March

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  1. Hi, I have an urgent query. I feel like I must ask this here. I feel like my parents feel like the wisest people I know. Their words seem like the right thing to me. However, months later (i.e. now) their advice has made me go down a path I don't want to do down. So, how do I deal with feeling like my parents are the wisest people and the most right thing to follow in the moment? How do I then know I know what is "right"? I am curious as to how I know what I know (i.e. the feeling my parents are the wisest and the most right) if months after I find that the advice is not that wise and that maybe I don't know what is right? My biggest thank yous. _name - not used in the forum (you can call me March)
  2. Hey, Before I start: I have seen replies to my latest post, I will reply later on. So, I am not gay. I don't feel really turned on by gay erotica (which is probably the wrong word but I just mean pornography, etc...). I am attracted to women and my pronouns are he/him.
  3. Hi, I have a critique for Leo. The critique, in short, is about how generalisable, universal, relevant across all cultures of the world Actualized.org teachings are. Leo comes from a Western, American background. Therefore, how applicable are these teachings to say, someone like me who is from a Chinese family / Eastern background? For example, the video about "how to become decisive" some techniques, are (off my memory - I can't remember it that well) about making yourself do something that one would have resistance to. An analogy is that if you are a tree, this is putting frames around the tree to shape it in a linear, almost square-like shape. In the East, in general, one may be more "going with the flow" and being more accepting / "feminine". So, this is just an example. Perhaps you (other members) may come up with other examples. But, the point is, is Actualized.org teachings universal, or generalizable across all cultures? Thanks.
  4. Hey guys, Just a general observation / question: I looked through Nahm's last posts before he left / was made to leave the forum. His words seem surprisingly crude, like some common "unadvanced" spiritual teachers. This is a stark contrast from his earlier posts. Example: I asked if I should tell a girl I didn't like her and was avoiding her, and he said something like "is that because you are afraid of hurting her or you are afraid of telling the truth." Like general personal development tips infused with spirituality (eg. in this case it sounds like ideas from the book Radical Honesty). Basically, my opinion (and I'm asking if you guys feel this way) is that Nahm was actually a pretty good person to take advise from - there was lots of wisdom in his replies - then he just... lost it? That's what it feels like. Like. No offense. But I'm 18. I currently meditate and know about enlightenment. But I don't give a fuck about spiritual nuances (which probably aren't nuances) but you get the idea... I just want general everyday wisdom. So should I look at Nahm's previous posts and take wisdom from there?
  5. man thank so much this was actually pretty helpful
  6. wanted to share this rap artist - this guy got a life purpose going on for real (his music is like medicine, helps deal with trauma which he went through himself) something i do notice is that this guy, just like Leo's videos aren't as flashy, they more real, they actually are emotionally difficult to listen to compared to say someone just rapping bout sex.
  7. the first thing is that if you're in limbo or ending as mentioned in the video, embrace the "yin" stage you are at. but if you're at starting or middle phase, then i would suggest what is called 100% commitment: good luck
  8. How did you watch Jodorowsky films? I can't find where to buy them anywhere
  9. Hey, first of all, I'm around the same height as you and that's not really that short. Now, consider this guy as a good role model - someone who is very short (132cm), but gets lot of girls, very smart, and spiral dynamics role model (stage yellow). Breaking cultural norms is a sexy thing.
  10. yes. yes. true teacher teaches from behind, is not a star
  11. @Shiva99 I'm going to give 1 perspective / solution to your situation here, that I personally find is so powerful: You need a life purpose. A strong, systematic purpose that is derived from your greatest strengths, and is making the greatest impact you can possibly think of in this point in time -> what is it in the world that would be so much better if you changed it. Whatever impact you come up with should make you cry. For me, the Life Purpose Course gives you exercises and resources and techniques in a systematic way that helps you do this (no, Leo didn't pay me to say this, but I can honestly say that this changed my life). From my experience, when you have a vision such as this, your work becomes like war - for a truly meaningful cause. All the pettiness of life falls away. What do you think gives someone like MLK so much confidence to make a powerful, controversial speech to 250,000 people, and improvise, IMPROVISE, the most iconic part of the speech - the phase "I have a dream" was improvised on the spot by MLK when a friend called out "tell them about the dream". He had to have a life purpose to do something like that so confidently. Life Purpose gives you positive motivation in the long run - and in the short term, that 1-2 years you do soul searching and align yourself with your life purpose, use the negative motivation of lying on your deathbed, and that impact, that life purpose you could have actualized dying with you. Good luck my friend?
  12. Hey, I know this ain't an example but a quick question ? I'm in high school rn, 16 yrs. I feel that putting on an "alpha male" identity is like a very important survival mechanism for me. I've tried being "feminine" and vulnerable put the fucking academic system and all the immature people (including teachers..) just put me down and do not understand. With that context now, is there a way I can keep this identity for another 2 years without it fucking me up as a person?
  13. Some wise words I like your artwork btw, I'm curious did you discover that passion / become so good through using Leo's life purpose course, or simply his ordinary videos as well as other resources?
  14. Ight, thanks man. I can see where you're pointing to