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    On 8/5/2020 at 10:27 AM, Buba said:

     I feel huge discomfort. I lost connection with my parents. My heterosexual image collapsed. My world collapsed. I feel like I will stay like this forever. I feel like I will never be happy because my parents know I had sex with men.

    My sense of self hurts so much.

    Is there a place where I can heal? Psychologists and psychotherapies will not help me.

    1) How old are you?

    2) Who's idea was it for you to see a psychologist?
    You or your parents' ?  

    3) What was the goal supposed to be? Was it for the psychologist to help you accept all your feelings of homosexuality and homosexual behavior 
    or was the goal to get you to stop having homosexual feelings and doing homosexual behavior? 

  4. Posted · Edited by Nak Khid

    1 hour ago, Mu_ said:

    Thanks for the laugh, I needed that.  The whole enlightenment is funny. 

    It's not a joke

    you decide you are enlightened and the you act enlightened 
    it's a choice

    they don't tell you that in the manual 
    meanwhile the next guy is mediation in a cave for six hours a day in Thailand
    getting bitten by mosquitoes wondering why he's still not enlightened 

    remember nonduality ?   > no distinction 

    there is no distinction between being "getting" enlightened and choosing to be enlightened 
    the "getting" part was the illusion
    You choose it 
    But people don't want to give up everything, their attachments and especially their security 
    It's not like actualization where you first establish your basic survival needs
    that type of safety net will not test you 
    No, in fact the most profound enlightenment is often in the middle of a disaster or struggle 
    where your survival may be insecure
    That may not happen but security is not guaranteed  
    then you may suddenly break out laughing.. ha  ha ha 

    But if you do this in the U.S. or if you do it somewhere else
    each place will have it's unique conditions and response or lack of 
    So after you are enlightened to you give up meditation? 
    no, that has it's place as well,  look at the leaf of an oak
    two hours have passed 
     


     

  8. Posted

    On 8/4/2020 at 9:09 AM, Leo Gura said:

     

    There is nothing but states of consciousness. You are always in some state of consciousness. And the state you are in right now is very weak. You are not even 0.01% conscious. And no amount of questioning will get you to Infinite Consciousness.

    what is your estimate as to your own percentage conscious  ? 

     

     

  9. Posted

     Sadhguru said he knews nothing about meditation or metaphysics, he was a businessman and he sat on a hill one day he says he was not a meditator he  become spontaneously  enlightened
    Eckhart Tolle at the age of 29, after having suffered from long periods of depression says he experienced an "inner transformation". He said>

    I couldn’t live with myself any longer. And in this a question arose without an answer: who is the ‘I’ that cannot live with the self? What is the self? I felt drawn into a void! I didn’t know at the time that what really happened was the mind-made self, with its heaviness, its problems, that lives between the unsatisfying past and the fearful future, collapsed. It dissolved. The next morning I woke up and everything was so peaceful. The peace was there because there was no self. Just a sense of presence or "beingness," just observing and watching

    So if this is true meditation is not required to become enlightened.  Neither are psychedelics (but try to even think of a few  people who are regraded as enlightened and did it by psychedelics) 

    However one can't rely on these spontaneous events to occur out of nowhere either.
    There is no standard or way of testing to see if someone is enlightened
    so being enlightened is a matter of claiming you're enlightened and other people thinking you are,
    if not,  acting enlightened and  people claiming  you are enlightened 

    So how can one become enlightened? 

    Answer: Just say you are or act in a way that people will assume you are enlightened.

    And the mores you act this way and the more  you will be regarded as enlightened. You could act differently in private 
    but  the more you do that  the more chance you  being exposed as hypocritical 

    So to begin this process you  study the behavior of other people regarded to be enlightened closely and imitate what they say and do
    but you don't imitate ant  one person word for word, you take for here and there and mix it together and put your own touch to it 
    You have to give up your attachments and bad habits so you do as much as possible. 

    Once you do this for a while you adapt more and more to it
    and you speak to people on spiritual topics and how they can improve their lives.

    Then the good karma comes back and people help you and sometimes give you things. 

    This is how you become enlightened.
    It's a lifestyle choice 

    You make a choice
    "I am going to live the way a enlightened person lives and in doing so I am enlightened"

    and you don't look back

    that's how it's done. 

    Sitting in meditation is good for settling the mind but alone it doesn't make you enlightened. 
    You have to choose to be enlightened. 
    But people can see what it is to live like this and they say they want to become enlightened
    but they actually fear living this way. 
    So they sit and they sit for hours and years hoping that this fear will go away and something all of the sudden
    something will hit them and make them want to become enlightened with their full being. 
    But that is not going to happen, You have to make the choice in your default state not during meditation.
    So if you stop wanting to become enlightened is that when it comes? 
    No,  it doesn't come from a burning desire to become enlightened or somehow come to you when you don't cling to the idea. 
    It comes about by choosing to live this was and then doing it 

    So you say that sounds easy. Why doesn't everybody do it? 
    It is because once you do it people will question you, you may have been living quietly
    but now people question everything you say and try to make you into a fraud.
    You may have to be poor for a while or you may not 

    But all that goes with it. 
    It is part of the choice  
     

  11. Posted · Edited by Nak Khid

    THIS IS HOW I THINK THE ARREST SHOULD HAVE HAPPENED

    He had been arrested 9 times before and was already in car but then complaining about claustrophobia and he had just come out of a own car. 
     He was saying he could't breathe the whole time before he was even on the ground.   So all of that can be ignored because everybody is saying I can't breath now while getting arrested.   (it's a different matter when you have the person pinned on the ground or doing something that could affect the breathing- but that situation came later on the ground)  

    Then after they were having trouble getting him into the car he said he wanted to lie on the ground,  they put him on the ground.
    I think that then they should have not touched him for a while while he was on the ground like 5 minutes, not said anything and see what he would do.  Then after 5 minutes tell him he's going in the car hes' being arrested.  if he still refused to get in the car you have 4 officers grab his legs and force him in that car (but no punching)
       If they still felt they couldn't get him in and shut the door call a police van and walk him into a police van.   It's easy at that point  
    Put your knee on his neck ?   No,  never 

    So you're saying why add the expense of bringing in a van?   Because if you don't bad things happen people get killed, the department gets sued for millions and protesters burn 20 buildings to the ground.   So tell the person, you are being arrested no matter what. You can go in a van or  if you are worried about your breathing we'll bring an ambulance you can get extra oxygen but if you take the ambulance you will be strapped in. . Take your pick 
    So then you bring in a van or ambulance and the situation is done and there doesn't have to be nation wide protests.  

     

  13. Posted

    June 11 interview
    George Floyd and Derek Chauvin "bumped heads" while working at nightclub, former coworker says.

    He says Derek Chauvin was mad about a payment amount he got from the club. 
    It seems peculiar to me that when you watch the body cam video taken of George Floyd
    he never acts like he knew Chauvin.  And it is also peculiar how George Floyd acts like they 
    are going to kill him but he had been arrested 9 times.  Does this all sound consistent? No

     

  15. Posted · Edited by Nak Khid

    25 minutes ago, Opo said:

    Yes but, a lot of cops get their sense of pride by the authority that the badge gives them.

    When they feel insecure they start doing stupid shit for no reason other than to feel someone submit to their authority. 

    what is your opinion of Derek Chauvin's intent ? 

    1) Kill George Floyd

    2) Put his knee on George Floyd's neck until he passed out ,
    (knowing that using a neck restraint to render someone unconscious
    was permitted and in the training manual at the time) 

    3) Immobilize George Floyd until he agreed to go in the car

     

     

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    Minneapolis Police Department Training Manual (has been changed since) 

     

    5-311 USE OF NECK RESTRAINTS AND CHOKE HOLDS (10/16/02) (08/17/07) (10/01/10) (04/16/12)

    DEFINITIONS I.

    Choke Hold: Deadly force option. Defined as applying direct pressure on a person’s trachea or airway (front of the neck), blocking or obstructing the airway (04/16/12)

    Neck Restraint: Non-deadly force option. Defined as compressing one or both sides of a person’s neck with an arm or leg, without applying direct pressure to the trachea or airway (front of the neck). Only sworn employees who have received training from the MPD Training Unit are authorized to use neck restraints. The MPD authorizes two types of neck restraints: Conscious Neck Restraint and Unconscious Neck Restraint. (04/16/12)

    Conscious Neck Restraint: The subject is placed in a neck restraint with intent to control, and not to render the subject unconscious, by only applying light to moderate pressure. (04/16/12)

    Unconscious Neck Restraint: The subject is placed in a neck restraint with the intention of rendering the person unconscious by applying adequate pressure. (04/16/12)

    PROCEDURES/REGULATIONS II.

    The Conscious Neck Restraint may be used against a subject who is actively resisting. (04/16/12)

    The Unconscious Neck Restraint shall only be applied in the following circumstances: (04/16/12)

    On a subject who is exhibiting active aggression, or;

    For life saving purposes, or;

    On a subject who is exhibiting active resistance in order to gain control of the subject; and if lesser attempts at control have been or would likely be ineffective.


     

     

  22. Posted

    @Alfonsoo 

    Try thus book:

    https://www.amazon.com/Coping-Critical-Demanding-Dysfunctional-Parents/dp/1684030927/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&qid=1596688281&refinements=p_27%3ADavid+M.+Allen+MD&s=books&sr=1-2

    Coping with Critical, Demanding, and Dysfunctional Parents: Powerful Strategies to Help Adult Children Maintain Boundaries and Stay Sane Paperback – November 1, 2018

    by David M. Allen MD (Author), Susan Heitler PhD (Foreword)

    _________________________________________________________________________________

    See if you can get it on kindle and try to make sure your mother can't look at whatever device you are using and tell you are reading this It might make her mad.   But if you study this book and put the effort in it might help you.

     

  24. Posted · Edited by Nak Khid

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    9 hours ago, SeekingFreedom said:

    If I can only access reality through my perceptions and all of me and my perceptions are a self deception, then how can I know what reality actually is? And if I ever figure it out, how will I know it’s not a self deception? 
     

    If the top statement is true, logically there is no reality, everything is imaginary.

    And the only way you could be deceived about anything would be to believe that reality exists.
    but I prefer to believe in reality as a matter of faith 

     

     

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