Dragos

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    My question about is how can I maximize my reading speed and comprehension without missing any important information.

    I saw years ago and even recently a lot of entrepeneurs, youtubers, etc. saying that they read several books a week, sometimes a day. And then they say that actually they didn't really read the entire book they just skimmed through it and got the essential.lol 

    So you going to hear from them 60- 70 books in few months. But there's others like Ken Wilber who said in one of his books that he read 2-3 books a day when he really stared to study spirituality, but that was a really strong desire for a specific purpose and really I think he's really on a diffrent level then most humans.

    I think that reading one or few books a week is doable, I just never understood how can speed reading work for me so I didn't do it, I just read at a slow pace but it always takes a while till I get traction and in short time I get tired and lose interest. Does any of you have any 'ritual' before you start reading, you talk to yourself at a certain point when you read to focus more, you do a concentration practice, affirmation of intention or something like this?

    And regarding learning, I want to learn two languages and how to aquire their accents but everything that I tried doesn't seem to work... I forget words, I lose interest, at times is too overwhelming, reminds me of academia too much. Has any of you learned a language and mastered it, accent wise too, to the point that a native wouldn't even think that they're foreign.  I learned english in a passive manner, I never thought that I could learn it, i didn't even noticed that I could speak it until I started to talk to myself in english(it was weird). I mostly learned from watching tv shows, movies, reading here and there, listening to music but never atually bothered to learn it in an active continous way words grammar etc reminded me of boring french classes. Also a lot of people all over  internet recommend to stay away from grammar, you'll aquire it in time. And it's kinda true but it took me years with english, and I want to shorten the time of learning and actually have a deepre understanding of language.    Thanks for your time ?❤️

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    On 4/27/2020 at 0:49 PM, Michael569 said:

    There is absolutely no benefit to drinking alcohol whatsoever. A lot of people still believe that red wine is somehow healthy. This is tragic marketing implantation in the minds of the young who are trying to excuse their functional alcoholism. Alcohol is a neurotoxin and a carcinogen. It pulls nutrients from your body, it depletes glutathione and other antioxidants, it messes up with blood sugar balance, damages your arteries and hormonal balance. 

    Whatever problem anyone has they claim alcohol helps to "solve" they are deluding themselves and this will bite them in the ass one day. 

     

    Exactly, I remember 5 years there was a study that was presented on tv where they said that res wine is in fact beneficail at least a glass a day. And even at that time  I was thinking it is nuts that they actually put this in the news like they revealed that wine is actually a potion that helps us, lol.

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    On 4/25/2020 at 5:24 PM, Saupahar said:

    It is said that drinking alcohol takes you into the state of lower consciousness than you normally are. So i am worried that even if i drink occasionally it might take me to the lower states of consciousness. I am really focused on my self development. In the past i have drank a lot and have really bad experiences and good ones too at that moment. And now i have sometimes have to face peer pressure and also want to drink socially but i am afraid  that it will be bad for me. I don't  know if i will drink next time or not and, if i drink,i wonder if it hampers my personal growth,and all the work i am doing for it will go into vain-not completely but may be negate some of the progress i have had till now.

    This is basically what I think too. I don't think it will affect your growth if you drink here and there, but I just don't want to identify with that, and also my body doesn't tolerate it much, I don't think is made for it. I'll probably have to drink for a long period of time to build up some tolerance and that i will not do.

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    On 4/25/2020 at 5:18 AM, Serotoninluv said:

    My drinking interfered in my life when I was younger. My last drink was in 1992 and I never missed it. There is so much more in life to do. Plus, alcohol reduces consciousness. If I’m at an event, like a concert, with people drinking and feeling loose, I may take a low dose psychedelic or edible cannabis to spice things up. Alcohol doesn’t resonate with me anymore. 

    Wow! And you we're never tempted to drink at any event in any circumstance? For me the thing that bothers my mind is that i'll find a person or a group of people  or a party in my life that have a certain vibe about them and make me think ,why bother with not drinking, so silly, like they having fun they're good right, why not start now?'

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    On 4/25/2020 at 5:07 AM, modmyth said:

    @Dragos  Yea, I've gotten that before when I was younger as well, even when I would have the occasional drink. I would explain to people that I don't like drinking because I'm alcohol intolerant or allergic (not sure which one it is). Basically I experience all of the effects of a hangover almost right away, if I don't just throw up right immediately, and I explain that my mom is the same way. And for whatever reason, people don't usually believe it. People react like I'm telling them about some magical fairy unicorn condition, haha. And I've been told it's weird that I don't drink as well, and not just from guys who are trying to get me tanked.

    If everyone experienced all the negative effects of drinking right away, not one would drink, probably.

    And do you still drink now, how do people react when you explain yourself now? Must be harder for a girl, right? Guys can be persistent :).

    Yea, I was never really interested in drinking so for me it was and still is weird that people find it so necesarry in their life and nothing wrong about it.

    I don't think so, I knew few people who experience hangover that lasted for few days, still, they found reasons to drink again.

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    On 4/25/2020 at 4:09 AM, Keyhole said:

    If you can handle it, having a few drinks here and there is fine.  Everything in moderation.
    I don't drink anymore personally because I can't handle it and end up overdoing it.

    I can handle it but rather just not do it althogheter for the rest of my life. Although who knows what awaits for them in life, if I can pull this off without in a natural way as I did till now  i'd be at peace with myself.

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    On 4/25/2020 at 4:22 AM, TrynaBeTurquoise said:

    That wavy feeling and being a social lubricant with others who you might be kind of uncomfortable around otherwise does feel really good, no doubt. For me, what buffers me from drinking (I pretty much never drink, ever) is that I can acutely feel the negative after-effects from it, even if its just one or 2 drinks, and that alone makes it not worth it for me. Feeling such as lethargy/headache. Especially since drinking is an evening/night time thing, and doing it then negatively affects sleep quality. I'm a person who values the shit out of my sleep quality probably more than most people. But definitely some situations present themselves in life where I would indulge, and when it is one of those times I can feel it in my gut. 

    I wake up very early and have a lot of energy after a night of drinking, stange, and I personally dont have negative after-effect. I can't even remember having a strong lasting hangover, but I did notice that when I have a negative thought as i was drunk Iit would attach and stayed with me for a while and that made my experience shitty.

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    On 4/25/2020 at 3:09 AM, LfcCharlie4 said:

    @Dragos I completely get you man I too have an addictive personality, hence why I just never allow myself to drink at home, and I don’t want to tbh, I just drink when out with friends for some fun, but haven’t for a few months now and am not bothered, if I never went out clubbing / to a pub with my friends, I’d never drink again I doubt, no need! 
     

    I would say find what’s right for you and go with it. 
     

    Some people can drink once and then forget about it for weeks or all week and drink again, whereas, for some it takes over their mind- just like for Brian Rose of London real, and if you’re like that don’t drink, it’s as simple as that. 
     

    That’s how I am with junk food and Porn so I just cut them out completely, most of us have things we just can’t use sensibly. 

    Yea, I think all of us have some things that we use as a crutch or simply are more drawn to them then other things. For me is junk food and music.

    I remeber seeing few episodes of Brian's podcast 2 or 3 years ago, and I remember he talked about his struggle, I forgot about him, i'll rewatch to see what's new.

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    3 minutes ago, LfcCharlie4 said:

    Yeah I wouldn’t recommend making drinking a daily thing or anything like that, if you’re young and want to have a drink when you’re out with your friends here and there don’t sweat it too much, I do, and I don’t overthink it. 
     

    I just have the rule to never drink in the house, it’s something Professor Nutt covers, alcohol is great for social events in moderation, if you prepare and have a hangover cure etc (you can get decent antioxidants pills and stuff) the problems come when every night you get home from work you’re having a beer and then a takeaway etc, it can spiral pretty quick, I’ve seen it with my friends. 
     

    So, just use alcohol like any other tool, to have fun when out socialising and enjoy yourself, there’s plenty of reading on what you can do before and after to minimise damage, and if it’s only 1 time a week or fortnight or month etc, I wouldn’t stress too much. 
     

     

    I thought about it in this way too, but i just visualised myself getting too cozy with the substance and and use it too  frequently. I drank probably 30 somenthing times just by myself listening too music, and I enjoyed more I guess or it was just different, it was more contemplative mind state I savour it in a different way. But I find that I can't do more than two glasses of anything expept beer, but I don't like it at all. I get very very sleepy.

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    1 hour ago, TrynaBeTurquoise said:

    All that fear of missing out of not drinking is cultural indoctrination and an illusion. You were literally programmed to believe that through movies, TV shows, advertisements, and other people bought into that as opposed to being an original idea.

    Ask yourself: Are you striving to be an average person? Because thats what the average person does, drinks and parties a lot, destroys their body and shuts down their capacity for consciousness. If you have a drink here and there it isn't going to harm your body that much, but crossing the line of  sub-optimal liver health or even liver dysfunction takes a lot fewer drinks than people think and are led to believe. 

    If you have a desire to do it, then do it and learn for yourself which is ultimately the best teacher. But if you don't want to, don't let peer pressure to conform make you drink. 

    Thank you. This is what I think about it too. I understand the wavy feeling that you get especially if its accompanied by good music and good people, but I don't see it as something that i'll do on a constant basis or even occasionaly. It doesn't represent me.

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    Hi, my question is, should I avoid alcohol my whole life. I'm 22 and i've drank around 50 times till now, it never appealed to me this drinking life let alone smoking cigarettes or weed, I simply never cared. But most people even open-minded ones, even my parents and they don't drink think that me not drinking at least at this age is odd. And there's been situations (parties or just specific people) that would almost make me rethink the whole thing. And most of the time is not persuasion per se, its just the vibe that kinda lures me into it. Sometimes I alomst feel bad, as if i'm missing someting that later in my life I can't experience not quite like when i'm in my twenties, but also i'm a sensible, romantic person and I can see how this can go south. I've seen what it does to people in the long run, even with moderate consumption, and they we're more grounded and logical minded then me and still they romanticized this substance and made it apart of their life.

    I don't know, maybe i'm wrong or something, I don't need an excuse to drink or something like that just a new perspective on it and a feedback on how I think about it. 

    Thanks ??