Abdelghafar

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  3. Posted · Edited by Abdelghafar

    2 hours ago, BlueOak said:

    What you describe as hate you might also mean frustration, or anger, disappointment, or resentment.

    Emotions are not bad, its what we do with them and what they mean to us, the choices we make that are important.

    Those feelings are coming from you. Ask yourself why, and then address that. It could be that person you are tolerating needs cutting from your life, and there plenty of people I feel that way about.

    @BlueOak You make a very strong argument. I like your way of thinking. Perhaps I can learn something here.

    Could you expand more on the quoted text? Because I agree with you.

    The hate I feel could be more complex in nature. And a lot of shades in between maybe present as you mentioned.

    But what could a man do with these emotions? regardless of the reasons for which they arise.

    I have an inkling on why they persist, as @Lyubov asserts:

    1 hour ago, Lyubov said:

    What it sounds to me is like that somewhere in your life you were hurt by people and you formed all sorts of beliefs to keep yourself safe and now you feel resistance, anger and pain when you are pressed to get close and intimate.

    But what if cutting people from my life that I'm intolerant of results in isolation?

    Is the healthiest course of action here is to arm oneself of the belief that everyone acts out of their intentions to survive? Do you think it's healthier to try to forgive others for their actions but at the same time not being a doormat and tolerating them?

    Thank you @Lyubov and @BlueOak for sharing your thoughts.

  4. Posted · Edited by Abdelghafar

    3 hours ago, bejapuskas said:

    @Abdelghafar  I am glad you differentiate between asexuality and mental illness. :) 

    I don't know why would it be any issue that you do not currently want to be in a relationship. It is fine, you mentioned you do not have issues attracting women, I do not know about men. I guess you are not repressed in your sexuality either, you do not seem like it. Why would you spend more time here? Do not feel pressured by this community or Leo.

    Listen to yourself, reclaim your own authority.

    But hating people could be an issue, talk to someone about that.

    Thank you for your words of advice. I appreciate it @bejapuskas. I guess I posted this here because i wanted to be heard by people whom I don't deal with in my country. Some of them may not be as open-minded. But you're right. it seems to me that I already knew the answer to to my question. I will listen to myself and be mindful.

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    I'm a 23 year old Egyptian national and an English Teacher. In my profession, I teach adults as well as young learners. This post is going to be about the former.


    I don't need to mention the sensitivity of getting laid in the middle east or within a social or professional communities. I believe that socialising and becoming an attractive leader is paramount for my personal life regardless of my circumstances.

    That's why I'm writing this post. I want an outside perspective on what I'm doing now and what to do in the future. I would love to get your input, @Leo Gura.

    I started working as an English Instructor for a year ago. During that time, I met a lot of women colleagues and students. I had a lot of practice with talking to women. I had a lot of pitfalls as well. They made me stronger.

    Through following Leo's advice on the forum and his videos, I'm always on the journey of being a high-value leader.

    My problem is not attracting women, but being attracted to them. Mostly, I hook women by my charm. They let me touch them, kiss them and tease them.

    But whenever I'm with them or have the opportunity to be with them, I just don't care. I ignore them. I focus more on myself or work, but I give them no attention.

    Some girls get disappointed and stop pursuing me and some keep at it, but I repel them.

    I know what you're thinking. I must be gay. In fact, I am bisexual. I'm attracted to both men and women. But I still don't care about pursuing men either, even though a few gay men hit on me.

    I'm confused. I don't know what I'm doing. I just don't care about being in a relationship with anyone. I approach men and women for practice. But I still don't care to go into any relationship at all.

    Honestly, I hate people. I hate them. I'm intolerant of them. I get bored of them easily. I get a lot of dark and evil thoughts about killing or harming them.

    Is this normal? should I go to a therapist? should this be in the dating and relationships subforum or serious emotional problems forum?

    Thank you. Feel free to share your thoughts.

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    2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

    There was no causal connection between the two forums. My audience is not the RSD audience nor the hardcore pickup audience.

    People into personal development just naturally want to talk about how to evolve their dating, relationships, and sex. And a lot of guys just struggling to get laid these days.

    The only reason I talk about pickup is because I personally have a deep insider's look into this fascinating and much-misunderstood field, and I feel that I can call out it's unethical and toxic aspects in ways which few people in the community are willing to do because they are too busy maximizing their sex life.

    The pickup community is a very mixed bag, full of very sketchy people. So be careful.

    What does RSD stand for? @Leo Gura

  8. Posted · Edited by Abdelghafar

    25 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    Good work. Keep going out and socializing. And remember, quality over quantity.

    Next time do 5 deeper converasations with strangers. This will grow your skills more than 100 hellos. Gradually you will get better and better at conversation and they will become easier, more natural, and more enjoyable.

    The key is to start enjoying it. Otherwise you won't be able to sustain it. If you enjoy it there won't be any anxiety either.

    This makes me feel unique about boosting my social skills through speaking to thousands of men and women by being an English Instructor.

    I swear, it has been majorly beneficial.

    Good luck to you, bud. @Illusory Self

  9. Posted · Edited by Abdelghafar

    17 hours ago, something_else said:

    Or I could have more friends and far better social skills

    Like 90%+ of people who party in uni don't end up addicted to anything or ruining their lives, they have a great time, make friends and let loose

    Also who takes opiates at a party? Is that a thing anywhere? It's mostly coke + weed I see and neither appeal to me at all really

    Same here. But I got a job as an English Teacher after I graduated and boosted my social skills tremendously. It wasn't easy by the way. It was agonising. But that is what it takes to better yourself as I did. I changed my personality and made myself a leader out of a scoundrel. It's not too late. Good luck, buddy.

    P.S. I have no regrets. The things I did or have been done are in the past. I have the choice of learning from them and developing, rather than whinging about them.

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    On 05/01/2022 at 11:24 PM, Roy said:

    I don't believe I'll ever get married, it's fine for others but I personally don't care for it. I'm 28 now and have had a good amount of sexual partners and long term relationships.

    I do desire lifetime monogamy though, I imagine I'll go through a series more partners until I find a match that's just so healthy there is simply no reason not to spend the remainder of our lives together.

    I'll still value all the partnerships even if they end. Just because it doesn't last forever doesn't mean it was a failure. Certain people come into our lives and leave, exactly when they need to.

    Just enjoy the time you have with people, this is all temporary anyways.

    Amen to that!

  13. Posted · Edited by Abdelghafar

    23 hours ago, itachi uchiha said:

    @Abdelghafar Can psychopathy be cured

    I don't see psychopathy as a disease, despite how the rest of the world views this matter.

    In my opinion, psychopaths are human beings. They're just different from other human beings. Which is natural.

    Imagine if the whole world was the same, how boring and impractical would it be?

    Now, psychopathy is dangerous and inferior if they act nefariously towards people in extreme measures. Like killing or greviously maiming someone.

    But all of us have survivalist instincts that push us to be 'psychopathic'.

    Now, are we diseased for having these urges to survive? especially in worldly contexts where you have to be highly psychopathic to not starve and put clothes on your back? For example, being a provider in a third-world country.

    I guarentee you, from hands-on experience, that your survival as a Provider in these parts of the world is much higher in liklihood if you're a psychopath than trying to be a self-actualised person.

    Of course, this doesn't apply to all people in these countries. But applies to lots of them.

    Also, know that 'normal' people who are not considered psychopaths commit just as heinous crimes and acts as the worst psychopaths out there. You'll even find some psychopaths more decent than other people who are considered normies.

    But let me bottom-line this for you,

    No one is exempt from Devilry as long we live on this Earth. Except if you're a Zen Buddist Monk, Jesus or someone whose trying to be more conscious because they can.

    Some people, though, cannot afford the luxury of being more conscious. Because if they did, they'd be dead-meat.

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    23 minutes ago, itachi uchiha said:

    @Abdelghafar because of psychopathy , are u in the top 5% in social skills

    Can psychopathy be cured

    I can't speak to that. This applies from a person-to-person basis. In other words, I don't recognise the scales or the percentages as relevant.

    However, in general terms, I have highly developed social skills and I've worked to develop them for a long time. Still do, by the way.

  15. Posted · Edited by Abdelghafar

    3 hours ago, itachi uchiha said:

    Does psychopathy happen because a person do not get programmed in stage blue values and ideas?

    It doesn't work like that.

    Your personality is rooted from lots of variants. It really depends on who you are, where you were born, how your childhood and adulthood were or it could be biological. Maybe it's a combination of all of those too.

    For example, most of my whole life was stage blue programming and I got 4.4/5 for my Primary psychopathy scale.

    This is not just real in online testing, but in real life as well.

    Bear in mind, that there are different types of psychopaths and not all of them are the same.