly mind and believe they're not seeing any results. According to this theory, just the mere action of consistently putting yourself in a state free of mental distractions, that is just marginally calmer compared to your normal state, will slowly but surely give you the upper hand given consistent daily practice.

We gotta recognize that perspective doesn’t feel good, and thus isn’t serving you. 
You could make a clean cut with by checking in with what’s actual. You’re not really stuck, you could call and quit right now. Obviously probably not a wise move in terms of action, but very wise in recognizing the perspective doesn’t feel aligned (good) because it isn’t true. 
You could sooth that perspective to a better one, by ‘listening’ to feeling....’ok, clearly that feels off...am I really stuck here, will this be the only job I experience for the rest of my life...clearly no...do other people change jobs, change perspectives...yes...’
You can also change the channel of perspective so to speak, to appreciation. ‘What can I appreciate about this...where is this headed....well I am learning some stuff...I’m making money...and this can lead to getting a degree...and a job I want more, that is more stimulating, more preferred, and comes with a higher income, maybe something even beyond that, why not’. 
You can also change perspectives existentially...(wiggles fingers, moves feet)...’ok, I’m not like, literally, really, actually stuck here’. 
Any which way you get there, ‘there’ is a change in how you’re interpreting your situation...a change which feels better to you. Why is that so important? It is the opposite of anxiety. When you’re feeling great, aligned, flowin, you’re on top of the world, unstoppable, “problems” seem insignificant, solutions abundant, enthusiasm rampant & boundless. 
I suggest getting really familiar with the emotional scale, and here’s why. When you think in terms of “I’m stuck”, you’re thinking about yourself - notice the thought is very literally “I” = “stuck”. Really appreciate this. Words which follow “I am” or “I’m” are powerful. Saying “I’m stuck” is going to be met with the true nature ‘saying’...”uh, the hell you talkin about my man...you’re free and you got me, infinite intelligence, guiding’. What you’re feeling is that discord with the true nature. Unfortunately, (I totally did it too) instead of listening to that guidance of how you feel, you labelled it, ‘anxiety’... and continued focusing on the same or similar perspectives of discord. Again, I feel for ya, I been there. Tried multiple dr’s and medications until I finally said ‘alright fuck it this ain’t workin, it’s my attitude, my perspective and I’ll change it’. 
Again, why the emotional scale? Look at the difference in terms of interpretation.....
a) “I’m stuck”. Feels terrible but that’s all there is to it. It’s not me, it’s the job, the work, my situation, circumstances, it’s taxing and sucks. 
b) (looks at scale....) (hopefully more helpful in terms of aligning thought & feeling...than it is a ‘text wall’...and I don’t believe lightening up and having fun with life ever hurt anyone)

‘Ok, where am I at on the damn scale....uh let’s see...fucking hopeless & depressed...sooo....I guess that’s powerlessness...am I feeling jealousy?...the hell’s that even mean or have to do with anything?...if you mean do I see people living carefree happy lives with all the shit they want, doin the things they want...and I also want that, then, ya, ok, I’m feeling jealousy...there’s a lot of shit I want to have & experience too, ya.... am I angry?....I’d kinda rather put boxing gloves on than read this shit...ya I’m angry...and yes, I’m discouraged...blame, oh God yes, totally not my fault...why folks don’t need a class & a license to have kids is beyond me...and what the hell are schools and teachers doing anyways, total pyramid scheme...does this make me worry, uh, hell ya it does...I wanna be doing what I wanna be doing and this shit ain’t easy, feels like I’ll waste my life trying to get there....do I feel doubt...well, ya...I doubt shit’s gonna work out honestly, sometimes I doubt I can persevere and make it through this...do I feel disappointment, uh, only everyday....I fuckin wake up disappointed with the shit I gotta do...seems like things should be way easier, and there’s just way too much goin on, what the hell’s my life purpose, how the hell am I gonna make enough money when I’m young and don’t have the qualifications & experience of those I’m competing with?!...who the hell wants to work in the first place, doesn’t even seem worth it....do I feel overwhelment...psh, did Genghis Kahn like sex?...hell ya I’m feelin overwhelment...is it frustrating, do I feel irritation & impatience...would you like a slap in the face right now?...uh, yes, yes I do...does it leave me feeling pessimism?...ya...I don’t see it getting better....do I feel boredom sometimes?...the fucks that got to do with anything?... ya, I totally do though... sometimes I got energy like King MF Kong and I’m sitting here doin nothin and it’s like I’m not focused or something, and it’s lame and I don’t know what to do about it really....do I experience contentment? Ah fuck no. Well. Maybe. Sometimes I read somethin, or hear somethin in a video or whatever, and I kind get this whole “The Now” stuff, I feel it sometimes, this peace...can I ‘dial into it’...well, this scale’s turning out to shed a little light...starting to see how focusing on certain perspectives that don’t feel good has a sort of build up of tension effect, and expressing like this releases some of that tension, feels a little better I guess...kinda lame and feminine but whatever, I’m kinda done with what ain’t workin and really just wanna feel good...starting to see how this scale clears the tension out in a way...and ya, I can see how expressing like this, and being where I am, dialing into seeing, hearing, feeling, relaxing the body...maybe recognizing some perspectives just don’t feel good & choosing better feeling thoughts does ....kinda...feel like ...contentment...so, ya...hopeful though?...I don’t know...still gots the same problems....but maybe that’s the point of contentment...I can feel the “problem perspective”...I do kinda say everything is a “problem” a lot, and it doesn’t feel good...there are times I’m not focused on problem perspectives...and ya, I feel the difference...I could slow down a pinch and feel my way to some hopefulness I suppose...maybe I could use a break...get away for a weekend, a few days...clear my head...maybe I’ll just schedule something, anything like that...and look forward to it...ya...I can feel that now, I can recognize hopefulness...I don’t know or understand really why I’m reluctant to feel good, but ya, I can feel hopefulness....shit can get better, apparently lots of people go through difficult times and it doesn’t last forever...can I feel positive expectations? Optimism?...well, at this point, what choice do I have really?...I pretty much have to...I gotta focus in some better feeling ways, I’ve really had enough of this stress and tension, and I do kinda wanna get this ‘guidance’ of feeling thing...this ‘magic of alignment’ feeling..ya...enthusiasm, eagerness, happiness....ok, honestly, that feels like a reach...but your gd dreamboard thingy does come to mind...and again, there is stuff I want, money, relationship maybe, a house maybe, some travel...it’s crossed my mind before, the idea of self employment, starting a business...not sure what that’d look like, but I can kinda see how the dreamboard serves this purpose...how I might wake up in disappointment...but then I’m gonna see that board, with all the shit I want on it, and I can think about that instead and feel good about it, I can relax and play a little, fantasize a bit, as if I already have it and am feeling as such...I mean, what do I got to lose at this point?...can’t get much miserabler, gotta change something...people are always saying stuff like “be the change you wish to see”, and “you create your own reality”...and ya, maybe sometimes I’m hot headed, close minded, and ya, I feel it when I am, so maybe some change in perspective and some “alignment” is in order for me...can I feel passion right now?...the fuck man, come on, get serious...my life totally suc-...oh wait...that’s one of those not good feeling perspectives ain’t it....passion’s kinda about that dreamboard ain’t it...starting to get those lists you mentioned...it makes sense...I do focus more on what I don’t want, than what I do want...and filling up a “dreamboard” with what I do want... as “wishful thinking” and airy-fairy-ish as it is...uh, ya, I guess it makes some sense...maybe all that stuff, all those experiences I actually do want would come into focus...from me seeing them, and kinda, effortlessly focusing on them each day....I can see how passion could arise the more I dial in on that board, into what I really want....I can see how thinking all this shit in my head ain’t working...and how it could “unfold” on the board, and I can see how that would feel good and even empowering.......joy, appreciation, empowerment, freedom, love...come on bruh, be real...that’s just what lucky rich genetically superior people sa-....oh snap...that was me focusing on the perspectives that don’t even feel good again....ok...so maybe there’s something to this “reality’s a dream”...and.... a dreamboard, focus, and aligning thought with feeling....MAYBE...but why the fuck not... I guess I can see there is momentum to focus, and it would be pretty easy to focus on what I want and feel good about it seeing it everyday on my board....hell...I could take a picture and even when I’m at work and school...doing shit I don’t honestly love....I could mentally be focused more on where I’m headed...what I want in a bigger picture....focused on what feels good....and I could appreciate, a little, this bullshit I gotta do to survive, as it does make some sense this, is me on my way to, that....and I can kinda grasp how I can imagine & fantasize...and feel that...and connect it with this, which is becoming that, and kinda of is that already really....a bit....I mean, what the hell else am I gonna do?...argue against my own joy?...just to focus in ways that don’t feel good....to me? Kinda had enough of that...joy’s sounding pretty good...maybe I do, kinda, care about it, about how I feel. 
Still the best speech I’ve ever heard....
Still the single most effective (and simplest) tool I’ve seen...
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Interesting observation.
You can do this process on steroids (not actual steroids). The way is to strongly associate a physical sensation to a calm meditative state. For example say get into deep meditation and touch your left earlobe. Do this for several sessions. After a while you'll get the Pavlovian response to touching your left earlobe - it will immediately put you into a calm meditative state. Hypnotists use this technique all the time, to "induce" you quickly.
Next, you induce the state by touching your earlobe and keeping it there, and immediately start mentally reliving the traumatic memory. This will reprogram the emotional response to the memory, as you mentioned about reconsolidation. Don't hold the earlobe for too long however or it could get associated with the traumatic memory. Each time through this exercise should greatly and permanently change the emotional response to the memory.
The anchors (i.e. earlobe touching) can be physical, words, sounds, smells or visualisation or combination of those. Often it's best that someone else anchors the state, which leaves you free to concentrate on just the trauma. The anchored states can be any positive or afirming emotion: confidence, calmness, excitement, emptiness etc.

Ground yourself in asserting love. Not because it's objectively better than hate, just will it. Then from there you can construct a worldview that will serve love in a utilitarian fashion, knowing that it is not grounded in anything objective. 
Do stay open minded it is helpful when you try to find ultimate truth of your existence. Drop your thoughts and just be joyfully still.

@tatsumaru
The challenge with giving advice about overcoming resistance is that it can look different for different people.
If your resistance is to taking action, than maybe something like Steven Pressfield is exactly what you need to hear.
But consider that each stage of cognitive development has its own unique resistance. And therefore needs unique advice.
Don't try to reconcile all the paradoxes. You're not going to be able to. You're going to have to accept that different advice just works for different people in a different context.
Don't try to find the perfect piece of advice, or the perfect model for overcoming resistance. Find the piece of advice or model that helps you overcome resistance. And when it's no longer useful, drop it and pick up the next piece of advice.
You can feel in your body what advice rings true for you and what you need to hear. And of course the ultimate test will be whether or not you drop your resistance. If you don't, then obviously that wasn't the right thing you needed to hear. Or you still need more self-reflection and to drop deeper layers of resistance.