ThermalTide

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    I would say yes, generally speaking, women have their guard up more these days. Social media has put the gross tendencies of everyone on display and its being fed into our brains 24/7. While I don't think all men are sexually predatory, I also don't know any women who haven't experienced extremely bizarre and aggressive behavior from dudes at some point in their life. For a lot of them, its pretty often. I think the proliferation of porn and whatnot has had a really bad effect on men and it has lead us to some pretty gnarly points as a society. My male friends in my age range (late 20s) are generally pretty meek and depressed. They spend a lot of time in sedentary positions, they fap a lot, they're pretty purposeless and lost, and they don't really get any pussy, at all. It's really unfortunate and something that troubles and fascinates me a lot. I think it bodes grim shit for real. Of course, not every dude is like this, but I'd argue that its common enough in younger people especially that we should discuss this issue more and hopefully figure out how we can fix ourselves. 

    To clarify, I don't think at all that this phenomenon is strictly mens fault at all, its an American culture as a wholes problem, likewise it'll take changes from men and women both to put an end to this soyboy death spiral

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    As important as you make them; some quotes have stuck with me forever and I recall them somewhat often to apply to whatever situation I'm in. I've written down quotes from some of Leo's content that has also had a big impact on how I navigate life moving forward. I've also heard a lot of quotes disguised as being profound when really its not that deep, lol. I suggest writing down ones that really speak to you, and coming back to them sometimes to assess how you feel about them or if they've been helpful to you. 

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    1 hour ago, IAmReallyImportant said:

    I believe that there is a difference between someone who is heterosexual looking at homosexual pdas and someone who is heterosexual being persuaded by polyamorous relationships. Since man is polygamous, there is a difference.

    I am not interested in opinions but facts. You can have your opinion. You can't stop anyone from misguiding other people or condoning unhealthy behavior. That would also be too exhausting.

    fact is that people are going to be polyamorous regardless of anyone's opinions... idk man I'm not following you tbh. You're not saying anything of substance

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    20 minutes ago, IAmReallyImportant said:

    I meant, asking yourself what would happen, if everybody would do that. And there is certainly the possibility that it would become a norm. Moreover, as mentioned the role model part. It is not healthy for anybody to live this kind of live and even if they would feel good, they would lead other people to suffer and have other risks in place as well. So you would live it in front of others and - as you want to convince yourself of your views - you would want to make it look like it is good and healthy.

    I understand what you're saying but I have to disagree, this post is an example of how we're all able to think for ourselves and deduce our own conclusions about these sorts of things. I don't want to have a polyamorous relationship, but the fact that they exist doesn't change my mind at all. Nor does it bother me that people are engaging in these kinds of relationships. It's simply not my business. With your logic, straight people viewing homosexual PDA would threaten their straightness lol

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    9 minutes ago, IAmReallyImportant said:

    The issue is, that you participate on something which can scale and then it becomes a problem. Violating the golden rule.

    Moreover, you live something for other people and signal that it would be good, even though it is harmful. This is similar to taking drugs or smoking at school. Not everyone can get rid of it.

    which golden rule? I genuinely can't see an issue with how people conduct their relationship dynamics privately.

  13. Posted

    Everyone's different; if consenting adults are participating in polyamory, I really don't see an issue. However, in my personal experience having experimented with a fair amount of relationship styles, I noticed that a lot of people involved in polyamory are self-centered and lack empathy. The personality types that are obsessed with themselves and believe themselves to be right about everything tend to be the types that want multiple partners, 'cause they're so great, of course. lol 

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    I get a lot out of tracking my food in an app on my phone, where it shows macros and whatnot. Theres a lot of good youtube videos on high-protein meals and prep, Joe Delaney makes my favorite ones. I've tried all his recipes and they're all top notch. I've heard it's ideal to get your protein mostly from actual food instead of whey- I limit myself to two scoops a day or like 1 scoop and a bar. Cheers

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    I actually agree with Leo on this one lol more stuff that they were all anal about banning. Reddit functions as a search engine basically, since only really illegal stuff is banned from there. Mods sometimes get out of control sometimes but it comes with the territory of having mods to begin with lol. I think twitter would benefit from seeing less restrictions, less triggered dialogue, and less shady woke people involved behind the curtain. I don't think this can actually be achieved but nonetheless I'd want it to operate more like reddit; in a perfect world. 

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    I'm not sure that this will "solve" your issue here because you're saying that you don't want to rely on women for sexual satisfaction... yet as a straight male it would seem that you have gotten to a point of wanting to reject this part of yourself entirely. Too much work? Too much rejection? I don't see a sex doll fixing this for you in any way; on the contrary, I think this will give you sexual dysfunction and will make it awkward when you do actually sleep with a real woman. It takes balls to set up your life in a way that allows you to get laid and maintains a strong independence factor, but it certainly can be done and in my opinion, that's what you should pursue. Having a rotation of girls while you're ultimately single is a really good position to be in. Just personal opinion though, if you truly want to invest in a sex toy like that then hey, haver fun dude. I just don't think this will improve your life in any real, concrete way. Best wishes

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    You are quite young, first of all. Not behind in any sense of the word. For me, I consider everything that has happened as part of the learning and growing process. Your mind is just painting this period of time as negative, but it's not really. The last 2 years have been hard on everyone in one way or another. You can view these as set backs, or just accept that the world is going through some weirdness and so are you! It's okay to allow your path to go where you do not expect or necessarily want it to go. This is normal. It sounds like you are doing well currently as far as personal development and self discipline goes. Just breathe man! I think you're creating a problem that simply isn't there. 

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    I think the issues presented here are more of a product of narcissistic parents than a result of anything truly lgbtq related. This is something I personally have struggled with; the weirdness coming out of this community in the last few years has become illogical and divisive. I have no problem with adults having any consenting sexual relations and experiences they desire, and I also believe that some people are born with a mental condition that is alleviated by transitioning into the opposite sex. I do not, however, stand behind relaying this kind of thing to children. It's fine to tell children a sanitized version of things, but its creepy to think that kids really give a shit about that kind of stuff to begin with. They are innocent, and therefore I think its cruel to be feeding them such nuanced, adult topics. I am a girl and I've always liked masculine things (cars, heavy music, mens clothing), and I know that if I was a child right now in this political climate, I would be under the impression that I am needing to undergo surgery to become who I "truly" am- in reality a child is not "truly" themselves at all; they are still developing and learning, creating even, who they are. 

     

    It's parents seeped into social media culture and obsessed with being a "good" person to stroke their own ego who are pushing these things on children, and that's why I think this is a result of much deeper issues than simply gay and trans people exist. 

  20. Posted

    20 hours ago, Tyler Robinson said:

    Just your nonsense projection. This is an outlet for people to dump their issues and concerns and seek help for it. I thought in similar ways about a guy here years ago when he would constantly ask for help. Then he reminded me that this is a place where people come from help. So if someone is constantly asking for help, it would appear like they're playing victim which is not the case. It's almost like saying if a person visits a gym, that's because they are in bad health. Not necessarily. They are just doing it probably to be in better shape. It does not mean that there's something wrong with them. 

    I'm a sensitive person so what I'm going through is not playing victim but an actual struggle. I struggle with these states of mind, emotions and feelings. These thoughts stay in my mind. He was an important part of my life and my mind can't forget him. 

    And I try to remove him sometimes but it's like an addiction. I'm hooked on him like crack. And now my mind doesn't like anything without him. He got me addicted. 

    I used to laugh hysterically with him. I used to feel bubbles and butterflies in my tummy when I used to talk to him. He used to make me insanely happy. 

    He would talk to me and his voice used to fill me with so much laughter that I used to remember it for hours after the conversation was long over. He swept me off my feet. I used to giggle for hours. 

    Then I judged him for being bisexual. And we broke up. 

    We were like childhood sweethearts always having super fun with each other. Now he has moved on and I'm feeling like a lonely bird sulking. 

    It's depressing seriously without him. Actually he was the only person in the world that could make me laugh and giggle. He was very loving and sweet and very kind and attentive to me. 

    So I miss him very badly. It's like losing your best friend from childhood. 

    I think of him every minute. It's too hard. I don't think I can completely forget him.. 

    Maybe I can think less frequently about him but I can't completely forget him. 

    My heart is terribly stuck on him and it just doesn't want to let go. He was my precious lover friend soulmate kinda thing 

     

     

    this dude told you something you really needed to hear and your response is "just a nonsense projection" lmfao

  23. Posted

    Awareness for me is being able to observe something without pre-conceived notions or ideas clouding what it actually is. For example, I am an alcoholic, so exercising awareness for me would look like being able to observe a craving of mine as exactly what it is; an emotional response to stress and discomfort. Or, more succinctly, a change in brain chemistry which proposes a solution that is fundamentally an illusion. My ability to distinguish between what is an automatic ego response and what is truly occurring is my definition of awareness. Perhaps as I continue down this path of self actualization I will understand something deeper; I wish to achieve levels of awareness where I am able to understand why I have the obsessive and neurotic thoughts I have, while simultaneously having the centering foundation to automatically steer myself where I truly want to go. 

     

  24. Posted

    I completely relate to this post- all "jobs" I've had have been utterly soul sucking, hours and hours traded for underwhelming paychecks that never seem to cover absolutely all the expenses of normal life. It's discouraging and depressing. Resentment towards employers flourishes when employees are underpaid and under-appreciated. 

    I've worked for myself as well, which in my experience can be much more lucrative and rewarding, but also requires way more work. When you're the boss, everything is up to you, and it's a huge and uncomfortable shift to make if you're used to being told what to do and how to do it. However, now that I've made my own money and know what it's like to be my own boss, I can't imagine being happy going back to an hourly or salary type of work. I'm currently finishing up a bunch of stuff related to a business I'm launching so hopefully that goes well and carries me forward on this journey of financial freedom. :)

    I strongly suggest intentionally broadening your ideas of how you can make money. The internet is vast and full of money making opportunities, as well as off in the real world. Having your own business or being an independent contractor sounds like something you would benefit from, since clearly the wage slave lifestyle isn't making you happy. Leo has a video from way back where he spoke about how your mindset regarding how easy it is to make money can have a huge impact on your actual ability to make it- so I've made a serious effort to re-wire my brain, so to speak. Positive affirmations to yourself regularly, having an exit plan for your current job, having a clear life purpose, doing lots and lots of research on what's out there in the market, these are all things that should propel you forward into something more fitting for what you desire. Best of luck!

  25. Posted

    I'm not sure I would consider myself to be a part of any ideology around dating but I'm definitely not at a point in my life where I'm pursuing any relationships, because I am very focused on creating a good life for myself. Eventually I'll be ready to step into that whole conquest of finding a partner, just not right now. It seems like dudes who are in this same phase of life tend to internalize it and think it means they're ugly or something. Not the case, I think they just need more time to cultivate desirable traits (solid mental and emotional state, lucrative career, physical fitness, etc.). These are the factions of life I'm currently working on boosting to increase my options in the dating market when I choose to dive into that.