Gili Trawangan

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  1. Posted

    Yes, you are doing something wrong. You don't just give them a compliment, that's too much pressure on them and seems try-hard. Of course they want to bolt. You follow up the compliments with a tease:

    "I saw you from over there and thought you looked really nice... you had a mischievous look, like you've just stolen something" - this is delivered with a flirty smile, and it's only one example - a real one that I once used successfully - of many possibilities for teasing, obviously you should make it fit the situation.

    This is just the opener, daygame is its own art form. It's good that you're approaching, but you should learn how to go about it as well.

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    Have you tried intermittent fasting?

    It's like a miracle, I went from 21% body fat to 14% in two months. Lost a ton of fat around the stomach, I have never looked like this before. Didn't lose muscle at all, just fat.

    Besides regular physical exercise, all I did was skip dinner 3/4 times a week and drastically reduce the amount of carbs consumed. It didn't feel restrictive at all, there was just a bit of hunger the first few times I fasted. Do 16 hours of fasting and 8 hours of eating and you'll start to lose weight very quickly. Plus, it's healthy, unlike what common sense tells us.

    Last meal at 5pm, then first meal at 9am the next day, that's 16 hours. The results are incredible, really.

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    God's will. That's the most truthful answer, if we accept the question as it was posed.

    However, if we want to concede the existence of separate selves, then we can begin to speculate. I think one of the reasons is that the materialist paradigm is so entrenched that people don't think it possible to find out anything substantial about these matters.

    "It's impossible to know", "How does any of that help me with my life?" would probably be some of the objections. And these are fair objections, on the face of it. Considering what we are taught about the world, it doesn't seem like a proper use of our time.

    Anyway, that's just speculation. The answer is God's will.

  8. Posted

    "You are imagining X" implies duality. There is a you and an object X that is being imagined. That's not truth.

    That's also why imagination is not a good pointer, it immediately creates duality by implying the existence of an imaginer apart from what's being imagined.

    Anyway, this is just being pedantic, because I agree with @Space , this is not something to understand logically - in fact, it defies logic altogether, it isn't logical. Truth has to be directly realized.

  10. Posted

    Male-biased opinion here.

    From my perspective, when I'm with a woman I want her to be with me for me. Not for what I can give her or what I can do for her. Women can sometimes start to take for granted that we pay for stuff - I've seen it happen - so I pay for stuff when I actually feel like it and not just because it's expected of me. Indeed, if she just expects it to happen, I will lose the will to do it.

    In your particular case, he seems to be taking it a tad too far, but I think this - my previous paragraph - is where it's coming from.

    35 minutes ago, AliceK said:

    His attitude really affects how I see him and it turns me off a lot.

    However, this is happening. It's turning you off.

    36 minutes ago, AliceK said:

    I actually like the idea of a husband earning some more money than me so that he can afford to take me on a trip or something like that.

    And this is where you would lose me. This is a huge turn off for me. Mind you, it's not like that for all guys, not at all. But like I said, I still have this notion that a woman will like me despite what I can or can't give her or do for her. Naive, perhaps, but that's where I'm coming from and maybe that's where your boyfriend is coming from too. Or not, obviously I don't know.

    Where does that leave you? You will have to bring it up with him, because it's bothering you and it won't just go away. Maybe he'll see it your way and change. Maybe not...

  11. Posted

    You are ripe for true spirituality.

    Not what you see on this forum, with all the conceptualizing, but an honest investigation of who or what you truly are.

    All I can say is that if you do this with all your heart, it will be worth it and suffering will be seen for what it is, an illusion. You will be able to transcend it for good. Don't believe me, just be open to the possibility. Good luck.

  15. Posted

    14 minutes ago, hyruga said:

    Dude it is in the other forum's guidelines.

    You are the one who don't know anything. 

     

     

     

     

     

    It is on this forum's guidelines as well, and yet so-called self-promotion (sharing your own content) is allowed to take place when it's clear that the member is not spamming and offers value on a regular basis. Which I think makes a lot of sense.

    I assume it's the same on the other forum.

    I'm done talking about this, it's not something I want to occupy my mind with.

  17. Posted

    3 minutes ago, hyruga said:

    Solicitation.

    Misuse of messaging, such as self promotion, or marketing & advertising.

     

     He’s also been marketing and soliciting his website and coaching business for years.

    This is highly debatable. Lots of people share their own videos from their own channels here - including mods, which I think is great. He was one of those people. 

    Again, if that isn't allowed to take place on the other forum, it will be hypocritical, there's no question about it.

    Not sure if that's the case though.

  18. Posted

    2 hours ago, FlyingLotus said:

    If you look at the Guidelines for Nahm’s plagiarized forum it says:

     

    What Is Not Allowed On This Forum

    Recruiting member for chat-groups outside the forum.  (Nahm misspelled member here)

    Solicitation.

    Misuse of messaging, such as self promotion, or marketing & advertising.

     

    So Nahm thinks it’s wrong to recruit members for chat-groups outside a forum, unless Nahm’s the one doing it to Actualized.org.

    Chat-groups likely means whatsapp or discord - things of that nature, not other forums.

    If it did/does mean other forums, I would agree with you, that would be hypocritical.

  20. Posted

    1 hour ago, KingCrimson said:

    If infinity exists, then every possibility exists. Everything that can happen, will happen, in every way possible.

    Notice that, with this premise, you are limiting infinity.

    Infinity doesn't mean that everything that can happen will happen. That would be a limit, and infinity is absolutely free. It doesn't have to be anything, but it can be anything.

  21. Posted

    4 minutes ago, PataFoiFoi said:

    Why wouldnt God dream a blissful happier life for its beings. And also God dreams war, torture etc for people (maybe masochists) who want to experience it. This would be a win-win situation.

    These are just thoughts.

    "God doesn't know suffering." It's only the (illusory) separate self that imagines, through thought, that there are beings suffering. That there is anything really happening to a being or a person.

    Watch the video again :)